ur a JOKA med...good luck.

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could someone tell me WHYZ my hair started to fall out

im scared im gonna go bold.

Be Bold!!

dont be bald!

hair loss can be cause in young by either genetics or because of tension.

chances are that its due to some tension, something worrying u.

Forget whatevers worrying u, forget it even existed, ur hair will most likely stop falling out.

"Med" wrote:

"naj" wrote:

ur a JOKA med...good luck.

luck eh? luck has absolutely nothing to do with it.

my cousin-bride is gonna do as I say, or else. Aint got time for no lovey dovey stuff, straight down the line, like it or lump it, THATS the way it should be. Loving som1 doesnt get u anything.

k.....dnt get worked up at me, i dunno whats your problem. erm what did i say wrong?

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"Med" wrote:

my cousin-bride is gonna do as I say, or else. Aint got time for no lovey dovey stuff, straight down the line, like it or lump it, THATS the way it should be. Loving som1 doesnt get u anything.

i dont get u Med. on the one hand, u write all these empathetic posts on the 'arranged marriage' thread, then u go and say something like that^!

i hope u realise that the view u just expressed up there is completely against islamic principles. in fact we have got a blatant reminder of this in the Quran!

"And among His Signs is this, that He created for you mates from among yourselves that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He has put [b]love and mercy[/b] between your (hearts). Verily in that are Signs for those who reflect" (30: 21)

and theres no need to bite naj's head off. she made absolutely no reference to your wife - u brought that up!

the verse of Quran, has silenced me in this issue. I cannot argue against it.

"Med" wrote:

the verse of Quran, has silenced me in this issue. I cannot argue against it.

ofcourse not, but dont just sit there having read it either - try practising it! love is far from being considered a bad thing in Islam, come to terms with that.

"Med" wrote:

wt have u got to do with me or my wife? How I treat my mrs, is my business, nothing to do you naj.

NAWT..

of course your business

yes nothing to do with me...

will think twice about wishing YOU luck next time.

"Aasiyah" wrote:

"Med" wrote:

the verse of Quran, has silenced me in this issue. I cannot argue against it.

ofcourse not, but dont just sit there having read it either - try practising it! love is far from being considered a bad thing in Islam, come to terms with that.

no1 said love is a bad thing.

and if u have it in ur marriage then gr8, but I doubt im gonna have it. I aint gonna abuse or give beatings, marriage for me is for convenience, I need a wife, I want kids. I marry. She look after me, I look after her. I dont expect her to love me, I dont expect to love her. Just muddle along like loads of ppl do in thier married lives.

Btw the the love I refer to is romantic love, no doubt I will probably care for her after she has my kids, after I spend years with her, I will care for her.

But that romantic love, nah, dont think its gonna happen.

"Med" wrote:

"Aasiyah" wrote:

"Med" wrote:

the verse of Quran, has silenced me in this issue. I cannot argue against it.

ofcourse not, but dont just sit there having read it either - try practising it! love is far from being considered a bad thing in Islam, come to terms with that.

no1 said love is a bad thing.

and if u have it in ur marriage then gr8, but I doubt im gonna have it. I aint gonna abuse or give beatings, marriage for me is for convenience, I need a wife, I want kids. I marry. She look after me, I look after her. I dont expect her to love me, I dont expect to love her. Just muddle along like loads of ppl do in thier married lives.

Btw the the love I refer to is romantic love, no doubt I will probably care for her after she has my kids, after I spend years with her, I will care for her.

But that romantic love, nah, dont think its gonna happen.

y? Muslims are meant to believe in such love WITHIN marriage. just coz all we see of it nowadays is outside marriage, doesnt mean it isnt possible within marriage. (if that makes any sense)

y are u doubting u are going to have it before uv even got married? be a lil' optimistic!

"naj" wrote:

could someone tell me WHYZ my hair started to fall out

im scared im gonna go bold.

Are you stressed? I think thats the common cause of hair loss, other causes might be anaemia, or (may Allah forbid) diabetes.

"Aasiyah" wrote:

y are u doubting u are going to have it before uv even got married? be a lil' optimistic!

like i said, if it happens in marriage then gr8. Truly that is brilliant, and in no way am i saying its wrong.

Im just saying that with me that aint gonna happen, im being realistic.

"Amber" wrote:

Are you stressed? I think thats the common cause of hair loss, other causes might be anaemia, or (may Allah forbid) diabetes.

yeh, people who suffer hairloss and who are thin should start eating at proper meal times and not skip meals. THATS WRONG!

they should eat properly, good sized portions and at the proper times. Missing meals is bad.

"Med" wrote:

"Amber" wrote:

Are you stressed? I think thats the common cause of hair loss, other causes might be anaemia, or (may Allah forbid) diabetes.

yeh, people who suffer hairloss and who are thin should start eating at proper meal times and not skip meals. THATS WRONG!

they should eat properly, good sized portions and at the proper times. Missing meals is bad.

YEA im stressed amber....i feel im gonna go bald, headaches what not..

cant be bothered eating on right times...got enough things to WORRY over than food.

i need looking after LOL....oh yea and im not thin im normal

"Med" wrote:

"Amber" wrote:

Are you stressed? I think thats the common cause of hair loss, other causes might be anaemia, or (may Allah forbid) diabetes.

yeh, people who suffer hairloss and who are thin should start eating at proper meal times and not skip meals. THATS WRONG!

they should eat properly, good sized portions and at the proper times. Missing meals is bad.

yeah i agree there, I read in todays newspaper that due to people going on crazy diets its causing NHS billions of pounds, and recently they discovered that atikins diet is causing heart problems as well. So healthy eating and at regular interval doesn't mess up your metabolism.

"Aasiyah" wrote:

y? Muslims are meant to believe in such love WITHIN marriage. just coz all we see of it nowadays is outside marriage, doesnt mean it isnt possible within marriage. (if that makes any sense)

y are u doubting u are going to have it before uv even got married? be a lil' optimistic!

Hmm... that's tricky

How do you love somebody if you don't know them?

And if you know them and you love them and want to marry them then you have loved them at some point outside marriage.

Or are you saying romantic love expressed physically is only allowed through marriage?

"naj" wrote:

YEA im stressed amber....i feel im gonna go bald, headaches what not..

cant be bothered eating on right times...got enough things to WORRY over than food.

i need looking after LOL....oh yea and im not thin im normal

are you getting enough sleep? Have you had your eyesight tested? My headaches used to be REAL bad and ended up that i needed glasses, another advise is dont stress over your hairloss, the more you stress the more u you are going to lose, trust me my hair were falling out like the rain just a few weeks back.

yeh. headaches can be caused by either people needing glasses or because they DONT WEAR their glasses.

If thats the case with u naj, then ur headaches will most likely go away once u start wearing ur glasses. THATS the solution.

amber my hairs falling out really BAD....what do i do? cnt HELP the stress its everywhere,

someone took my sleep away aswell....

my eyesights weak med gonna have ta start wearin contacts..

so how did your hair stop falling? im so worried

"Constantine" wrote:

"Aasiyah" wrote:

y? Muslims are meant to believe in such love WITHIN marriage. just coz all we see of it nowadays is outside marriage, doesnt mean it isnt possible within marriage. (if that makes any sense)

y are u doubting u are going to have it before uv even got married? be a lil' optimistic!

Hmm... that's tricky

How do you love somebody if you don't know them?

And if you know them and you love them and want to marry them then you have loved them at some point outside marriage.

Or are you saying romantic love expressed physically is only allowed through marriage?

wel to get the best anser ud probably hav to ask yashmaki as she's married.

but i'd say: in Islam, ur not meant to marry someone u 'dont know' anyway! u can (and should) meet them as many times as u want, chat as much as u want (within certain boundaries) etc.
There are many hadith which encourage this, e.g.

Once a companion told the Prophet that he was going to get married. The Prophet asked if he had seen her. When the man said no, he said:
"Go and look at her for it is more likely to engender love between the two of you."

"naj" wrote:

amber my hairs falling out really BAD....what do i do? cnt HELP the stress its everywhere,

someone took my sleep away aswell....

my eyesights weak med gonna have ta start wearin contacts..

so how did your hair stop falling? im so worried

What I did was massage oil into my hair (well I got my mom and gran to do that), drank a glass of milk every night (which my dad forced down my throat) and had seven almonds (they have to be left in water overnight) first thing in the morning (don't ask why seven almonds, I have no idea).

But I think the most important thing I did was not to stress whenever I saw huge chunks of hair falling out, I know it is hard and you start freaking out 'cause you think you are going bald. But I feel the more you stress the more your hair fall out, just ignore them (which I know is hard to do).

If the almond thingy doesn't work or it doesn't appeal to you go to the doctors and ask them to check that, sometimes they give you this special shampoo to use.

BUT most importantly don't stress over your hair loss.

Do you sit at the computer most of your time? If so that could be the cause of your eyes being sore, take a break every hour away from the computer and if possible use it less.

can't sleep... hmmm I don't now how I can help you there, try to have regular pattern and try not to take afternoon nap thats the worst as you can't go to sleep in the night.

remember: when stressed do not pull on your hair.

It will result in it being pulled out...

But the best solution is not to stress. Realy on Allah (swt). He will always give what you need.

And if your plans do not come together, it is no biggie. Allah (swt)'s plans cannot be foiled.

I am not a good muslim, bt when I look back on my life I can definitely say that Allah (swt) has watched over me. I have not been hit by a hardship that i cannot overcome. Neither will anybody else.

i gave up on stressing

doesnt help in any way

makes things worse

put my faith in Allah swt............and go to sleep without doiing my Uni work

"Darth V-Hayder" wrote:

i gave up on stressing

doesnt help in any way

makes things worse

put my faith in Allah swt............and go to sleep without doiing my Uni work

I feel ya.

Stress is a waste of time

I should order a pizza

Pizza is gooooood.

AND I should watch a movie.

Pizza, and a movie ~ and screw homework.

Yes this is a plan

I do not see a point in stressing.

And I am lazy.

Too lazy to stress!

thing about uni work is plan ahead.

I can remember in my last year, I my part in a project was marketing. I wrote 6 pages. a fewpeople I knew were in their 50 pages plus, and most a few hundred.

lets just say quality counts.

"Constantine" wrote:

Stress is a waste of time

I should order a pizza

Pizza is gooooood.

Thats some gud advice naj. Stressing is a waste of time, and if its a specific person who is giving u stress then Im sure he wont do it anymore.

Order some pizza, get a bottle of ketchup, can of irn bru and ur stress will go, lol.

going through that paper thing too...

Just had my proposal today for that ginormic paper i've been researching - oh my God they ripped me to shreds

Well the one professor did.

His points were all perfectly valid but it was aaaaawkward.

lol the one prof was saying all the things that were wrong with my proposal - especially the thesis and when he finished he basically said I needed a more contentious issue (like a position paper) rather than just a recitation of facts (like a research paper) and he concluded his argument by saying "and I think you're in agreement with me (to the other prof) on this"

At which point the other professor, and chair of the dept looked up really seriously and said "no" and told me the polar opposite and that he liked my thesis.

lol at which point the other prof was obviously insulted and they did some academic bickering, meanwhile I slunked down in my chair wondering precisely how to get out of this mess without offending either.

Bad day