Salaam,
It kills me to see someone with so much potential throw it away through lack of motivation. Ive tried the nice approach, "Oh this sounds good. What do you think?" and that didnt work. Ive tried the nasty approach, "You will do this dammit!" and that certainly didnt work. Im running out of options and thumping them (which was never an option) is something im seriously considering now.
I once went through a faze where I lacked motivation too and didnt want to do anything but then I managed to drag my sorry a** (its not a swear word but i thought it would be best to asterix it in case someone gets offended) and get on with it. I realise not all ppl are alike, some can pick themselves up without the encouragement of others while others need someone to help them.
How does one go about motivating someone?
w/salaam
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you can't. it has to come from within.
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"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
That's too philosophical a question.
I am like a dog chasing a car. I would not know what do do if I actually caught one.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
Ofcourse I know that. "The" is a terrible first name!
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
It can work. "You" of course is brilliant.
Maybe you should show them your disappearing pencil trick
Back in BLACK
I think admin has successfully demonstrated a tactic for avoiding someone who is trying to 'motivate you'. It's called 'procrastination by changing the sunject.'
Don't just do something! Stand there.
My advice from experience at both ends is: be soft, do expect the best even if the evidence makes it unlikely, and don't be disappointed either way, and let people you love be happy. If you keep it up eventually they'll absorb your expectations. Trying to hammer messages in would tend to complicate your efforts. Despite having high expectations of the people you love, tend to relate only to their good qualities that might have nothing to do with working hard per se. When I wake up in the mornings it can take me a while to recognise I'm depressed and start singing cheerful tunes to myself, dancing around a bit, making a brew, sounding chirpy. Until I get there it's a terrible idea to disturb me, just brings the depression to life. These things I have learned.
I have a scattered mind. Changing the subject is not always intentional. (or maybe it is? "nothing is an accident" at play?)
A serious question: what right do you (or anyone else) have to even try to motivate another person?
If a person does not want it, maybe all they need is space?
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
It was a moral/ethical/social question going back to the original subject rather than a rhetorical "outburst of anger" question.
(and yes - those were the politest words I could think of!)
This is a question that interests me greatly. I know that it in a sense goes against the spirit of Islam and preaching, but why help those who don't want to be helped?
As for human nature - is that really true? or just a result of nurture? can it be ignored? should it be?
In an evolutionary sense, it may be best to not keep dragging excess baggage along...
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
All of us have SOME motivation in us somewhere (yes even you admin). Sometimes that motivation can be lost (but not forever) as a result of "things" that happen in someones life. Some ppl do not let these "things" hinder them in moving on whereas others will.
I believe the latter need a little push in the right direction.
Because deep down they do want to be helped but they are too stubborn to admit it or too busy wollerying in self pity.
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
Sometimes people dont know what to do so they get stuck in a rutt. And maybe they just need a push in the right direction.
Could you say: motivation is another way of saying 'having a reason to do something?'... i.e. the will to succeed.
Back in BLACK
You can talk about your own experince. That way they can relate to this. Or you can tell them that if you didn't do this then that'll make you a crap friend.
“Before death takes away what you are given, give away whatever there is to give.”
Mawlana Jalal ud Din Rumi
Not crap friend crap sister. Was up til 1.30 this morning trying to work my magic on her and made some progress hoooray :). Before she was very much against driving now she said she was gonna put in for it and also gonna apply to do a masters next year. Now i just have to make sure she actually does it coz deadlines are nearing.
One down one to go
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy
Well done. Can I hire you as my personal trainer please, cos I'm lazy and useless?
Don't just do something! Stand there.
Unfortunately Im fully booked and only make exceptions for (/whispers really desperate cases). Anyway thats what your fiancée is there for.
No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy