Being right is better, because having the answers is how you improve.
42% (8 votes)
Being kind is better, because Muslims need to try and keep good relations.
47% (9 votes)
Neither. Its better to just roll your eyes and not say anything.
11% (2 votes)
Total votes: 19
Context?
How about being right and kind at the same time? lol.
Lol no you can only have one. And i meant generally in your everyday life. Is it better to be right or better to be kind. As sometimes these two can conflict.
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Sometimes I cba to tell people they are wrong.
That's kindness isn't it?
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
Lol yes, yes it is.
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The truth can sometimes be biiter and what's right AKA the truth should be said.
Doesn't it depend who your talking to also?
I mean in some situations- i.e. a husband and wife at the dinner table- its better if the husband is 'kind' about the food then 'truthful'! lol (we know how that can end!)
In others, i.e. a fight between siblings and your the third sibling witness its better to be truthful than to be kind.
I dunoo, i suppose context does matter like Hummus said- right?
"That's the thing about pain. It demands to be felt" - Augustus Waters
Good point.
But in the end truth is more victorious than kindness. Lying is a deadly cycle and in the end its bound to get discovered.
Saying that though, you can be kind and right at the same time. How the other person takes the truth is not in your control.
This whole thing started over a week ago. I was sat at my desk, lost in my work. So often was the case that I was so consumed by what I was doing that I was paying little attention to the conversation of my colleagues. On this occasion I was prodded by one of my colleagues in an attempt to get me to join their conversation.
Let me be clear, I am by no means anti-social. I just have a lot of work to do and only a short amount of time to do it in. So as you can imagine; I was somewhat irritated at the interruption. However my colleague persisted in her usual manner to annoy and pester until I was forced to turn around to face her with a heavy sigh. I kept ahold of my cup of tea, merely to keep my hands busy.
My colleague is a peculiar personality; overly affectionate with a need to please people. No doubt the product of a happy childhood. Oh how God chooses to test my patience lol. Anyway; the conversation turned to how she felt I was not being a team player and how i didnt bring in random treats for everyone e.g. cakes, biscuits etc. To which i responded with nothing but the plain truth: that i couldnt be bothered and i didnt think they deserved a treat lol.
Suffice to say that didnt go down well and only resulted in further drama. The conclusion of which was how sometimes its more appropriate to lie to be kind rather than tell the truth. Because telling the truth would only hurt their feelings unnecessarily whereas a lie would only result in slight disappointment.
I know how I can sometimes be stubborn and will argue for the sake of arguing because i 'THINK' im right. But in the end maybe its a lessor evil to tell a small lie that offends no one.
I think I need a biscuit with this cup of tea to mull this over hhmmmm lol.
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and it all could have been avoided by avoiding justificatio and using a two syllable word: "ok".
"You are not being a team player and you dont bring in random treats for everyone e.g. cakes, biscuits etc"
"ok". (or even better, just raise an eye brow and say nothing.)
Game. Set. Match.
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.
It would have saved a lot of trouble if i had said something like 'i'll think about it' or 'maybe' just to be kind. Truthfully; i dont have this need to please people like she does. She likes to please people, and i think thats too much effort for no gain. If i do something nice I do it because i want to and not to gain anyones approval. That makes me sound a bit cold =/ ... im not really. Im all warm and fuzzy.... ok that last parts probably not true lol.
I have a treat people as they treat you policy. Im nice to people who are nice to me, im mean and dismissive of anyone whose not nice. Soo tit for tat doesnt leave room for any expectations from anyone. And im aware this is probably unislamic as im supposed to treat people the way i want to be treated, but people have a tendancy to let you down. The human condition; everything changes.
So im left with being right is might?
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Sounds like too much effort.
Sweets are about a sweet tooth more than people. She probably mentioned it as a hint, or maybe she didnt but i doubt being deserving had anything to do with it.
You should adopt a no fuss way, be right, but there is no need to let others fuss about it, it just makes more work, more discussion, more... work basically.
That doesnt mean you have to admit to being wrong or anything.
To be transactional, you have to remember others' behaviour or if you are first in action, either be cynical, setting the scene for failure or hopeful in which case you may be disapointed. Too much effort, work and fuss IMO. I personally CBA with anything like that.)
"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.