sexual abuse- a taboo in muslim community?
salaam
This is, especially child abuse, a topic we are writing on in a future issue of The Revival Magazine.
Its an issue which unfortunately is not openly discussed in mosques/ radio discussions/homes etc....
it skind of brushed under the carpet. Its like a massive taboo.
It needs to be raised. It needs to be addressed at all levels/platforms/ people of power and responsibility.
The victims shouldnt feel shame. they have been abused by sick people.
im sure this is an issue that exist across the UK in muslim communities.
does anyone else know of victims or am i over reacting?
is anyone aware of any help /advice/counselling available?
whose job should it be to raise this issue? are we all responsible to protect our young ones from this abuse?
does anyone know of professionsals in this field?
pls do share your views
wasalaam
11 May 2006
2 hours 40 min
I'm sure it happens but I'm not aware of anything.
It is the governments job to protect it from happening in the first place, and when it does happen, the offenders are not punished severely. Some of these sickos get a few years prison sentence. Capital punishment should be reinstated.
Paedophiles, murderers, rapists, armed robbers, basically any serious crime should carry the death sentence. Should also ease the overcrowding situation. Kill two birds with one stone.
19 August 2007
3 hours 39 min
No you're not over reacting. it does happen and if we shut up and put up with it then we're stuffed. This guy said: "The triumph of evil is that good men do nothing."
siad: "There's no taboo in Islam."
And the Prophet Muhammad
Let them belittle you, they win.
But keep your chin up, they fail.
19 August 2007
3 hours 39 min
Remember Stefan Kiszko? Remember the Birmingham Six? Guildford Four? Bridgewater Four? What if we later find out that they're innocent. I went to this Behind Bars conference for Law, Sociology and Psychology students (except I don't do psychology) and there was this guy who was sexually harassed my a naked man. The guy flew into a rage and beat the man up, after realising his mistake he went to call an ambulance. After returning, he found that someone had moved him so he died. What did the jury say? Guilty of murder. Not manslaughter. What did the judge say: 12 years in prison.
Not an anger mangement course.
Don't get me wrong, I think if there's a 100% chance that someone is a serial killer or rapist then I'm in favour of hanging them. But just being tough on crime and not its causes ain't good enough. Some people can't change. Some can, by education and rehab. It works for most people.
Let them belittle you, they win.
But keep your chin up, they fail.
21 November 2006
14 min 52 sec
Let him have it, that's what I say.
Anyway, there's a lovely park next to my work called Lincoln's Inn Fields. Its next to the Royal Courts of Justice.
Its where they used to hang people back in the day.
2∞&➔
11 May 2006
2 hours 40 min
I prefer the Tower of London, where they used to torture and behead people!
people within same house are doing zina to other people in the family. i was involved as well. theres a load of things that you dont talk about to anyone. im only telling this coz its confindential here. when me own bro got married i really fancied his mrs she was very pretty so i couldnt control meself after a few weeks of their marriage. one day forced meself on her. no one was home then. she kept it secret coz she feared me bro would kick her out. this made me more attracted to her so i slept with her many times almost every night when me bro would on night shift. she didnt like it but knew she could not tell anyone. this carried on for about 2 years then i got a job a got me own house and i used to tell her to come over. i used to do it with her in me own home. she didnt like it but had no choice. i stopped it when i got thinking that this is no good i shouldnt be doing this to me own bro. she is happy that i dont touch her no more.
31 March 2008
2 hours 45 min
say woh?
War will never cease until babies begin to come into the world with larger cerebrums and smaller adrenal glands. - (lol)
H. L. Mencken
11 May 2006
2 hours 40 min
Wrong answer. It doesn't matter if she's married to your bro or not. Bottom line is, you shouldn't be doing that to no-one's wife... except yours.
Would you like sleeping with your mum... or perhaps your sister? I wouldn't think so.
I suggest you sincerely repent to Allah (swt) because you should be more worried about His punishment. And also ask your bro's wife to forgive you.
4 April 2006
16 sec
you need to make sincere tawba.
MQI
19 August 2007
3 hours 39 min
Firstly, I want to say that at least you have the guts to admit your fault. By no means, am I congradulating you for what you did! Make no mistake of that! I don't think it was funny, clever, or brave. But what's done is done and moaning about it won't help. Mate, now's your chance to turn your life around, ask Allah and your sister--in-law for forgiveness and prove to them and yourself that you've changed. Can you trust yourself? Until you can prove that to yourself you can't change. It's tough but it's worth it, in the end.
Let them belittle you, they win.
But keep your chin up, they fail.
10 October 2005
2 hours 48 min
IF he is telling the truth i dont know how you lot can be soo calm about it. The skanky F***** has just been raping his sister in law for the past 2 years!!!
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
19 August 2007
3 hours 39 min
I get that but, the skanky father uncle cousin kinger isn't physically here to be used as a punch bag. There's no way we can PROVE that he did it. Don't worry, Allah will judge him. Allah will judge him.
Let them belittle you, they win.
But keep your chin up, they fail.
12 March 2008
4 days 9 hours
oh my god!
i cant believe that he has just calmly admitted to that. if i was his sister-in-law id never forgive him and i think i speek for alot of women too.
thats just disgusting and damn cruel, the poor helpless woman must of been so scared for them torturing years and is probably still frightened that he might do it again when ever he feels the urge.
just sickening.
31 March 2008
2 hours 45 min
can i just say that i really am disgusted at the sister-in-law too! 2YEARS! Honestly! she should hav spoken out the first time he "forced" himself onto her! She should hav ripped him apart literally there n then! it is coz she didnt do anythin intead of keepin it shut that he kept on doin it!....
yh i kno her marriage was on stake but if she truly didnt want it n thot of it as illigitimate (n it was!) then she shud hav spoken out no matter what to stop him n to teach him a lesson for life! i hate it wen women do that... they become vunrable to others in a matter of seconds! if ther's trust b/w the husband n wife i think that this cud hav been solvd there n then ... without affectin her life that much n if worse comes to worse then i think she wud've been pleased to leave that house where no one seems to have respect for the women!
at least she wont b commitin (major) sins either way! she has put herself soooo low that if this opens up now then thats it! she's done for good! (the results cud b devastating!)
War will never cease until babies begin to come into the world with larger cerebrums and smaller adrenal glands. - (lol)
H. L. Mencken
11 May 2006
2 hours 40 min
Typical! Blaming the woman when she gets raped.
You people make me sick... SICK!!!
Anyway, I agree that she could have stopped this from happening in the future if she did something about it instead of keeping quiet.
31 March 2008
2 hours 45 min
who blammed the woman? but u cant really say that she cudnt do anything either! if i do blame something is a woman's nature ... naturally 'inferior' to male population ...
War will never cease until babies begin to come into the world with larger cerebrums and smaller adrenal glands. - (lol)
H. L. Mencken
19 August 2007
3 hours 39 min
It's not like she was dancing trying to get him into bed! He raped her! The only mistake she made was keep quiet about it. Do you honestly think that getting raped is a sin? No one chooses to get raped! Because then that's not rape. All we can do is say to those victims that help is out there and if your family just brush your claims aside then they're the ones with the problems not you. There IS help out there.
Here're a few numbers
Samaritans UK
08457 90 90 90
Childline for children and young people
0800 1111
Help for adults
0808 800 5000
Click on the link for more information
Hope that helps someone
http://www.dontgiveup.me.uk/id23.html
Let them belittle you, they win.
But keep your chin up, they fail.
31 March 2008
2 hours 45 min
no gettin raped isn't a sin but carrying on without doin anything abt it for 2yrs (i still cant believe that figure!) ... unbelievable!
War will never cease until babies begin to come into the world with larger cerebrums and smaller adrenal glands. - (lol)
H. L. Mencken
21 November 2006
14 min 52 sec
You haven't been raped so you don't know how it feels.
You can't comment.
2∞&➔
31 March 2008
2 hours 45 min
well spotted!
War will never cease until babies begin to come into the world with larger cerebrums and smaller adrenal glands. - (lol)
H. L. Mencken
29 April 2008
1 hour 40 min
the donkey has not commented again, i think he was a spammer with gutter thoughts.
10 October 2005
2 hours 48 min
Maybe there was more then her marriage at stake. Maybe she is a woman from back home and fears deportation if she spoke out. As much as i hate to admit this men are physically stronger. So the first time he forced himself on her maybe he was too strong and she couldnt fight him off. Maybe she thought that if i tell my husband what that sicko did to me that he wont believe me an accuse me of having an affair with his brother. After all its the sickos word against hers. Say if the husband does interrogate his bro what if he makes out that she wanted it.
Im making the assumption that she is a woman from back home. There is a lot more at stake (ie deportation, being disowned by her own family) for them in comparison to a British born woman and also no British born would ever put up with that.
The future belongs to those who believe in the beauty of their dreams.
7 February 2006
2 weeks 4 days
Assallamu Allaikum,
With all the respect that you deserve I have to say, Ahmed K, that you are one sick individual.
This is one of the reasons that I don't post on here much anymore, too many wishy washy moderates. And before any one says a thing I know that we should do all things in moderation.
But for a senseless, mindless rapist to come on here and have the blatant audacity to try and ease his conscience with a few less than serious trumpet blasts about being wrong because of his brother, is astounding.
I am by no means a "radicle" but you don't deserve the space that you take up. You have taken advantage of someone that you knew was vulnerable and in no position to be able to defend herself, possibly physically but definately emotionally. She now has to live with that for the rest of her life while you move on with your swollen ego and virtue, in your mind, intact.
I wish your brother would find out and deal with you in the way that I would if that were my wife or sister, but I suppose he would only blame her too.
You are disgusting.
Wassallam.
12 March 2008
4 days 9 hours
well said cofo!
7 February 2006
2 weeks 4 days
Assallamu Allaikum,
With all the respect that you deserve I have to say, Ahmed K, that you are one sick individual.
This is one of the reasons that I don't post on here much anymore, too many wishy washy moderates. And before any one says a thing I know that we should do all things in moderation.
But for a senseless, mindless rapist to come on here and have the blatant audacity to try and ease his conscience with a few less than serious trumpet blasts about being wrong because of his brother, is astounding.
I am by no means a "radicle" but you don't deserve the space that you take up. You have taken advantage of someone that you knew was vulnerable and in no position to be able to defend herself, possibly physically but definately emotionally. She now has to live with that for the rest of her life while you move on with your swollen ego and virtue, in your mind, intact.
I wish your brother did find out and deal with you in the way that I would if that were my sister or wife, but I suppose he would only blame her too.
You are disgusting.
Wassallam.
21 November 2006
14 min 52 sec
you can say THAT again!
2∞&➔
7 February 2006
2 weeks 4 days
Assallamu Allaikum,
Apparently so? I am obviously more angry than even I thought.
Wassallam.
19 August 2007
3 hours 39 min
OK, so what should Ahmed K do to turn his life around? At the moment he's being used as a cyber punch bag, but that's not going to change him. We can't PROVE he's a rapist. So, he needs to sort himself out and repent to Allah. But how?
Let them belittle you, they win.
But keep your chin up, they fail.
12 March 2008
4 days 9 hours
im sorry but to me it feels like he's bragging about it and doesnt seem to show any remorse to what he's done. he dosent just need Allah to punish him he needs the law of this country.
12 March 2008
4 days 9 hours
im sorry but to me it feels like he's bragging about it and doesnt seem to show any remorse to what he's done. he dosent just need Allah to punish him he needs the law of this country.