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Pack Your Bags I’m Taking You to Pakistan…

MuslimSister —

Salaam

It’s been years since I heard my dad say this….but when I was a teenager I used to hear this a lot…

Usually it was when I kept on speaking in English and dad was speaking to me in Urdu…..this used to tick him off but now even he’s given up on trying to teach us Urdu…

Whenever any of us used to go into a strop or acted like a moody, stroppy teenager….we used to hear “That’s it- go upstairs and pack your bags, you’re all going Pakistan”…

Even as a 15year old I never understood this threat…I loved going Pakistan and dad knew this.

Have your parents ever threatened you like this? Or do they use other threats….and have your parents ever actually carried out their threats?

And what exactly is it about Pakistan and discipline? I knew this rebel girl- she was out of control and even used to bring weapons to school…her mum took her to Pakistan and she came back a reformed teenager?!

And another thing, would it be correct to say that the kids back home are a LOT more respectful with their parents then the kids from here are?....I think they are….obviously I cant speak on behalf of every child there however, based on personal experience I’ve been surprised at the high level of blind obedience parents back home receive…why is this?

And what IS the best way to discipline a child? Beating him/her with sticks or giving him/her a light slap now and again only as a last resort?

In my family girls are never physically harmed- regardless of how naughty they are. However, as a last resort dads often may smack their sons….is this fair? (I think it is)

OR are you totally against raising your hands to children? Is shouting at them more then enough? Or do you believe that even shouting is wrong?

What is effective discipline?

Share your thoughts…

Wasalaam

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#248

Angelic (not verified) Sun, 15 Feb 2009 - 16:18

Congrats Irf 🙂

Is your wife-to-be our 21? If so good if not then you need to meet the requirement that both of you are over 21 (but I bet you know that), make sure you take your paper work with you so you can bring your wife-to-be back with you. All the best. May Allah (SWT) make your marriage a very happy one.

Do we get an invite 🙂

So what kind of work u gona do in pak?

#249

You Sun, 15 Feb 2009 - 16:42

BeastI'll take the congratulations.

I'm happy about getting married. It's about time.

k, muchos congrats then.

BeastI may even live in and work in Pk for a while.

can I advise you to run as far and as fast as you can from that place? It be evil.

#250

Beast Sun, 15 Feb 2009 - 17:04

Thankyou for your good wishes.

AngelicCongrats Irf 🙂

Is your wife-to-be our 21? If so good if not then you need to meet the requirement that both of you are over 21 (but I bet you know that), make sure you take your paper work with you so you can bring your wife-to-be back with you. All the best. May Allah (SWT) make your marriage a very happy one.

Do we get an invite 🙂

So what kind of work u gona do in pak?

I'm aware that she has to be 21 before she can come over here. I consulted Sheikh Google before saying yes. The only thing I'm not looking forward to is getting bogged down in paper-work and immigration mumbo jumbo.

I might finish complete a teaching course here and then go to Pk and teach a bit. On the other hand I may be getting into a bit work to do with urban development in Bangladesh - this might transform into something I can work on in Pk. Or I could go to Pk and chill whilst her visa stuff is sorted and come back at the first opportunity. Who knows.

Youcan I advise you to run as far and as fast as you can from that place? It be evil.

We'll we're not gonna help it be less evil if we stay away.

#251

You Sun, 15 Feb 2009 - 17:27

Beast

Youcan I advise you to run as far and as fast as you can from that place? It be evil.

We'll we're not gonna help it be less evil if we stay away.

Or they could fix it themselves?

I meant it more as a joke though - all the best to whatever happens. Inahallah you will have a long happy and successful marriage (and no hiccups before hand either).

#252

Angelic (not verified) Sun, 15 Feb 2009 - 17:38

Beast
I'm aware that she has to be 21 before she can come over here. I consulted Sheikh Google before saying yes. The only thing I'm not looking forward to is getting bogged down in paper-work and immigration mumbo jumbo.

Just get your paper work sorted out prior to leaving, it is stressing, and I know a friend who was going through the same thing, unfortunetley his wife just turned 18 so he has to now wait 3 years.

The immigration stuff is easy as long as you have paper work ready, my hubby was given a decision within a month, I think it takes min 3 months now, so it would be good idea doing some work in pak.

#254

zahira Tue, 17 Feb 2009 - 12:28

lol, i too love going pak i might consider living there later on in life with my parents.
but no my dad has never thretned me. went pak in da summer (2008) it was amazing, only went for 2months bu it was da best summer ave had.
i dont see how a child transforms themselfs afta being sent to pak, you can chill der evn more den u do here lol
and the hitting thing, cant belive parents hit there children cuz ma mum or dad ave neva hit me or evn shoutd at me, if i do sumt rong they sit me down and explain, but its diffrent for ma broz lol dey get da odd smack if they mess with me lol
discipline, wel if we do sumt rong dad talks to uz about it and tries to sort it out so we dont really get punishd or anything
i was reading through the comments and sum1 said da best thing bou pak was shoping, i have to dissagre, yes u can get everything n da bu do u really wana shop in the hot weather i personally hate shopping so i tel ma mum 2 shop 4 me lol
datz enuf now il stop typing lol
by the way xcuse the slang i try and not use it much.
Allah Hafiz x

#257

The Lamp Thu, 19 Feb 2009 - 16:26

If this is what you both want and are happy about it, then.... I'm happy too! Good luck man! You've been a good contributor to The Revival Forums, and I've loved some of the things you've posted, it's helped me alot. Just promise us one thing. After you marry, come on here occasionally, alright? That's all.

All the best! Respect! High five! Shoulder bash!

#259

RashidGhazi Mon, 23 Feb 2009 - 01:28

The LampIf this is what you both want and are happy about it, then.... I'm happy too! Good luck man! You've been a good contributor to The Revival Forums, and I've loved some of the things you've posted, it's helped me alot. Just promise us one thing. After you marry, come on here occasionally, alright? That's all.

All the best! Respect! High five! Shoulder bash!

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#260

TPOS Sun, 17 Jan 2010 - 14:19

I'm going in April 🙂

But u have a problem - i told my mum that i can't drink the water from there cuz it makes me ill but she doesn't believe me 🙁

I remember last time i went i drank bottled water but twice i had their water and was ill both times.

But it's gonna be really hot so how am i supposed to keep the bottled water cool :S

I suppose i'll have to live on coke for two weeks, which isn't hard at all, for me, but i do know its bad for me lol

#261

sephy (not verified) Sun, 17 Jan 2010 - 17:57

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcEI'm going in April 🙂

But u have a problem - i told my mum that i can't drink the water from there cuz it makes me ill but she doesn't believe me 🙁

I remember last time i went i drank bottled water but twice i had their water and was ill both times.

But it's gonna be really hot so how am i supposed to keep the bottled water cool :S

I suppose i'll have to live on coke for two weeks, which isn't hard at all, for me, but i do know its bad for me lol

No u pilac! U only drink bottled water. But then again u still cant trust it. So thats why ur supposed to get someone to boil it first. And then wait for it to cool before you drink it. Wack it in the fridge.

#262

TPOS Sun, 17 Jan 2010 - 23:22

sephy

No u pilac!

😂

sephy U only drink bottled water. But then again u still cant trust it. So thats why ur supposed to get someone to boil it first. And then wait for it to cool before you drink it. Wack it in the fridge.

boiled water is narsty
and the electricity goes off...

#263

Suhail (not verified) Mon, 18 Jan 2010 - 00:48

yh we use bottled water for the little kids and boil it before use ....i just drink the tap water because its tested to be safe...but who drinks water in backhome ....its coke,pepsi,7up and miranda 24/7 lol ...the shops in most cases have generators to keep fridges rockin so shud get cool drinks all the time....hot in april...wait till u go in july/august ... its unbearable lol

#265

Suhail (not verified) Mon, 18 Jan 2010 - 00:53

zahiralol, i too love going pak i might consider living there later on in life with my parents.
but no my dad has never thretned me. went pak in da summer (2008) it was amazing, only went for 2months bu it was da best summer ave had.

agreed, Pakistan rocks =D lol i might consider stayin there for some time aswel later in life. cant wait till this summer wen i go again inshAllah =D =D

#266

You Mon, 18 Jan 2010 - 00:58

You can get water filters in the houses too...

I doubt I drank bottled water when I went there a century or more ago...

...and the idea of sticking to bottled water seems all poncy and pretentious. If it don't kill the locals...

... people sometimes get ill and it is easy to blame one thing or other.

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