HARD HEARTED ?

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assalam u alaikum

has anyone here got a hard heart like me?

i've got a real problem with myself being hard hearted

i just cannot shed a few tears or get emotional when asking for forgivness,thinking of death,grave punishment hell fire..

i say this because i know alot of people who get very emotional and i cannot make out why i aint like that

for example: when a ladys jamaat came in our town i went and towards the end one of the ladys did a dua and everyone was emotional crying in they dua....but i just couldnt cry

then in madressah after durood sharif ( a special time set on thursday night to send durood to our prophet mohammed pbuh) a girl from the khamisa class has to do dua and everyone bes crying..but its the same problem

ive probably most got emotional when my dad got ill..and some times when hes not well thinking of him sets me off...but other than that i feel it a problem

how can u make your heart sensitive?

coz i heard when asking for forgivness u shud shed tears and if not put on a teary face.

is there any certain dua u know that can help?

jazakallah

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ALquds Tue, 18 Oct 2005 - 15:20

" Beware, in everybody there ia s piece of flesh, if it is healthy the whole body ishealthy, and if it is sick the whole body is sick. Beware it is the heart"... cant remember which book i read it in..

Beast Tue, 18 Oct 2005 - 18:47

ALquds" Beware, in everybody there ia s piece of flesh, if it is healthy the whole body ishealthy, and if it is sick the whole body is sick. Beware it is the heart"... cant remember which book i read it in..

May have been Purification of the Heart. :?

MuslimSisLilSis Tue, 18 Oct 2005 - 20:37

irfghan

ALquds" Beware, in everybody there ia s piece of flesh, if it is healthy the whole body ishealthy, and if it is sick the whole body is sick. Beware it is the heart"... cant remember which book i read it in..

May have been Purification of the Heart. :?

actually thats a famous hadith

everyone knows it

Beast Tue, 18 Oct 2005 - 21:35

MuslimSisLilSis

irfghan
ALquds" Beware, in everybody there ia s piece of flesh, if it is healthy the whole body ishealthy, and if it is sick the whole body is sick. Beware it is the heart"... cant remember which book i read it in..

May have been Purification of the Heart. :?

actually thats a famous hadith

everyone knows it

He may still have read that Hadith in Purification of the Heart, just like I just did.

equanimity Tue, 18 Oct 2005 - 23:19

Overall we should be kind hearted to those we love and freinds
but hard hearted to our enemies who fight or seek to destroy islam
ALLAHUAKBAR

You Wed, 19 Oct 2005 - 01:11

We can be kind hearted to our enemies aswell.

Just be steadfast, and know the limits.

Beast Wed, 19 Oct 2005 - 10:36

Raf786
but hard hearted to our enemies who fight or seek to destroy islam

Tell me...

Was Salah ud Din hard-hearted towards his enemies?

ALquds Wed, 19 Oct 2005 - 13:57

the key word 4 us muslims should be "justice".... hard heartedness should not be a character of a muslim....

equanimity Wed, 19 Oct 2005 - 17:20

salahuddin was in my eyes one of the greatest muslim warriors ever but one of his weaknesses was his kind heart, after taking back Jerusalem (alhumdullah) he let all christians fighters return home however they betrayed salahudin and rectified the port of Acre allowed richard to join and carried on fighting, richard slaughtered 3000 muslims in acre.

However i cant say enough good about salahuddin he was the rectifier of faith, extremely religous as well as couragous and should be an example to us all . He defeated the invading crusader armies and took back jerusalem and the middle east. may we find another person like salahuddin to unite us and lead us.

You Wed, 19 Oct 2005 - 17:23

And if he (and other muslims) killed them, we would be hearing these days how bloodthirsty early msulims were.

However the historical records are full of praise of muslims as they were not bloodthirsty, and were merciful to their enemies.

equanimity Wed, 19 Oct 2005 - 17:41

nothing wrong with killing soldiers along as civillians are not killed.
However i do agree with you muslims are praised for their chivalry methods of war, also salahuddin did not kill them or take revenge and kill civillians because he did not want people to say the muslims acted like the christians. Islamic armies of the past were so great due to their dedication to islam today many muslim armies are currupt e.g pakistan, saudi arabia, turkey, iraq ect

You Wed, 19 Oct 2005 - 18:53

No you have to care for captives.

As sonn as an enemy soldier surrenders/captured, you MUST care for him.

The rules of engagement are layed down on the qur'an. Islam is not the American military where you can shoot an injured person lying in a mosque point blank...

Naz Wed, 19 Oct 2005 - 21:29

OmrowSalam

kuri/19i've got a real problem with myself being hard hearted

how can u make your heart sensitive?

Kuri. Ditch the bad girls.

Be a more lady like. You will be fine.

Stop being a boy.

You're a woman for Christ sake !!

Omrow

Thats so sexist. Its not only women who are sensative some guys are as well. There are some women who find it hard to show their emotions but it don't make u a bloke!

MastKuri Thu, 20 Oct 2005 - 10:43

Naz

OmrowSalam

kuri/19i've got a real problem with myself being hard hearted

how can u make your heart sensitive?

Kuri. Ditch the bad girls.

Be a more lady like. You will be fine.

Stop being a boy.

You're a woman for Christ sake !!

Omrow

Thats so sexist. Its not only women who are sensative some guys are as well. There are some women who find it hard to show their emotions but it don't make u a bloke!

lol agreed!

Naz Thu, 20 Oct 2005 - 14:06

MastKurithats not honesty its being sexist!

u go girl. lol

MastKuri Thu, 20 Oct 2005 - 17:26

Naz

MastKurithats not honesty its being sexist!

u go girl. lol

😂

Seraphim Sun, 8 Feb 2009 - 13:50

I think sometimes its a good idea to harden the heart.

People who wear their hearts on their sleeves often get them crushed.

Seraphim Sun, 8 Feb 2009 - 16:17

s.b.fGive an example Seraphim?

Im sure thats not necessary.

If your too soft people walk all over you.

You gotta know when to be tough and when to be kind.

Seraphim Sun, 8 Feb 2009 - 16:40

wednesday

Seraphim
s.b.fGive an example Seraphim?

Im sure thats not necessary.

If your too soft people walk all over you.

You gotta know when to be tough and when to be kind.

BUT doesn't that naturally exist in all? Being able to stand up for yourself?

No.

Amal Sun, 8 Feb 2009 - 17:13

wednesday

Seraphim
wednesday
Seraphim
s.b.fGive an example Seraphim?

Im sure thats not necessary.

If your too soft people walk all over you.

You gotta know when to be tough and when to be kind.

BUT doesn't that naturally exist in all? Being able to stand up for yourself?

No.

Yes it does.

I agree with Seraphim. If you live a rather sheltered life (like I have done :oops: ), you will not cope in the big bad world 🙁 - and it doesnt help when you are naturally very passive. There are some really cruel and mean people in the world. :shock: One of my biggest inward jihads has been to be tough :shock: Believe me from personal experience when I say that not everyone has the ability to stand up for themselves - I have to fight myself everyday to be able to fight (odd considering my career!) :shock: But Ive found out that the more mean and horrible people I come across, the easier it becomes! :idea:

s.b.f Sun, 8 Feb 2009 - 17:40

Okay,

so now we're all talking about being soft and hard.

Whats that got to do with heart hardening?

I thought heart hardening is similar to being burnt out and cant be bothered to do anything even religiously?

You Mon, 31 Aug 2009 - 23:35

s.b.fCan being lazy lead to 'hardening of the heart' ?

How dare you insinuate such things!

s.b.f Tue, 1 Sep 2009 - 12:13

You

s.b.fCan being lazy lead to 'hardening of the heart' ?

How dare you insinuate such things!

:|

So...is being spiritually down and 'heart hardening' the same thing?

It's not all about being able to cry and things is it?

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