adoption

erm well i dont know what islam has to say about adoption, i cant see any harm in it and also, i think its an absolutely great idea alhamdulillah. The Holy Prophet adopted children didnt he? and also I dont know if this is true or not according to Islam, but i cant see the harm in adopting a child that isnt muslim, but as i said i dont know especially if the child is an orphan?

good luck, with that.
Salaam x

I heard a hadith that you would walk hand in hand into jannah with your foster child?

me too! imagine the satisfaction! itl be one of the best things u can do (i think so anyway)

i love hadiths like that, they give me this warm feeling inside, have u got anymore Noor? about the prophet saw and his opinions on children?

Fostering is one of the best, the most generous, and the most caring things you can do in today's society. It leaves everyone and anyone with a sense of self satisfaction that they gave a child the life they desrve, however, it is a BIG, BIG resonsibility to take up, especially if you have you own children. You'll have to maintain the atmosphere equal. BUT it is up there, do you understand what i mean by 'up there'? it's quality stuff people!

Adoption on the other hand, is accepting a child for life (and obviously it depends on the child to stay if they wish to after they turn eighteen) << This is where the real challenge begins for the parents ofcourse, since the 'youngling' can think for her/himself so how far will the parents accept the maturity of that child? and rememebring that they have children of their own, which complicates the situation a bit more!

and like Noor pointed out above, if adopting, the child must keep their biological father's name (the child's surname) and it hurts the person to say, "you didn't even give me your name" to their adopted parents and on the otherside of the room, it kills the parents from inside. Rough stuff people, Maybe it's just me perception (i think it might be )

BUT kicking all that aside, it is one of the bestest of things that you can do... especially if you have the resources to do so... (I absolutely admire child minders- people who take care of your children will you are at work etc., a relief for single parents *thumbs up*) ... I can't believe people with such admiration for children and care by nature exist even today... fascinating!

so yeah give it your best Zahira (and everyone else who has such intentions), and let us know what's hard and what's easy, BUT remembering, all that happens/happened/will happen is due to Allah's will alone!

The thing about fostering is that you can grow really attached to the child so when its time to give them up it must be really hard on the fostering parent. Personally i think its best to adopt but it is really hard esp from abroad (you must have known and developed a bond with the child for a minimum of two years).

how old was zayd ra wen he was adopted by the prophet pbuh?

watering a plant:

There are 10 plant pots in the house, and they all need watering, You look at the most beautiful one and the one with most distinct features or the one that jsut looks liek any old plant... You only have just the ONE watering can filled with water... quick glance at the plants, flick the light off... and water them all one after the other, roughly measuring the time you water each one, so that your perception doesn't casue any harm ... Now who wants to be cruel? if you had the lights on, you'll see your fav plant and water it a lil more out of admiration... which means there's restricted amount of water for the rest, and i think you get the gist

So instead of watering with just the one can, water the plants with both hands and build a well near by and see the plants flourish... only if you have the resources to do so

I know it doesn't ... just trying to confuse everyone!

its an order from Allah swt.

zayd ra was first called zayd bin muhammad and then after the revelation it was changed.

i hear you but saying something is a lil cruel when Allah swt has laid down the law doesn't seem right. 'we hear and we obey' surah nur

true true. But i intend on adopting a girl coz the ppl that do adopt tend to adopt boys and no one bothers with the girls. So that kinda makes it a bit easier

come on that is by far the lamest excuse i have ever heard. If you explain to the child that Islam does not permit you to give them your name and you give that child love and treat it like your own it will not question its name. I dont have my dads name does that mean to say that he doesnt love me?

But your name probably came from your father who when coming in to this country had to make up a surname so it really doesnt have sort of attachment to your family lineage.

yes especially when they come from villages back in the old days they never used surnames they only used nicknames or where they were from, thats why loads of pakistanis have nicknames

i was born in this country with my dads surname.