A few of my mates have confessed to me that they masturbate as its the only way they can stay away from entering in to haram relationships; they're too young or not financially stable to get married and some of them are even married- what does Islam say about masturbation and what advice can you offer?
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In the name of Allah the Most Beneficent and Merciful
Masturbation by one’s own hand or self is not permissible in Islam.
Allah (The Exalted) says: “Those who guard their sexual organs except with their spouses or those whom their right hands possess, for (with regard to them) they are without blame. But those who crave something beyond that are transgressors.” (23:5-7)
The above verse is used as evidence by all four Imams of Fiqh that masturbation is prohibited.
It is also mentioned in various Hadith as follows that Imam Ibn Kathir has wrote in volume 5 p. 458; Hasan Ibn Arifah reports: The Prophet (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said,
'Seven persons are such that Allah will not look at them on the Day of Qiyaamat nor will He purify them nor will He include them among the learned and Allah will enter them into Jahannam. They will enter Jahannam first except for those who repent. As those who repent Allah will accept their repentance.
- A person who masturbates.
- A person who performs the act of sodomy.
- The person upon whom the act of sodomy is performed.
- A perpetual drunkard.
- The person who hits his parents so much that they appeal for help.
- The person who harms his neighbours so much so that they curse him.
- The person who commits adultery with his neighbour's wife.
It is spiritually wrong as well as morally wrong due to the fact that that when one masturbates they are taking away the right of their spouse (if they are married) or the fulfilment of getting married. However, many youth then claim that masturbation is the only way they can stay away from sin. Although one has to understand that normally sexual arousement occurs when a person either sees something that makes them want to commit a sexual act or they may involve themselves in a relationship which then leads on to masturbation. In both cases a person is not allowed to put themselves in that position.
The other problem is that their relationship with their spouse is not a fulfilling one and therefore to fulfil their sexual hunger they feel they have to masturbate. In this situation it is still not allowed and in some ways even worse as this could deprive their marriage of one of its essential ingredients.
It is permissible for a wife to masturbate her husband and vice versa. (Radd ul Mohtar). Therefore if the husband has the urge to this then he may allow his wife to do this for him. Also, if there are other reasons why a husband feels the need to masturbate then he must identify the root cause and discuss this with his spouse.
If a person knows for sure that if they did not masturbate then they would commit fornication, then in this situation the lesser of the two evils is to masturbate as fornication would be a worse sin. One should still repent after this.
If a person feels the urge to masturbate on a regular basis then they should get married if they can financially afford to do so. If this is not possible then a person should fast as this according to the Hadith will quell a person’s sexual urge (due to weakness resulting from the lack of food and drink).
Rasulullah (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) said,
'O group of youth! Whoever from among you can marry should do so because it keeps the gaze low and it protects the private parts. And he who cannot marry should make it compulsory upon himself to fast because it breaks lust.' (Bukhari & Muslim)
What else can I do to stay away from masturbation?
- The motive to seek a cure for this problem should be solely following Allah's orders and fearing His punishment.
- Lowering the gaze (from looking at forbidden things such as pictures, movies etc.) will help suppress the desire before it leads one to commit the haraam (forbidden).
- Using one's available leisure time in worshipping Allah and increasing religious knowledge.
- A person should pray after every Salaah and ask for help from Allah to refrain from sin.
- Trying to follow the Prophet's (Sallallaahu Alayhi Wasallam) recommendation concerning the etiquette of getting ready for bed, such as reading well-known supplications, sleeping on the right side, and avoiding sleeping on the belly (the Prophet forbade sleeping on the belly).
- Repenting, asking forgiveness from Allah, doing good deeds, and not losing hope and feeling despair are all prerequisites to curing this problem.
Of course Allah knows best.
Comments
salaam
Seems this is the article thats causing most controversy for some reason.
Reaction from shopkeepers an dsome parents has been shock! horror! how disgusting! how dare you!
even some mature 'youth' saying isn't the revival A BIT TOO OPEN lol
My answer is: its importance issue that many young ppl face and cant really ask anyone about it, thats why its in the revival so youngsters can read n learn without being embarassed. Plus its from a scholar from Quran n Sunnah so whats the issue?!
There was one bit which I did tell you about though...
lol i had the magazines delivered to house today, dad was going thru one of em....lol i just said its issues concerning youth and these some that cant be discussed at home or in the mosque lol
Yeah, i was thinking what age group i should hand them out to. And i was hoping my dad wouldn't go through the mag whilst i was sitting there. (don't think he read any of it though)
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
What might your dad say?
I DON'T KNOWWWWWW
I mean for all i know, he could ask me to DEFINE the word!!!!!!!!
Or just look at me weirdly, make me feel awkward.
Or just say that the mag is inappropriate!!
Or anything!
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
See I'm sitting in the student room, asking you what your dad might say/ask.
The title of the page is 'masturbation in Islam'
I'm sitting with my back to the door. So this man comes in and asks me how I am and blah blah. So whilst he's talking I click on the minimize button. He did look at my screen. I looked at the screen after to see that the title of the page when minimized had been reduced just to 'masturbation'. =/
LOL ouch!
anyway, I think it's a good Q&A because it really does affect people and some people just don't realise it's haraam because "its not like its with someone else". Plus a Q&A is a better way of tackling the issue than writing an article on it, looking down on those people or making it seem like a lecture. *Thumbs up*
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
some people just dont know that there is such a thing as "masturbation" and might have NO idea that this is forbidden...
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
" and might have NO idea that this is forbidden...
it doesn't matter then, does it? :S
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
I read somewhere that it's Haraam BUT if you're unsuccessful in getting married or fear that you may commit adultery then it's allowed.
Jihad of the Nafs (The Struggle of the Soul)
That's in the sense of doing the lesser of the two evils, you should still try your best to not do it.
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
Yeh that's what i thought.
Shouldn't that have been mentioned somewhere then - if it is true?
Jihad of the Nafs (The Struggle of the Soul)
it doesn't matter then, does it? :S
some people have no idea its wrong and have no idea its called that.
Im pretty sure there's a hadith about how if you didnt know about the sin then you're not accountable for it. but i think making tawbah, just in case. and obviously, stop
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
Oh I thought you meant they don't know OF masturbation :oops:
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
oh them beautiful innocent souls, bless them.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
yep
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
but we have knowledge!
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
I personally wasn't too sure about this topic in a magazine for Muslims. It is very open and I felt it kind of distinguishes the haya to some extent.
But then again, I guess it could be an important Q and A for some Muslim youth.
Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.
The mag is a form of education aswell as entertainment. (is entertainment the right word?)
Books talk about it, so why is it distinguishing hayya in a mag?
And I personally know someone who has benefited - well atleast found out that this is wrong. So I think it's good it was in there.
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
I'm not saying it will not benefit anyone, in fact I did mention it might be good.
However, for ME PERSONALLY it lowers the hayaa because its a private issue discussed/ written openly for ANYONE to read.
A book is a completely separate issue because it might be that a whole book is on masturbation and Islam and no 9 year old will get their hands on it (without a good explanation when they're caught).
Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.
I'm not saying it will not benefit anyone, in fact I did mention it might be good.
However, for ME PERSONALLY it distinguishes the haya because its a private issue discussed/ written openly for ANYONE to read.
A book is a completely separate issue because it might be that a whole book is on masturbation and Islam and no 9 year old will get their hands on it (without a good explanation when they're caught).
Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.
ok
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
Your own soul is nourished when you are kind; it is destroyed when you are cruel.
if it wasnt for me reading about masturbation in a mag (not revival, some mag lying about the house) i would never have found that out. i cant even remember how i came across the mag.
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
could have just as easily been a book too, i remember such books (related to sex etc if i remember properly - i just remember my friends giggling and not saying exactly what it was but just implying it) being in mosque in the room we used to be in...
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
=/ these books are just meant to be read alone...
Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
lol they were wasting time looking through all the books on the shelves and came across it. They didn't actually read it cover to cover!
"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi
how dare you. this is a disgusting thing you postted.
didnt you think before putting such a topic on here.
dont you know respectable sisters are watching.
please brother, take it down. its really bad. Allah will grip you on the day of judgement.
as you know, this subject is not good. its discussed only in private and with scholars. we dont mention this kind of thing in the open. its not a dawah. its disgraceful.
have some shame brother. those who have no shame have no faith.
would you ever talk about this kind of thing to your mother. no you wouldnt. so its the same here. our sisters some here. both old and young.
please brother take it down. Allah will reward you for being courageous.
dont listen to satan. he invites to shameless deeds. just delete it.
thank you
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