What do you think of widowers who remarry after their wives have died simply because they don't want to get their hands out their pockets and raise their kids. They think its a womans job, i can't or i won't do it?
I bring this up because it often occurs within my community, and its happened twice under severe circumstances, and quite recently. In both cases the women were very young and terminally ill with cancer, leaving behind very young children, infants.
Considering the government fully support single parents and widows/widowers in this country, it's not as if these men couldn't remain at home and raise their infants or older kids alone.
I know islamically there is a waiting period, then the man can go and remarry, but this is a guide, its not a must. There's something sickening about it to me. I find it lacking complete compassion and love for the wife who has just passed and the kids in question. I mean is it too much to ask these men to at least appear to be mourning their wives and giving it at least a year?
Is it right to marry just with the intention that the new wife will be the nanny primarily, thats the purpose of the marriage?
Personally it angers me and disgusts me, i've told my husband if i unexpectedly died i would expect him with the support of my family and his to raise the children. if he wants to remarry give it at least a year, and even then consider the children, never let any woman treat your children like second class citizens. I've seen this occur a lot, men are so engrossed with their new wives they don't see them mistreating the kids. I do fear this a lot when i think about death.