Pack Your Bags I’m Taking You to Pakistan…
Salaam
It’s been years since I heard my dad say this….but when I was a teenager I used to hear this a lot…
Usually it was when I kept on speaking in English and dad was speaking to me in Urdu…..this used to tick him off but now even he’s given up on trying to teach us Urdu…
Whenever any of us used to go into a strop or acted like a moody, stroppy teenager….we used to hear “That’s it- go upstairs and pack your bags, you’re all going Pakistan”…
Even as a 15year old I never understood this threat…I loved going Pakistan and dad knew this.
Have your parents ever threatened you like this? Or do they use other threats….and have your parents ever actually carried out their threats?
And what exactly is it about Pakistan and discipline? I knew this rebel girl- she was out of control and even used to bring weapons to school…her mum took her to Pakistan and she came back a reformed teenager?!
And another thing, would it be correct to say that the kids back home are a LOT more respectful with their parents then the kids from here are?....I think they are….obviously I cant speak on behalf of every child there however, based on personal experience I’ve been surprised at the high level of blind obedience parents back home receive…why is this?
And what IS the best way to discipline a child? Beating him/her with sticks or giving him/her a light slap now and again only as a last resort?
In my family girls are never physically harmed- regardless of how naughty they are. However, as a last resort dads often may smack their sons….is this fair? (I think it is)
OR are you totally against raising your hands to children? Is shouting at them more then enough? Or do you believe that even shouting is wrong?
What is effective discipline?
Share your thoughts…
Wasalaam
271 comments
*DUST* Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 16:46
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err, guys... u might want to take this discussion to another thread...?
latifah Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 17:17
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I know it’s a generalisation - and I don’t mean you personally - but Pakistanis are quite nationalistic, just think how many wave around national flags at Eid. Now if the horrific events of 1971 were well known by Pakistanis perhaps the nationalism would not be so stark.
Pakistani governments have covered up the tragic events and most pakistani's appear to be totally oblivious to this genocide, which fuels nationalism. The only way to counter this is educating people about what happened and making sure it can never occur again. That means talking about it rather than ignoring it, Pakistan admitting guilt and putting the guilty on trial.
latifah Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 17:47
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Education is very important thing but so is justice and without the guilty paying for their crimes the animosity will not go away. In Bosnia the main problem is that people guilty of terrible crimes are walking the streets with no danger of arrest,, which is similar to the case of Pakistani soldiers who have never faced any penalty for their shocking behaviour.
There will always be people who refuse to believe their own kind would do anything wrong, Serbia has a lot of those people.
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/4741682.stm
http://news.bbc.co.uk/1/hi/world/europe/4731646.stm
http://www.bosnia.org.uk/bosrep/report_format.cfm?articleid=3027&report…
It's hard to forgive people who deny any crimes and call the victims a bunch of liars.
But things have imporved in Bosnia alot and their are some signs of improvment so I hope the next few generations will be able to move on. Hope lies in the youth, and their marriages.
Dave Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 17:59
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Those articles are disquieting. Especially the one about the "Great Man" being honored by an entire village. I don't know if this is the case with the Balkans but here I noticed there is a direct correlation between the Klan and location. In the major cities of the South they are pariahs - and are absolutely no welcome... but when you move out into these extremely secluded little villages they have their rallies in town hall. Not so much in the Carolinas - but Alabama through Mississippi and Louisianna it's not uncommon to see townspeople celebrating murderers who walk completely free.
We haven't been able to find a way around that - mostly because people are too afraid to go in and set them straight.
What gets me is we're watching it happen in the Balkans, we have NATO and UN troops on the ground as well as an army of reporters telling us this and nothing is happening. It seems like they think "oh well arrest him put him on trial and these villagers will see it our way" - unless I misread... they aren't actually doing anything about this village are they?
yuit Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 18:03
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I don't know, where nationalism is concern it hard to educate people. These people can and will find justification for any action for poltical gain. Because whatever has happen in the past between Bengaldesh and Pakistan, their always remain some type of bond between the people and that has come from Islam. It my personal opinion only by streghtening this bond which hopefully in the long run will eraducate nationalism can will stop this type of genocide again.
Dave Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 18:12
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All ships are sailing in the same direction... Shazan and Latifah aren't saying this to divide Pakistanis and Bengalis. They are saying that in order for healing to occur between the two Pakistan must show a commitment to brotherhood - by recognizing its mideeds and bringing those culpable to prosecution.
This is genocide... not a gaffe and its easy to see why Bengalis would find offense at the idea they should just forget it for the sake of the muslim brotherhood so inhumanly denied to them in the first place. Especially when an apology and positive steps to demonstrate the bond of brotherhood still exists are so easy to accomplish.
It's not so much to ask Pakistan to admit this was genocide - apologize and diligently pursue those responsible.
yuit Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 18:27
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True but if you look at poltically in Pakistan. You realise there is little people can do, you first need to have a government and a figurehead represented by the people, before anything can be done, plus while you got a president who in charge of the miltary as well as the country there ain't much room to do anything.
It my thinking with the present generation who the majority don't know anything about being pakistani or Bengali or it past it better to build bridges on the grounds of a common understanding so the root of nationalism don't come into existence, in this case being Islam.
Dave Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 18:36
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lol i'm out of my element. I am neither Pakistani nor Bengali and i'm certainly not a muslim. So I have no business talking about muslim brotherhood, or how Pakistanis and Bengalis interact.
But genocide concerns me - as much as anyone else. And while I certainly differ to your knowledge of Islam and the politics of Pakistan, I will say that traditionally crimes only truly disappear when one party accepts guilt and another party then extends forgiveness.
Otherwise the phantom of hatred will simply hide in the walls for a little while and surface when it's not expected.
So for what it's worth, and eschewing the various religious and political implications of Shazan and Latifah's position, they still hold the day from the angle of fundamental Justice.
*DUST* Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 20:07
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or not... 😛
Dave Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 20:11
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Sorry, I tried if it's any consolation.
But just before I posted my thread I thought it was slightly disrespectful to just call it "Genocide" and lump the topics into one big thread.
So I thought about dividing it into the 3 different cultural hate crimes we were talking about... but I didn't think that Southern Racism would recieve much interest, the Bengali thread went sour last time and I didn't want to burden Latifah with a Balkans thread again.
Perhaps the mods can best determined what to do here.
You Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 20:44
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Just to sour this topica little more...
Does anyone know what was the ethnicity of the Pakistan Army in East Pakistan before the breakup?
I have recently come across some info which sugests Pakistan started rotation of armed forces AFTER the breakup of Pakistan. before, most of the forces patrolled their localities.
Some of the armed forces were complicit in the breakup of Bangladesh from pakistan, so rotation, and mixing was started.
So anyone know?
(The leadership would still be to blame either way)
MuslimSisLilSis Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 22:11
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:?:
when u speak of "pakistan" who do u mean?
the average ignorant Paki of the street? the paki elders? the Paki PM or the Paki goverment?
Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 22:35
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Whatever definition I give, I will be condemned as a racist.
MuslimSisLilSis Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 22:38
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dont assume
and IMO ur not a racist
-i'd be quick to condemn a nation/culture or even an entire gender based on the ruthless actions of a few frm the group
its also somwhat understandable how ALL muslims are considered terrorists
like i said-i understand ur sentiments
Dave Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 22:39
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Well this is going to be interesting
Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 22:43
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Read up a little more on the tragic events of 1971 and make your own mind up- member’s of this forum have admitted to me the inferior complexity issue between Bengalis and Pakistani still exist today.
MuslimSisLilSis Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 22:48
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what wud that change?
the first time i heard about this tragic event is frm u-I don't know u but since u feel so passionatly about it-
I believe what u say
I, as a Paki know that SOME paki's AND bengali's have an inferiority complex
but personally have not encountered Pakis' looking down at benagli's
but i accpet that it may happen
and like i said before-if u do hate all Paki's cos of the past
i wudnt blame u
Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 22:57
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Unless I come across those pusillanimous characters who forefathers and fathers served in the Pakistan Army and more specifically in Bangladesh- you have your answer.
and Pakistani call me Bengali and Bengali’s call me Pakistani
yuit Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 22:57
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To be honest, i was reading the thread starting on the subject and what i read was alot of people, not letting the past become a issue for today, both Bengali's and Pakistani's. Yes there is some conflict that exist in the elder. The younger lot are conflicting more on the street reputation level, not nationality IMO. Too be honest alot of people are innocent on the issue and the last thing people need is pumping people up, talking about how Pakistani soldier have been raping their bengali's sister, i personally can not see how that can help the situation. Rap is a horrible thing, but it has affect women of all nationaility, using it for political gain is digusting IMO, not saying u are, just stating a fact.
I say Alhumduillah the genocide issn;t a issue for alot of muslims today and nor should it be. Because i can tell if people let the past stoke up in a fire in their heart, we be back where we were once. It all good asking for justice and i agree it needed, but it has to be directed at the right people.
MuslimSisLilSis Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 22:59
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no i dont have my answer
are u saying that you'd hate or take revenge out on the grandchildren of the people who commited the 1971 atrocities?
Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:01
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Read my post again..............
I wonder what your feeling's would be if Bangladesi massacred millions of Pakistani in Pakistan?
MuslimSisLilSis Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:04
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i don't know.
i don't have a strong emotional attachment with Pakistan
but i do know that I'd hate anyone who hurt my loved ones in anyway.
but my hate would be personal-and directed for e.g I'd never hate the mother of my enemy
yuit Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:05
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I personally would feel it like i would knowing that Bengali have died. Bro you seem the one who seem to have the nationalist tendency from where i standing. Asking for justice is one thing, hating is another.
Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:07
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Your wrong- It's a dead and buried issue concerning Pakistan, even if victims of 1971 don’t get justice in this lifetime which they are fully entitled to- I have enough faith that such savages have only one place in the hereafter.
Tell, what has changed in Pakistan? Their nationalist ideology still calls for the destruction of India and unify Kashmir with Pakistan- sound like 1971 all over.
Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:11
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Nationalist tendency??? Another way of debunking my arguments, why should any God fearing believer shout war crimes or spew out “injustice” at the west, while Pakistan a Muslim country with a Muslim majority is unwilling to prosecute open war criminals
yuit Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:12
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Bro what come of people, only Allah swt knows.
On ur other question as a person who orginate from kashmir, we want justice like anyone esle, but it doesn't include hating a whole group of people or wanted people to pay for yesterday crimes, we more concern with the here and now. .
Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:14
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On the authority of the father of Abu Umamah bib Sahl. The Prophet (pbuh) said:
“Whoever stands by watching a believer being humiliated without helping him, although he is able to do so, Allah will humiliate him in front of everybody on the Day of Judgment”
And
The Prophet Muhammad(saw) has said to us; that "he/she who wakes up in the morning without a concern for his/her fellow brother/sister that person is not a Muslim"
Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:20
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Who is vilifying a whole nation?
Don’t amount speaking the truth about your country bloody history as an attacked on every Pakistani.
Who should be held to account? A QUESTION, which is unanswered in Pakistan
yuit Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:22
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No one trying to debunk ur agrument, at the end of the day your in the right asking for justice, no one is doubting that, all i saying is how by trying to make a whole genration of present pakistani accountable for the act of past generation, is it going to help ur cause? At the end of the day this hadith say it all IMO, i jut showing concern for today muslims as we are brother of each others. U just need to be more careful how u phrase things IMO.
The Prophet Muhammad(saw) has said to us; that "he/she who wakes up in the morning without a concern for his/her fellow brother/sister that person is not a Muslim"
Anonymous (not verified) Thu, 23 Feb 2006 - 23:25
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We are brothers? You feel no animosity towards me? Let’s shake hands and wave a Pakistani flag
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