I was reading an article the other day which basically was arguing that women are expected to become “superwomen”-they must do it all or lose it all.
They become “supermums” and are “burned out” a few years later. And it was basically arguing that career-orientated women lead stressful lives and that too many of us have fallen prey to the feminist mystique....and that women should only focus on family and home and nothing else.
Islamically, it is the father/husbands job to financially provide for his family. I do not dispute that; however is it wrong for women to educate themselves just in case one day God forbid she won’t have a man in her life to financially take care of her?
My mum has stressed education for her girls, not so that we’d become “feminist and career orientated women who believe that we don’t need a man” but so that, if God Forbid something happens…we’d be able to take care of ourselves.
My grandfather passed away when mum was young, leaving my nan to marry off and bring up six young kids and cos my nan was not educated - mum’s family lived in relative poverty for years.
Mum put of marriage till she was qualified and earning money. Her qualifications also came in handy, because for the first three years of marriage dad was a student and not earning much…
Whilst men are obliged to financially take care of their women….I feel that many women lose out when they depend on their men 101% and are not equipped to take care of themselves…
Is it wrong to stress education for women as a back up?
Life doesn’t come with guarantee’s…people get divorced, widowed, or suffer from bankruptcy. And I also know of situations where the husband earns a lot of money but because of his stingy nature, out of desperation the wife is forced to ask others for money…
It depresses me when parents focus so much on their son’s education but for their girls they feel that GCSE’s is more than enough….
A few friends of mine are struggling to call their husbands over from Pakistan cos they have young children and are not educated and struggling to find work….
I don’t believe that women can survive without men.
After all it was dad who’s financially took care of all my needs since I was little-paid for my Uni fee’s, took me Hajj, brought me a car, has always dropped me off all my life wherever I wanted to go. It’s him I call up when I’m lost, or when the mobile company is ripping me off, or when the bank is messing me about or when work cuts my pay…I’d be lost without him.
But at the same time…I feel that women should be fully equipped to deal with whatever life throws at them and parents should stress education for their daughters for this reason.
I’m desperate to become a qualified teacher….I pray that I get accepted on to my teachers’ training course, but at the same I have no intention of being in full time employment….I just want to work when I feel like it, and have the reassurance that I can take care of myself.
How far do you guys agree with the above…?