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Victim Mentality

published by MuslimSister on 20 December, 2005 - 12:57

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I was in a study circle the other day and I asked some aunty to conclude the circle with a dua….after five minutes of “You do it-no YOU do it” she led the dua.

When I heard her dua, I wished I never asked her.

Her entire dua consisted of begging Allah (swt) to “Save us from the Kafir” and to “save us from the conspiracies of the Kafir” “Save us from the enemy” etc etc…. that’s ALL she focused on.

I have never perceived the “kafir” as the enemy. Our biggest enemy is the one that lies within us (Nafs).

Big Boys Don’t Cry

published by MuslimSister on 18 December, 2005 - 20:12

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Is what I said to one of the boys in a school I was working in who was crying his eyes out because the other boys had taken his toys…

I’ve never said this to little girls though.

As Muslims we all try to live our life doing what’s “expected” of us by Islam.

However, as always when it comes to gender issues sometimes things get a bit cloudy.

I agree with the statement that “A Man should be a man and a woman should be a woman”.

However, what exactly are women expected to act like and when do men start acting like women?

How Do You Entertain Guests?

published by MuslimSister on 14 December, 2005 - 13:10

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This is something that I’m not very good at…

Islam stresses the importance of being good hosts.

When people come to my house and I offer then food and they say No…I’ll ask again and if they still say No I’ll leave it.

That’s only cos I know how annoying it is to be forced to eat when you don’t want to eat….But my mum will not let go of a guest until she has forced them to eat (gun on head style)…she’ll empty out her cupboards for guests.

I don’t feel comfortable doing that.

I’m totally fine with entertaining kids/teenagers.

Send The Imams Back To College

published by MuslimSister on 12 December, 2005 - 17:15

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Is this statement offensive?

I don’t think it is. I personally know Imams who are dynamic and charismatic speakers…who returned to college for a year or so to perfect their English.

Allah (swt) says in the Quran "We sent every Messenger speaking the language of his people so that he may explain to them"

Is it wrong to expect your Imam to be clued up with that’s going on?

Is it wrong to expect your Imam to know about the society he is dealing with?

Is it wrong for the Imam to be able to relate and understand the Muslim youth today?

Good Things Come To Those Who Wait

published by MuslimSister on 10 December, 2005 - 22:31

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Human nature desires instant gratification, only few people are prepared to wait, work hard or suffer temporary hardships to get results.

“Patience” (Sabr) is mentioned in the Qur’an almost 90 times.

Patience is needed in worshipping Allah (swt), abstaining from wrong and in the time of hardship.

Some people lack patience in certain things and are strong in others things e.g one may have plenty of patience to stand in prayer all night but no patience when it comes to lowering the gaze.

Are You A User?

published by MuslimSister on 9 December, 2005 - 12:44

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You know you get some people who on most days don’t want to know you but when they need you for help….or need you do something for them they suddenly remember you….And then after you’ve helped them out they do a disappearing act again.

Some people do this unintentionally whilst some don’t even realise that they do this…

It’s SO annoying and wrong.

Most of us are the same when it comes to our relationship with Allah (swt).

Where Do You See Yourself In The Next Ten Years?

published by MuslimSister on 7 December, 2005 - 22:42

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A wise man once said “Inform me of a man’s determination and I’ll tell you what kind of a man he is”.

In other words ones hopes, aims, dreams and ambitions says a LOT about an individual.

Where do you see yourself in the next 10 years? What do you hope to have accomplished by then?

By them most of us should be in our 30's....the peak of life (apparently)

Are pessimistic or optimistic about the future? Is there a difference between aiming high and wishful thinking?

What about where you are NOW in your life, is this what you had envisioned for yourself?

Trust In Allah, But Tie Your Camel

published by MuslimSister on 7 December, 2005 - 13:02

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How much should we trust in Allah (swt)? And how much should we do our bit? And how fatalistic should we be as Muslim?

I know that if I wanted to pass some test I should pray to Allah (swt), revise and then sit the test…that’s “tying your camel”

But sometimes I wonder how much I should “do” and how “fatalistic” I should be..?

Allah (swt) has also said that he “does not change men's condition unless they change their inner selves”.

Inshallah, Subhanallah, Alhumdulilah!

published by MuslimSister on 3 December, 2005 - 15:31

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Is it just me, or are these Islamic terms being misused?

I have noticed sometimes that if one says “Inshallah” which means “God willing”…that really means that they have no intention of doing it (whatever it may be).

I mean, if I ask someone to do something or be somewhere and they say to me “Yeah, definitely!” I know they have every intention of doing it…but when certain people say to me “Inshallah”…I take it as a “No”….

I’ve come across many people who use the term “Inshallah” as a polite way of saying “No” to me. …what’s that all about?

The Niqab In the West

published by MuslimSister on 27 November, 2005 - 15:41

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Rahmanara Chowdhury is a bright, affable woman with a charming laugh and an approachable manner. She is a part-time teacher in Loughborough and, given her friendly disposition, it's not surprising that her subject is communication. What is unexpected is that she teaches teenagers 'interpersonal skills, teamwork, personal development' while dressed in an outfit that conceals her whole body and face, except for the eyes.

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