Forum Topics

Taking compliments

Well i just thought of this after replying to Lilio's comment on -->

I get a little awkward - do a little smile and nod (Smile and Wave Boys, Smile and Wave! - anyone feel like guessing where that's from?) or if it's someone i know properly, i do an exaggurated I KNOW *GRINNN*.. grin!

I do love giving out compliments to other people though!

What do you do when someone compliments you?

How to control your anger

My nephew pulled out my keys (on this laptop), the 'A','S','3','4' have all been removed - so I'm pressing the sort of rubber button thing underneath. Anyway, i told him off and then stomped upstairs and shut the room door. Now i feel pretty bad.

The question is not whether i was right or wrong about telling him off but rather when someone is angry, how do they go about controlling it?

The only way i know is by sitting if standing, laying down if sitting etc (as the Hadith of the Prophet).

Does anyone know of other ways?

Keeping in mind that in the heat of the moment things are not always as simple as ABC.



Types of CVs saved on my desktop:

The first is a CV with a list of P/T work (and now F/T) - mainly retail - and includes my main e-mail address.

The second is a Education based one - where i include all the experience within schools and with children -and includes my main e-mail address.

Then i have a copy of both of these under a different e-mail address.

Anyway the reason i'm here is:

On the education CV - since i have a gap between the experiences - do i fill these up with retail jobs? and if so I'm currently employed under two sectors - retail and educational - do i put down the retail as well?

I don't usually have a problem with my CVs but it seems all too fiddly now, sigh.

Mean Girls

I've been thinking, a lot people are, well, pretty mean to one another, to say the least.

Why is this exactly? When we're told time and time again that we should be just with each other, love each other, live as brothers (and sisters)?

As Muslims we have a responsibility not to make people feel low about themselves, we should help one another grow, progress - should we not?

I get that we use sarcasm (i do anyway) but there's a line that a person shouldn't cross - you don't purposely make someone feel inferior.

'O Believers! Let No Man Mock Another Man, Who May Perhaps Be better Than He'
[Surah 49: Ayah 11]

HOW to Earn Respect.

Branching off TPOS (Pron: Tee-Puh-Oss) [

I found that a lot of people started saying that Respect needs to be earned (or the opposite) but how do we earn respect? Do we have to do something specific and if so how long do we wait until respect is naturally associated with the person?

Wearing Perfume

Abu Musa al-Ash’ari said:

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings of Allah be upon him) said:

“Any woman who puts on perfume then passes by people so that they can smell her fragrance, is an adulteress.”

So women shouldn't wear perfume (outside the home or except for her husband) because it can stimulate male desires, attract them to the woman etc BUT what about men who wear cologne? Does that not excite female desires in the same way, is it not the same thing?

Another thing. What about attar (for both men and women)?