Weddings!

[quote="Saadia Khan"]salaam nothing wrong with big

i want a big wedding, i want a big house too, i also want a big family lol
i like big things lol :wink:[/quote]

What about a basement laboratory for the children?

😉

lol shock ok ur killing it!! joke

not a bad idea just depends on the other half )

[quote="Saadia Khan"]lol :shock: ok ur killing it!! joke

not a bad idea just depends on the other half :)[/quote]

Sorry but you shouldn’t have mention the "Bio" word, now I cant get laboratory word out of my head and that’s how I’m going to remember you. Thanks

lol i dont mind

not sure if riba based loans make the nikah invalid, never heard that before. But i agree with your uncles objections to them, never hear bengalis talk like that it's refreshing. All the ones in my community don't give a tuppence for religious aspects.

[quote="yashmaki"]not sure if riba based loans make the nikah invalid, never heard that before. But i agree with your uncles objections to them, never hear bengalis talk like that it's refreshing. All the ones in my community don't give a tuppence for religious aspects.[/quote]

Tuppence? Have you been watching Oliver Twist again?

love that movie, "Please sir can i have more" "more you want more boy" 😂

how important do you consider eloborate functions for the registry of an asian wedding?

tis the new craze these day to wear a white dress like an english bride and have a TALL cake and even share a kiss in front of ur parents :shock: :oops: :oops:

270, 700 people got married in 2004 - the rate is increasing again gradually

2001 saw the fewest since 1897

the average age for men to get married is 36, and for women its 33

fewer than 1 in 10 think that the wedding cost of £1600 is justified

[quote="Fresh Prince"]270, 700 people got married in 2004 - the rate is increasing again gradually

2001 saw the fewest since 1897

the average age for men to get married is 36, and for women its 33

fewer than 1 in 10 think that the wedding cost of £1600 is justified[/quote]

source :roll: or is that HayDUH stats?

and why would i dream up those stats you goose? :roll:

from the newspaper.....a week or two ago

It's every girls dream, to have the perfect and big wedding!

It only comes around once in a life time, so make the most of it,

Yeh at an reasonable price as well! 8)

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]how important do you consider eloborate functions for the registry of an asian wedding?

tis the new craze these day to wear a white dress like an english bride and have a TALL cake and even share a kiss in front of ur parents :shock: :oops: :oops:[/quote]

Another problem with registry marriage's is the fact that the law of the land dictates that if the couple get divorced they have to split their wealth 50/50.

Many have taken advantage of this.

since the marriage registry is more a law of the state and not Islam there's no need to waste money on it :? I think it's best kept simple. In fact since most muslims in the west have lavish nikah/walimah parties you can invite the registrar to witness the wedding ceremony on the same day, rather than having a seperate day for registration. That way you can be in all your fine refinery and get the legal stuff out of the way in one go.

Course you can go without the registry but if you do the state doesn't recognise you as a married couple, and you could have problems in the future if you want to seperate i.e issues over kids, inheritance etc. So it's best done.

I didn't realise muslims had registration parties aswell :?

Me and hubby went in our ordinary clothes for the registration, signed the certificates and that was that. It never felt special to me at all, best not let the hubby hear that lool.

I hope things are well with naj

[quote="Augustus"]I hope things are well with naj[/quote]

Yeah... :?

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]how important do you consider eloborate functions for the registry of an asian wedding?

tis the new craze these day to wear a white dress like an english bride and have a TALL cake and even share a kiss in front of ur parents :shock: :oops: :oops:[/quote]

omg i have not seen this yet but how can people do that, that is personal not to share it with everyone, its soo bad, dont people feel embarassed!?

Hmmm i hope things with Naj are cool too inshallah. I'll email her later and see how she is.

[quote="MuslimSisLilSis"]how important do you consider eloborate functions for the registry of an asian wedding?

tis the new craze these day to wear a white dress like an english bride and have a TALL cake and even share a kiss in front of ur parents :shock: :oops: :oops:[/quote]
thats silly. :roll:

my bro and sis-in-law didnt even bother with the 'registry marriage'... 😂

i said to my hubby yeah sure you don't want the registry just so you can get another wife without the state knowing about it. That was enough he said ok we'll do the registry 😂

It is really important to register ones marriage...but obviously the functions are something one can do without.

[quote="MuslimSister"]It is really important to register ones marriage...[/quote]
why?

[quote="yashmaki"]

Course you can go without the registry but if you do the state doesn't recognise you as a married couple, and you could have problems in the future if you want to seperate i.e issues over kids, inheritance etc. So it's best done.

.[/quote]

Also I'm sure that there are other benefits of the state recognising your marraige...I can't think of them atm, may ask mum later inshallah.

Everyone should post up visions of your ideal dream wedding. White wedding or traditional? What car would arrive in? What would you wear? How many people would you invite? What would you serve? Where would you go on your honeymoon?
Girls I'm sure you all must have thouht about this. 😉

erm i never had a fancy car, my parents wanted a stretch limo..typical desis lol. I always thght limos looked tacky (sorry to those who like them.) I'd have preferred an antique english car or a rolls royce if i was forced to have one. Even though it doesn't match asian clothes i really like horses and carriages. But i don't think the horse and carriage look would look right in a busy urban area, it's more for a country side wedding.

I thght hubby would pick me up in his own car. He turned up in his cousins lexus. Apparently his cousin has a bit of money. Anyways it was the only bit of luxury i had that day so i wasn't complaining 😉

I would have had a smaller wedding if i could do it again. Just immediate family and friends, ppl who care about me rather than those who didn't care but felt obligated to attend.

I'd have worn a lengha, but i like unusual one off pieces (yes it's one of my great sins), not into the traditional look. Something elegant simple and understated. Never been into clothes that are overly decorated and glitzy, although it can look pretty on some girls.

Not fussed about the colour but i've never been mad about red. So anything but red. I had ivory so i was happy with the colour, not with the outfit.

Never had a honeymoon, money problems. If i had my time over again i'd do the same. i'd never ask my husband for a honeymoon. I know if he had the money he would have arranged a holiday, i'm very understanding like that 😉 I might have saved up for a honeymoon myself though that would have been a nice surprise for him.

I don't think honeymoons are essential though. If you can't afford one immediately after the wedding, you can always have a break a few months later. It's important especially if you live with in laws. Get to know each other.

[quote="Ramz"]Everyone should post up visions of your ideal dream wedding. White wedding or traditional? What car would arrive in? What would you wear? How many people would you invite? What would you serve? Where would you go on your honeymoon?
Girls I'm sure you all must have thouht about this. :wink:[/quote]

I’d prob have a traditional wedding minus all the unnecessary stuff..

I’m not fussed about the car…I’d be more than happy to drive in my own little banger. Horse and carriage sounds cool…but like yash said, it’s not realistic.

I am crazy about deep shades of or red…so I’d be a traditional bride in a red lengha.

I’d like to invite between 40-70 people…I don’t have a large family and I don’t know that many people.

I’d prob serve the usual stuff…and also some English food as well.

Honeymoon would def be a Umrah in order to bless the marriage…maybe not straight away but at least within the first year of marriage.

Hmm i hadnt really thought bout marriage to be honest well the whole wedding day scene :? but ummrah is a defo after marriage, the best way to get blessings.

I too would like to invite only close family/friends but knowing the "family" we have proly stretch to 1000 :roll: but as long as my family is there i dont care.

I would wear a traditional dress most likely to be maroom, a rolls royce sounds wicked limo is so common

(did i say i hadnt thought bout this!)

We had this girl in our area who had her rukhsati in a helicopter :? didn't know what to make of that!

helicopter...ahahahahahhaha. It's just to show off wealth nothing else. I thght the bengali family in my town were the only ones in the whole of the uk to have done this. Apparently the groom arrived in his helicopter, and he's a dr. Yes he's loaded but he's double her age, and she didn't want to marry him :roll:

I just can't get over the helicopter though, where'd they tie the white ribbon on the propellors? 😂

[quote="yashmaki"]helicopter...ahahahahahhaha. It's just to show off wealth nothing else. I thght the bengali family in my town were the only ones in the whole of the uk to have done this. Apparently the groom arrived in his helicopter, and he's a dr. Yes he's loaded but he's double her age, and she didn't want to marry him :roll:

I just can't get over the helicopter though, where'd they tie the white ribbon on the propellors? :lol:[/quote]

lol i dont know, i didnt attend it. Yeah the family was loaded but it was really silly IMO.

Wedings are best to be simple but i knw for a fact my sis's weding is gona be anythin but that :roll:

[quote="yashmaki"]helicopter...ahahahahahhaha. It's just to show off wealth nothing else. I thght the bengali family in my town were the only ones in the whole of the uk to have done this. Apparently the groom arrived in his helicopter, and he's a dr. Yes he's loaded but he's double her age, and she didn't want to marry him :roll:

I just can't get over the helicopter though, where'd they tie the white ribbon on the propellors? :lol:[/quote]

Arriving in a helicoptor isnt impressive.

Now if he jumped outta a helicopter and parachute down.... now that would be an impressive entrance.

[quote="Seraphim"]

Now if he jumped outta a helicopter and parachute down.... now that would be an impressive entrance.[/quote]

lol what if something mysterious happend and there was no parachute? :shock: then he wud have been in a bit of trouble.