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What I learned 22/7/12

I was looking up further to the "smelly breath" post re the brushing of teeth during the day and I learned:

We ARE allowed to use toothpaste during the day while fasting as long as the toothpaste and it's taste stay out of the throat.

Also - the fast only breaks from bleeding gums if the blood overwhelms the saliva and gets to the throat. If this does not happen and there is only a little bit of blood, your fast is not affected.

What I learned 20/7/12

I've just been told:

"After praying the 4 Rakah of taraweeh ppl recite Dua like..
(Subhana ZilMulki wal Malakuti, Subhana ZilIzzati wal Azmati...)
It is not not proven from any authentic Sunnah of our Prophet (salallahu allahi wasalam) that this is a MUST. The rest time after 4 rakats if for having a breather and refreshing vuzoo etc"

Has anyone else heard of this? Is it true? I always done this dua in my taraweeh namaz thinking it's part of the namaz and namaz won't be accepted without this. Have I been wrong or all these years or is this info wrong?

Magic in the house

My first memory of the unexplained magic goings on I have is when I was just six years old.

We had a breakfast bowl, it was like a football cut in half. I really like it. It had been acquired by collecting tokens from Corn Flakes boxes. I only ever ate breakfast from this bowl.

It was a weekend. Saturday morning. I was the first one up as usual. It won’t be until half a decade later that I’ll realise there’s no glory in waking early and start to have a few lie-ins.

I went to the kitchen, got the bowl from bottom drawer, got the Corn Flakes from the breakfast bar, got the milk from the fridge, sat on the stool at the breakfast bar and began eating.

Who's Polite?

I had just finished serving a regular customer. A local builder who had been using our garage since before I started there four year earlier.

"Yeah, I'm off to that nightmare project again. It's a load of b0110ck5 really. They should get shot for treating me this way but hey ho life goes on right? I'll learn from this and never take on a job from t0553r5 in big houses again" He called over his shoulder as he walked out of the shop.

"How ignorant !!!" Jan began, "He's so impolite. Never says Please, or Thank You. Always going on about his jobs. I was raised to always say Please and Thank You."

Now and Then

Right now, I feel like I only have two days to go. I feel that in two days, I won't be able to eat and drink during the day so I should make the most of it now.

I wonder if I'll feel like that in 30 days time. Will I be thinking "there's only two days to go so let me grab as much reward as possible"

The Room

I'm sat in the middle of the room.

It is a room, not a warehouse.

Warehouses have those tin roofs, but this hasn't.

This room has a flat roof.

It's not a normal room though, this one has a really high ceiling.

As high as a warehouse, or aeroplane hanger.

But unlike a hanger, this room doesn't have a roller shutter across one of the walls.

All this room has is a small 4ft door.

The ceiling height must have be at least 15 ft.

It's hard to be sure of the height when it's as dark as this in the room.

It's the sort of room where you'd expect to find rats scurrying along the the floor.

But the only sound is my thoughts.

The sound of my thoughts is bouncing off the walls.

Getting involved

I know I still need to do more studying, but I can't start until my wife finishes. If we're both studying at the same time there will be no one to do the chores.

So while I'm not studying, and when I've finished the chores I have some spare time.

I spend some of it with my children. Reading, playing, shouting etc etc...

Then I still have some time left over.

What can I do with this time?

I want to get involved in a project. Something that'll help the community. Help the needy etc etc.

Something that my son cah help with on weekends too, and then in a couple of years my daughter can get involved too. (but only if they want to)

But what? What can I do?

Time for me to get married

So - it's about time I got married.

I found a woman who was willing to take me regardless of the mess I was.

So, I went to her to get married. Arranged everything (food, guests outfits etc etc)

Then came the day of the Nikkah. The Imam said "How much "Haq Mehr" you putting down?"

I thought "You what? what's one of those?"

So my dad said the amount while I still wondered what this was.

Sheepishly I asked "What is the Haq Mehr?"

So the Imam began to explain "It's a payment that a man makes to his wife before the Nikkah. It's purpose is to protect the woman. So that she has something to fall back on if the marriage fails. So she can get by for a bit until she sorts stuff out."

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