Why?

wat i dont get is why most guyz are OBSESSED with sex,
wat i dont understand is why muslim TEENAGERZ are obsessed with havin a boyf/girlf
-Whhy dont they jus get married? like propa muslimzz-

i dont get why every person in the world has a need 2 be wanted nd why do muslims alwaiiiz hav buyf/girlf even if they know that it will probably destroy their fam with it ...its jus dumb all the excuses i hav heard are bullshit. the most common excuse i hav heard is "i jus wanted 2 be loved"
thats a bit confusin seeing as your family love u dont ya think?

i think that some ppl are jus thick.

i aint tellin u ppl that 15/16 ppl shuld get married they shuld jus get they're rishtha/nikah done then they can do wateva they want ... OVIOUSLY!

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The need to be wanted was created by God. He created us in pairs for a reason.

There is nothing to get there.

People need to control their urges or get married and fulfil them in a halaal way.

If anyone says to you or tries to justify haraam relationships, hit them with the marriage stick - if they are old enough to date or take part in haraam relationships, they are old enough to get hitched.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

Sapphire Saddique wrote:
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i think that some ppl are jus thick


Lol Love it!

Maybe they DO *just* want to be loved in the intimate kind of way - but if anyone says that to you tell them to get married then!

It can be the lack of Islamic knowledge & understanding along with the people they hang out with, the kind of society around them etc, which makes them do such things. Maybe.

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

Sapphire Saddique wrote:
wat i dont get is why guyz are OBSESSED with sex,
wat i dont understand is why muslim TEENAGERZ are obsessed with havin a boyf/girlf
-Whhy dont they jus get married? like propa muslimzz-

i think that some ppl are jus thick

i thinks the main reason why some people think like that is because of what they see around them, from what they see on TV to what everyone's talking about.

i know there are natural urges to have sexual relationships but it doesn't mean it should be on ones mind 24/7. wherever you look these days sex is advertised in any way you can think of and that's why it can be hard for most people do get it out of their minds.

it is ones own test and duty to stay away from anything that could lead to haram as asd to treat it like a haram act itself. whether that means you sacrificing what you watch on TV to who you hang around with outside, if you think it could lead to haram it should be avoided.

some people just find it harder than others, we each have our own tests. remember this that Allah (SWT) is just and if he was to give you a test you couldn't handle that would be unjust.

Some people are thick i have to agree Smile

may Allah guide us all. Ameen

Lets reunite the ummah under one flag LA ILAHA IL ALLAH MUHAMMADUR RASULULLAH

so yeah...well..you guys..guys and hormones and that.

and yeah, everyone wanna be loved. hence why marriage is a primary goal in anyone's life.

and the cultural pressure of marriage isnt for the youth and all these others stuff that stops people from being able to get married young. they feel its not right and wrong, hence why they dont do it.

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:
Sapphire Saddique wrote:
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i think that some ppl are jus thick


Lol Love it!

Maybe they DO *just* want to be loved in the intimate kind of way - but if anyone says that to you tell them to get married then!

Oh WOW, what a Bright solution!

Tell an immature naturally hormonal 15 year old to 'get married' :roll:

Rawrrs wrote:
ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:
Sapphire Saddique wrote:
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i think that some ppl are jus thick


Lol Love it!

Maybe they DO *just* want to be loved in the intimate kind of way - but if anyone says that to you tell them to get married then!

Oh WOW, what a Bright solution!

Tell an immature naturally hormonal 15 year old to 'get married' :roll:

you never know, might turn out pretty good? maybe not for the first few generations, but hey, arent human adaptable, we'll adapt Wink then we'll have happy families at 20.

disclaimer: i think 15 is too young. 16's alright.

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

They only have to wait a year.

and most people will mature when they need to.

Besides, I doubt it has historically been normal for everyone to wait for their late 20's or more before getting married.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

LOL cbb to explain. Agreed with these two I-m so happy

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

Haha! In my opinion I agree with my mum, she once said to me 'you can like someone, but it doesnt mean you have to do anything about it' and thats got me thinking twice ever since! Mother knows best eh Blum 3

T.

yep, nowt wrong with crushes. as long as you dont act upon them.

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

Getting married at 16 is hardly a blanket solution that you can apply to everyone just because some people mature faster. You have to be stupid not to realise thats not the norm, it's the exception.

Hardly ANYONE is by 24-25 exactly the same as they were when they were 15-16

Telling a 16 year old to get married because they want to have sex is essentially telling them to use women and get into something very many people don't even feel ready for a decade after that age.

#Before you look at the thorns of the rose , look at it's beauty. Before you complain about the heat of the sun , enjoy it's light. Before you complain about the blackness of the night, think of it's peace and quiet... #

People can grow and change as they age, but they can grow together as opposed to alone.

Feeling ready and more is influenced by culture and the people around you. I read somewhere that the average age of people getting married in the UK is currently 29 and I see that as a bad thing - probably worse for Muslims if that becomes the norm for us.

On the other hand, in the non Muslim norm in the UK, people are dating and more by the late teens, sometimes even in long term relationships. Is that really so different? (well, it probably is, but should it be?)

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

You wrote:
People can grow and change as they age, but they can grow together as opposed to alone.

Feeling ready and more is influenced by culture and the people around you. I read somewhere that the average age of people getting married in the UK is currently 29 and I see that as a bad thing - probably worse for Muslims if that becomes the norm for us.

On the other hand, in the non Muslim norm in the UK, people are dating and more by the late teens, sometimes even in long term relationships. Is that really so different? (well, it probably is, but should it be?)

And yeah that is sooo valid because obviously in Muslim countries where they do often get married very young, women are generally treated so amazingly well.
And I didn't say people should get married at 29, I just think it's stupid to say that just because a 14 or 15 year old has sexual urges you just tell them to get married.

And I can't believe I'm having to explain this but the reason why dating is and should be different to marriage is because to most people Marriage is seen as a commitment and (at the time) permanent, whereas dating is temporary or potentially permanent. If marriage was seen as less important or significant then yeah, people probably would get married at 15 just so they could legitimately have sex and then divorce when they realised they werent actually compatible with someone after theirs and the other person changed a little as they grew older and more or less knowledgeable.

#Before you look at the thorns of the rose , look at it's beauty. Before you complain about the heat of the sun , enjoy it's light. Before you complain about the blackness of the night, think of it's peace and quiet... #

MakeMeRawr_8TeenF wrote:
I just think it's stupid to say that just because a 14 or 15 year old has sexual urges you just tell them to get married.

Rawr. euh..no one said that they *seriously* thought that 14/15 years old kids should get married.

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

No one not me.

I dont think they should be expected to then pretend to be 40 year olds though.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

Lilly wrote:
MakeMeRawr_8TeenF wrote:
I just think it's stupid to say that just because a 14 or 15 year old has sexual urges you just tell them to get married.

Rawr. euh..no one said that they *seriously* thought that 14/15 years old kids should get married.

Oh sorry. My mistake for thinking people actually meant what they said.

#Before you look at the thorns of the rose , look at it's beauty. Before you complain about the heat of the sun , enjoy it's light. Before you complain about the blackness of the night, think of it's peace and quiet... #

its not just guys nowadays, its gurls aswell the way theyve started to dress and their parents not saying anything to them. If girls dress in a promiscuous manner then obviously guys are gonna look at ya!!!

i dont really think guys and gurls actually intend to have a boyfrind/gurlfriend i think it just happens.... eg they get too close as friends and then feelings develop...

I think us gurls are the thicker out of the 2 because we believe that a guy is gonna 'love' us and care about us when the truth is that no guy is truly going to love you or care about you other than your husband. No guy nowadays is gonna truly care about you no matter how much he says he does or will do. My advice dont ever have a boyfriend... waste of time and a headache. if your a gurl your just gonna be clouded with thoughts of if your ever gonna marry this guy or not.

MakeMeRawr_8TeenF wrote:
Lilly wrote:
MakeMeRawr_8TeenF wrote:
I just think it's stupid to say that just because a 14 or 15 year old has sexual urges you just tell them to get married.

Rawr. euh..no one said that they *seriously* thought that 14/15 years old kids should get married.

Oh sorry. My mistake for thinking people actually meant what they said.

I did mean what I said.

I do think people should get married young. at 14/15 while not get married, maybe they should be able to think about it properly.. add a few years and get the job done.

Historically people have got married early and we are stil around to testify that it wasn't a total failure.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

I think everyone should get married a early as possible. be it 15 if thy wanna have a boyfriend o gurlfriend then they shud get marrid!

raeesa wrote:
I think everyone should get married a early as possible. be it 15 if thy wanna have a boyfriend o gurlfriend then they shud get marrid!

per-leease..gf/bf and amrriage are TWO COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THINGS!

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

Lilly wrote:
raeesa wrote:
I think everyone should get married a early as possible. be it 15 if thy wanna have a boyfriend o gurlfriend then they shud get marrid!

per-leease..gf/bf and amrriage are TWO COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THINGS!

yh! and TRUST Lilly KNOWS! Lol (or halfway knws anyways...) Blum 3

"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"

Lilly wrote:
raeesa wrote:
I think everyone should get married a early as possible. be it 15 if thy wanna have a boyfriend o gurlfriend then they shud get marrid!

per-leease..gf/bf and amrriage are TWO COMPLETELY DIFFERENT THINGS!

a mean if boys n gurls think theyre old enuf to be goin out with eah other the they should get marrid dont ya think, how well wud they cope if they were ta get married.. Point am tryna make is people are young and dum and they dont know what theyre doin whreas if u were to put em in the 'real' world they wunt hava clue!

similar to what people above have said.

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

I'll be very frank here,

Marriage is very complicated, and men and have sexual needs often way beyond their teenage years even as old as 60 or 70. Though marriage is a solution from staying away from sinning you'd better be rich and handsome to maintain them for a loooooong time. The non muslim way is just more appealing and muslim attitude in modern times has'nt helped much either. The modern world has also promoted self gratification to a high level, variety is the spice of life they say, so use em and dump em is the general attitude out there, marriage is not going to help you here. Getting married is easier said than done...

Oh yeah, one more thing this western liberal world were men and women are treated equally and the one which so many muslim women are in favour of is nothing but a myth, it has turned women into nothing but sexual objects, you have the right to everything but the right to cover yourself i.e wear niqaab.
Imo Men and women are equal in everything but common sense, they play right into the hands of men everytime, we give em a little and STRIP them a LOT!!

If I ever have to kill for something, it would be for, "A woman"
If I ever have to kill something it would have to be, "A woman"

Jack the Ripper wrote:
Oh yeah, one more thing this western liberal world were men and women are treated equally and the one which so many muslim women are in favour of is nothing but a myth, it has turned women into nothing but sexual objects

I suspect that it has far more truth to it than most women are willing to admit.

You don't get women attacked by acid throwers here in the UK, and in much of the Muslim world, I would suspect women get attacked and harrassed on the streets far more than they do here in the UK.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

You wrote:
Jack the Ripper wrote:
Oh yeah, one more thing this western liberal world were men and women are treated equally and the one which so many muslim women are in favour of is nothing but a myth, it has turned women into nothing but sexual objects

I suspect that it has far more truth to it than most women are willing to admit.

You don't get women attacked by acid throwers here in the UK, and in much of the Muslim world, I would suspect women get attacked and harrassed on the streets far more than they do here in the UK.

what you think women being attacked has something to do with wht Ripper said???? im nt toooo sure at wht ur getting at.....

"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"

The general idea that "the west is an illusion,but if you look deeper, people are actually treated worse"... its not true.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

yh i got u now.. it thought u were agreeing with Ripper, but ur point originally seemed contradictory...(or am i still not gettin it???? :oops: )

"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"

I think Ripper made some valid points and that the examples admin give are *different* ways in which women are treated badly - and of course more horrible/extreme.

How frequent is this acid-throwing, anyway? Are you basing it on like one/few cases?

Either way, doesn't mean the sexualisation of women isn't an issue...

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

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