You Big Fat Liar...
Posted on Sunday, 26th October 2008 @ 11:58am
Ever since i was a kid, i was told to tell the truth. That honesty was the best policy. And lies only begot more lies until your head exploded.
And then i grew up, and found out lies had their place too. For example lying to keep a promise or lying to protect someone. But of course as with all such things its tempting to go a lil too far.
So where should be draw the line? Is it ever okay to tell fibs?
Do you consider it a big or a small sin?
10 October 2005
10 hours 53 min
When i was little me and my siblings you to compete to see who could swallow the most orange seeds (you dont half do some weird things when your kids). Mother dearest saw us doing it and said stop swalling the seeds coz otherwise your gonna have an orange tree growing inside your stomach.
We actually believed her.
Then there was one time when asked mother dearest "where do you babies come from?" Her reply was "well when your asleep at night and your mouth is slightly opened God comes down a and drops a lil ball into your mouth. The ball slides down your throat into the stomach. That then grows into a baby. After 9 months the doctor cuts open the stomach and they take the baby out.
Anyways lying is wrong and we should avoid doing it but sometimes lying can be justified e.g. a husband says to his heavily pregnant wife you look lovely or you say your married when someone is trying to chat you up, lie in order to make someone feel better.
In Islam we are allowed to lie in certain circumstances.
A husband can lie to his wife in order to keep her happy (not sure if it works vice versa), you can lie in order to bring too families or two people who are in conflict with each other together. I think there might be another one but cant remember.
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
28 October 2005
1 week 4 days
Didnt the prophet
say something about it isnt lying if your stoping two muslims from fighting?
People demand freedom of speech to make up for the freedom of thought which they avoid.
25 May 2008
5 days 20 min
could u please cite a source for this
and what sort of lies would they be?
"no honey, of course u dont look fat in that !"
??
= P
10 October 2005
10 hours 53 min
Sahih Muslim Book 32, Number 6303:
The Book of Virtue, Good Manners and Joining of the Ties of Relationship (Kitab Al-Birr was-Salat-I-wa'l-Adab)
Humaid b. 'Abd al-Rahman b. 'Auf reported that his mother Umm Kulthum daughter of 'Uqba b. Abu Mu'ait, and she was one amongst the first emigrants who pledged allegiance to Allah's Apostle (may peace be upon him), as saying that she heard Allah's Messenger (may peace be upon him) as saying: A liar is not one who tries to bring reconciliation amongst people and speaks good (in order to avert dispute), or he conveys good. Ibn Shihab said he did not hear that exemption was granted in anything what the people speak as lie but in three cases: in battle, for bringing reconciliation amongst persons and the narration of the words of the husband to his wife, and the narration of the words of a wife to her husband (in a twisted form in order to bring reconciliation between them).
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
24 June 2005
28 min 7 sec
The thing with lying is that, altho it might be considered a small sin it has the potential to grow. The more you lie the more you get used to it and before you know it your a big fat habitual liar.
Personally i prefer not to lie, unless i can help it and is absolutely necessary.
nosce te ipsum
31 March 2008
4 hours 6 min
Lying should be the eighth deadliest sin! ... Once you taste it, it just lures you ... and then it nearly always leaves you totally messed up and it's a filthy habit!
If you don't want to lie and then you don't want to hurt the otehr person then just stay quiet! (it works for me : ) ... The prophet
asked us not to lie even when joking (the camel example), and it makes sense, cos you knit yourself a ridiculously sticky tangled web!
Think abt it, if you tell the truth, you'll not only please The Divine but you'll be literally placing your trust in Him, and He is the best of the Planners!
8 August 2006
1 day 6 hours
Our teacher at school once told us of the punishment in hell for lying - scissors made of fire chopping your tongue for each lie you gave - imagine hearing that at 8 years old
- no wonder I still remember it today.
Any husband who thinks his wife looks ugly when she is pregnant needs his head sorting.
If anything, she is more beautiful then than any other time of her life.
May Allah shine sweet faith upon you this day and times beyond. May your heart be enriched with peace, and may your home be blessed always. Ameen.
19 August 2007
8 weeks 2 days
Lying is only justified if it's the lesser of the two evils, ie. in war, to get two people talking. I don't think that Hadith meant that a husband can lie about his whereabouts or something unjustified. But generally, lying doesn't help, it destroys friendships and relationships with people. It should be avoided when possible.
Chin up, mate! Life's too short.
24 June 2005
28 min 7 sec
I dunno about MORE beautiful. But it'd be kinda stupid if he did think that, since she didnt get that way on her own and he is partially to blame.
Lol, we were told that too. Our tongues would be cut with scissors made of fire for each lie we told. To be honest i didnt really pay that much attention to such things as i had learnt from an early age parents had a habit of exaggerating.
nosce te ipsum
16 August 2008
3 days 1 hour
Is it o.k to lie out of modesty?
e.g you don't want to fully say yes you do/did such and such...
'Allah gives and forgives
Man gets and forgets' Baba Ali
http://halfDate.com
31 March 2008
4 hours 6 min
Is there a point? cos soon or later, it will be discovered, unless you lie to cover that up to (?)
there is a manner to speech and lying is an easy option, but it just makes teh matters fragile for the moment
10 October 2005
10 hours 53 min
There is a certain glow to a pregnant womans face but that glow is only present when she is in her last semester. The first semester (the morning sickness stage) is pretty bad and it will take its toll on a woman but its understandable if she aint looking her best. I think some men are just fat phobics.
If its what I think it is then the women that tell porkies dont do it out of modesty rather they do it coz they are embarrassed. I cant for the life of me understand that. Whats there to be embarrassed about? They have mothers and sisters do they not?
If you lie about it then they continue to ask questions, if you just come out with it they wont pursue it any further coz they turn bright red.
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
8 August 2006
1 day 6 hours
If a husband wants to keep his nose clean, he'd be best advised to compliment his expectant wife every day of the week. Whether he thinks so or not.
With all those hormones flying around, I'll not be surprised if she throws her bata chappal at him. 
Be brutally honest like that with her at your peril. 
May Allah shine sweet faith upon you this day and times beyond. May your heart be enriched with peace, and may your home be blessed always. Ameen.
29 June 2005
10 weeks 1 day
The truth always sets you free, free as a bird, everyone knows that. it's so much easier to tell the truth even when you think you shouldn't in the end it is always best to do so as lies often get found out even if it takes a lifetime.
25 June 2005
9 hours 20 min
Salam
Good topic Master.
We all like to believe that our friends are
honest to us, and that they would not lie to us.
Now be honest and answer this question:
Suppose you work in an office, and Heidi Klum was your good friend.
You both trust each other.
If you find out that in 2008 Heidi told
you a total of 52 small lies to your questions, would your feelings towards her change?
Would you still trust her in 2009 the same as you did in 2007?
Omrow
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16 August 2008
3 days 1 hour
in that case it isn't what you think it is!
(i hav no idea wot ur on about either!)
'Allah gives and forgives
Man gets and forgets' Baba Ali
http://halfDate.com
24 June 2005
28 min 7 sec
Then you have to question your relationship. No relationship can work based on lies. Bcoz then you dont know who you're friends with. The actual person before you, or the lies they told.
nosce te ipsum
21 November 2006
1 hour 58 min
Someone famous once said (I can't remember who):
"If you always tell the truth, you never have to remember anything."
I like that.
The frown of a friend is better than the smile of a fool.
24 June 2005
28 min 7 sec
Truth is usually the only safe ground to stand on.
nosce te ipsum
31 March 2008
4 hours 6 min
even if the ground's rough and it hurts vertime you step on it with bare feet?
19 August 2007
8 weeks 2 days
Well you can say, "Don't think I'm some big hero,"
Why lie?
Chin up, mate! Life's too short.
24 June 2005
28 min 7 sec
Put some shoes on then.
Its preferable to standing on the slippery slope that lies create.
nosce te ipsum
24 October 2008
1 day 2 hours
But are we honestly protecting someone by keeping the truth from them, or are we just making things more complicated in the long run?
Better to be frank and honest.
Organic
19 August 2007
8 weeks 2 days
Good point! Obviously that doesn't apply to situations where you're protecting someone from the person you're lying to.
Chin up, mate! Life's too short.
21 August 2005
2 days 41 min
That depends on the question you asked her every week.
Gentleness and kindness were never a part of anything except that it made it beautiful, and harshness was never a part of anything except that it made it ugly.
The journey of 1000 miles must begin with a single step.
7 October 2008
1 week 1 hour
I hate telling lies. Bcoz it usually then means ive gotta lie again to cover the first lie.. and it just gets bigger and bigger.
Its easier to suck it up and just tell the truth. Ppl surprise you sometimes when you just tell them the truth.
When life offers you a dream so far beyond any of your expectations, it is not reasonable to grieve when it comes to an end.
21 November 2006
1 hour 58 min
If you REALLY don't want to tell the truth to someone, but are uneasy with lying too, you can always stay quiet/change the subject, and hope they don't ask again.
*note to self: marry someone with a short attention span.*
The frown of a friend is better than the smile of a fool.
30 October 2008
19 min 3 sec
I'm not sure if i can still comment on this blog
but i'm going to anyway XD
I think, as with most things, it's a matter of circumstances
It's all relative
it's like the poll someone made " is it ok to disobey your parents" or something like that
Well as a rule of thumb, No it's not but as usual- there are Exceptions
there are very few rules Islamically(is that a word?) that don't have exceptions...
it's kind of small minded when people just expect to be GIVEN basic rules and told to follow them
there's a reason Allah (swt) gave us the ability to THINK - and i don't know what it is
but one purpose is to be able to decipher right from Wrong
We're given basic rules and the innate knowledge of what's "right" to us and what's "wrong" to us
And i know this is a long winded answer- i'm sorry about that XD
but, As always, Allah knows best
Rawr.
24 October 2008
1 day 2 hours
you've not got a chance in hell of that happening.
Short attention span with everthing but the things you want us to forget.
Organic
19 August 2007
8 weeks 2 days
Now, that's not very nice is it?
Chin up, mate! Life's too short.