i know this is another topic thats going to have ppl cussing each other and so forth,but i still wann know your opinions,naj i know you really wanted to ask this question too!

back home i think my whole family does khatams,and those things when a person dies...whats it called?? chalees wa or something like that.
i want to know if its a tradition,wether its allowed or not.
we in UK have been told not to do it,dont know why it's done back home tho.
if its allowed why?? if its not allowed? why??