There was a time you didn’t think there was anything worse than being somehow symbolically linked to people blowing up buildings and indiscriminately murder random people. You never accepted the guilt by association but yet you still had to apologise for it.
You never once thought there could be anything worse, anything more shameful for the community to go through. But now you know you were wrong.
Look at the news and there is a chance that you will either look at the murder trial of the parents of Shafilea Ahmed who was brutally butchered allegedly by her own parents and in front of her own siblings who were not even teenagers yet. They apparently witnessed their own mother and father suffocate her to death in her kitchen.
And that is not the end of it. Turn on the TV and you read about groups of men who have been caught or convicted of running rings of sex slavery or prostitution.
You see them, they have been in many places, from the takeaway owner who forced girls into prostitution to the groups of men in Rochdale, Derby and elsewhere who have been raping young girls and forcing them into prostitution.
And you have to ask where does it all come from?
How does a 59 year old married man with kids get involved with grooming and raping 13/15 year olds? With the help of people in their 20's? What makes them think they can get away with it? What makes them allow it themselves?
A big issue is one of respect - the lack of respect for the women as creation of God - they may have and be from different cultures or different ideals but that does not make them meat on the market that is there to be abused.
How do parents murder their own 17 year old daughter? Do they not know that they will be held accountable by God for their crimes? Do they not know that there is no honour or justifications in their actions?
These are issues that cannot be hidden under the carpet and make no mistake about it they not only happen; but now that the victims may have courage to go to the police there will be more revelations on such things. and that is not a bad thing.
Monsters need to be brought to justice.
The community needs to face up to its collective failings and not hide the shame of it all, nor brush it under the carpet like so many ills. Murder, grooming, rape, prostitution and all other failings of the community need to be addressed and discussed publicly.
Young people need to be educated to not get involved with such monsters and a message needs to be delivered to these people that they will be caught, exposed and brought to justice.
There must be a zero tolerance approach to these people, but at the same time, there needs to be open discussion on why it has happened, what the underlying factors are, what are the issues that have allowed these people to commit such heinous crimes.
A reason for these crimes is where the people consider themselves to be beyond the law, beyond getting caught, beyond justice. Another is a lack of imaan - a believer will always know he or she is accountable to God even if they can get away or hide from people.
Another is the secrecy and denial of facts. Because the mind-set that allowed terrorism was denied by the community as a whole after the twin tower attacks in September 2001, such a mind-set was allowed to grow many more ugly heads with major consequences. In the same way denying that other serious problems exist will allow them to fester and bite the whole community.
The mind-sets that allow such things to happen need to be challenged, to be torn apart. Our community needs to confront such issues head on, discuss these topics and show that there is no toleration for such crimes.