lol...you never get yelled at coz u dont have a life outside the home :twisted:

curfews.......oh, they always say be home within an hour, i say yes....always a few hours late

but its all gud coz my parents trust me and i know i dont do anything stupid

and nowadays, you cant (and sometimes dont) want to go out with mates early, so the best time is around 9-10pm............if its snooker, home by 11ish.....cinema/sheesha/food/traff centre.......then about 1-2ish

but i dont go out all the time, obviously there needs to be a limit....once or twice a week does the trick. and due to money, it obviously needs to be curbed.

but yeah, no curfews for me.

I'm able to go and come back home before 10 before parents said anything. On special occasions (eid and birthdays) I'm able to stay out until about 1.

My parents are strict on my sister though.....isn't every asian parent strict on their daughters?

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:

"Sirus" wrote:

, so the best time is around 9-10pm............if its snooker, home by 11ish.....cinema/sheesha/food/traff centre.......then about 1-2ish

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what a dosser :shock:

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I am NOT!!!

im a lad...whose in control, and thats the only time the driver is relieved of family and work duties, and were all free from out so many commitments!!

she's studying, big deal........the days of everyone home and in bed by 9pm has changed.......lifestyles have become more flexible, that its almost impossible to put curfews on 17yr old+ kids.

i only have one sis, and shes not very out going by nature, so its hard to comment there. she is allowed to her friends house and stuff, or at a cousins house until about 11ish on her own. but she does so very rarely, very rareyly she's out without family

My little bro's have to be in by 7. My older bro works so for him its whenever he gets back from work. For my sis and me, if its out with mates then max 8-9pm depending whether we are out or at their house. As for cousins house it could be late as 3am as long as we have someone to drop us off home.

Mostly we have sis's car so if we home by 11-11:30 then it's ok only if we come back from cuz's house though not mates.

if i was ur guardian, i wouldnt let you out at all :twisted:

you cant be trusted :evil:

there's no such thing as 'curfews' in my family either. all of us are responsible and i guess my parents trust us to not do anything stupid when we're out. when my bros turned 18 they were pretty much allowed to be out till whatever time. my parents always knew where they were, who they were with and what they were planning to do though.

unfortunately it hasn't been the same with me, and although i can see why my parents dont want me out till so late in the night, i do feel restricted at times. when i go out with friends i have to be back before maghrib or if i'm at a friends place (who my parents know well) then they pick me up by midnight latest.

MS mentioned previously that her bro has the same 'curfew' as her and i asked my mom about this recently - why my bros and i dont have the same rules when it comes to going out. she said she learnt from the way her mom treated her brothers - never letting them go out at night, just like the girls. and because of that my mom feels her bros didnt develop certain interpersonal skills, they find it difficult to socialise with people outside of their family and stuff. she feels such skills are especially important for guys as the head of the family - if they arent outgoing, the whole family will be bored with no social life.

anyway i dont have it that bad. well it was bad before my college years - i'd be dropped off and picked up from everywhere, never went into town or to the library with friends, let alone on my own. i guess the day of my last GCSE exam was the first time my parents let me go out, coz they knew it was my entire class who was going out after school (and i'd be back before maghrib).
but college changed a lot of things, and by my A2 year i was allowed out till maghrib as long as my parents had some idea of where i was and who with.

being an only daughter doesn't help, but i understand where my parents are coming from and know that there's always someone else out there who is worse off than me when it comes to such things.

"*DUST*" wrote:

anyway i dont have it that bad. well it was bad before my college years - i'd be dropped off and picked up from everywhere, never went into town or to the library with friends, let alone on my own. i guess the day of my last GCSE exam was the first time my parents let me go out, coz they knew it was my entire class who was going out after school (and i'd be back before maghrib).
but college changed a lot of things, and by my A2 year i was allowed out till maghrib as long as my parents had some idea of where i was and who with.
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I’ve pretty much been in the same situation.

Throughout my high school years I wasn’t ever allowed out with my mates. It was school and then home…if I wanted to go town I could only go with mum/sis.

When I went to sixth form I had the same curfews…my curfews angered me then, so I’d be out and about with my friends but was home 15min before dad came home (around 6’ish)…I took advantage of schools holidays and free lessons/half days etc

Mum has always covered up for us.

Yet today my 17 year old brother can be out till 7.00pm even though when I was 17 that was unthinkable…

Today my curfew is be home before magrib...this drives me crazy because most programmes that I like to attend start after magrib so I can never attend them.

I also am not allowed to ever stay in overnight camps…and dad is not really a fan of me travelling on public transport out of London either.

Curfews - I can understand, if I had my way I wouldn’t allow my brother out till 7pm, after all a guy with good for nothing mates is not exactly going to be getting together with his friends to feed the poor…

However, I feel that my situation is different…I think allowances should be made for good things i.e. Islamic activities. The only time I've attended late night programmes is when dad is not in the country...

My younger sister has no interest in being out and about so she's never in trouble...generally I'm happier at home too, but I do want to attend every programme I hear about..

My curfews stem out of dad’s extreme over protectiveness…whenever I come home late dad has always got the teletxt page open about someone who got missing walking home from somewhere…

I do think that my dad needs to chill.

I think how Dust has it/had it, its is pretty much the same for my sister.

MS...i can't understand why your parents are like that when it comes to religious activities, were allowed to come back at fajr if were in mosques!! and the camps at every month, even tho mum doesnt like the home without her boys, she lets us go for 2 and half days.

And when you say maghrib time.....its around 9ish these days, but can be as early as 4pm at some times of the year. do you mean when its dark?

and dont you think 7pm is a[i] lil early [/i]for ur bro?

"Sirus" wrote:

MS...i can't understand why your parents are like that when it comes to religious activities, were allowed to come back at fajr if were in mosques!!

oh, true, thats summat i forgot to mention - there's always leeway when it comes to islamic talks/activities, most rules are relaxed alhumdulillah. i wouldn't go to a camp without a mahram though.

"Sirus" wrote:

And when you say maghrib time.....its around 9ish these days, but can be as early as 4pm at some times of the year. do you mean when its dark?

nope i meant maghrib. well i can go out if its to islamic events, with friends or usually my dad comes with me anyway, but i'm rarely out alone after maghrib. if i've made plans to chill with mates after maghrib, it's only coz i have a lift there and back.

"Sirus" wrote:

and dont you think 7pm is a[i] lil early [/i]for ur bro?

agreed. but she did say he has good for nothing friends in which case i think the 'curfew' is justified.

true, i guess who your friends are reflects how lenient your parents are

my parentz are kool....but dunno why, they consider razor to be 'shareef'

so, in short days, around 4pm can be ur curfew? :shock:

is that the same with you to MS?

"Sirus" wrote:

so, in short days, around 4pm can be ur curfew? :shock:

i said there's no such thing as a 'curfew' in my family! i.e. it's flexible, depends who i'm with, what i have to go out for, etc.

aaaaaaahh..it was maghrib when u were doin gcse's or O-levels as they were known in ur days

No silly...4pm is not my curfew in winter.

BUT if I'm out and out in the dark, I must be picked up and dropped off.

I don't think 7pm is too early for my brother....like I said, I cant stand his mates, so if it was up to me he wouldnt be allowed out at all.

MuslimSis, My parents stress out a lot too...but I don't blame them. So many bad things to happen to young people out on their own. I don't have a curfew as such, but they do like me to be at home after dark...yes, winter is hibernation time! :shock:

What I hate is the double standard...I don't have any brothers, but I really don't think boys should be out late, getting up to God knows what...

And...why do parents not care to even pick you up when it's dark and late when you're studying....but when you're just popping to the shops they can give you a million reasons why it's not safe? It's either safe, or it isn't? :?

Wassalam
Farhana

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"Farhana" wrote:

And...why do parents not care to even pick you up when it's dark and late when you're studying....but when you're just popping to the shops they can give you a million reasons why it's not safe? It's either safe, or it isn't? :?

What bugs me in my home is that, I can come home at any time in the evening if its related to work or Uni and dad won't say anything..

Yet if its to do with Islam, suddenly the "not after dark" rule is implemented.

Yeah, that's exactly what I mean MuslimSis - strange isn't it?