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Salam
Sheikh Hilali told his audience that women who get raped should not blame men.
This was his Eid message !!
The Sheikh said that the responsibility lies with girls if they get raped.
He claims that women being naked meat, they should expect to be eaten.
He simply does not want the boys to be blamed for any sexual assault on girls.
I think Hilali is crazy. He just wanted to have his say in the veil row.
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yashmaki — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 20:50
i duno what the cleric originally said but it wouldn't surprise me if the media took it out of context and made a sensational article about it.
No one deserves to be raped whether they're fully dressed or scantily. The crime should lie with the perpetrator alone not the victim.Rape is prob the only crime where the victim is made to feel so guilty and afraid that they refuse to go through the court system to put these scums behind bars.
Having said that i've heard this debate over and over on tv and on the radio and non muslim women are the ones who admit clothing does make a difference. No one is saying coz a woman wears a short skirt and halter neck top she deserves to be raped but she will receive more sexual advances from men as compared with a woman in long loose clothing for example. If dressing differently means a woman would receive less of this sort of attention and "feel safe" then it's in the best interests of women to cover the flesh a bit more. Whether they choose to or not is entirely their choice but that's how i view it. It's just a precautionary measure it may not prevent rape but it can reduce the chances.
As for drinking well i heard this case on radio five of this lady she was drunk and she got raped. She was the one who wished she hadn't drank so heavily. She was the one who said she wished she hadn't dressed so scantily either. She knew the guy was to blame but she couldn't help but feel partly responsible for allowing herself to be so drunk that she couldn't prevent the attack. She was on radio urging other women on the dangers of drinking heavily and dressing too skimpy. This was a non muslim woman. Of course lots of other women rang in condemning her for giving this advice but i can't see why.
In saudi if you show your ankle you're considered a "slag" you sure you're not exaggerating a tad bit?
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zara — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 20:51
i don't think some of them do because it's a :? subject to talk about. i know it is with my family.
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WaddyHussain — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 20:51
Tex I can understand that your father told you to control yourself but how did he teach you to control yourself?
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*Sponi* — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 20:56
"men stare at women MORE in muslim countries"
if the men in the muslim countries stare at women, that shows that they have no knowledge of how to use thier eyes in a halaal way... if they did they should know that they should lower thier gaze
"Tell the believing men to lower their gaze (from looking at forbidden things), and protect their private parts (from illegal sexual acts, etc.). That is purer for them. Verily, Allâh is All-Aware of what they do. (24:30)
....but then again, who am i to judge... The judging is only down to Allah (swt)
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*Sponi* — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 20:59
lol
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The Great 100 — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 21:11
I don't know if that's a serious question or not but I will answer it because it is interesting and potentially important. I don't speak from an Islamic perspective especially. Just as a human being.
If you know what pain and trauma feel like, or if you know what it looks like, promise never to inflict it unless in the cause of defense of a life or someone's wellbeing, and then only if force is the urgent imperative.
There are many ways of training oneself in restraint. One answer, because this issue of sexual assault is a matter of not doing something rather than doing something, any time there is an issue about a behaviour you need to retract, you have to find people with whom to be open about it, make your promises and count the days until the unacceptability of that behaviour is so embedded it is no longer a matter requiring restraint. Keep your confidants informed. That is also a way of taking a regular behaviour on, but there are quicker ways of acquiring good habits.
If you have hurt someone you must do your utmost to acknowledge wrongdoing and make amends. Even if an attempt to do so is poorly received the experience of showing remorse rather than keeping it in allows you to grow and move on and do good deeds, and it also leaves the victim with a truthful understanding of what happened.
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TEX — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 21:20
sponi all idiots know that staring at women is wrong in islam, but they dont care
Yash i aint exagerating, no woman is safe in saudi :? it makes no difference what u where there,
dress code makes no difference, it is a common misconception that it is, just look at the muslim world and u wud know that it dont make any difference, but only makes things worse.
Zara it is the most humiliating subject in the whole wide world but it needs to be discussed, nothing is more humiliating then rape,
Waddy when my dad had a discussion with me about "growing up" he discussed it then. First he started banging on about the high number of rape cases in saudi, he described how he would cut me up and kill me if i ever raped anyone :shock: (i think he got the description from a scary movie) , then he got LOADS of ahadith and in detail described the punishment in hell for the rapist, then he gave me tips on how to handle "my desires" (i.e. to fast more often, keep my self busy, have the hearafter in mind, etc), he gave me these books and videos showing the effect rape has on a victim and how it affects her life - they were an eye opener i knew it was bad but not THAT BAD :shock: , then he asked me how i wud feel if sum1 raped a female in my family, then asked me if i wanted to put sum innocent girls family thru that.... he kept trying to ingrain `guilt` into me
It was so humiliating :oops: :oops:
but what he said will go with me to my grave, he had such a powerful effect on me!!
now i wud never rape any1 anywayz so i didn't need the embarresing lectures :oops: :oops: , but SO MANY guys do :?
and dont be fooled he is a terible dad :evil: :evil:
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TEX — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 21:26
and guys if u give ur sons lessons on self-control
1. do not make them feel guilty for no reason,
2. dont be aggresive
3. be polite
4. dont make the subject anymore embarresing then it is
5. dont treat ur son like a potentiol rapist :evil:
6. try not to be scary
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WaddyHussain — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 21:28
Nice one Tex. Your not as bad as they make you out. 😂 May Allah (swt) bless you with Wisdom and keep you on the straight path. Ameen
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TEX — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 21:29
i also forgot to mention:
7. Do not grill your son alive,
tiz not nice, :evil:
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TEX — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 21:38
how many Jews are charedim ? are there a lot ?
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TEX — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 21:49
sorry i missed this post
when you look at naked / half naked women without acting like a beast - without feeling u cant control ur self
i.e. if i eat less chocolate i will only crave it more which would not happen if i had enuff of it, ya know what i mean? :twisted:
PS chocolate in wrapper will not make the choclate any less tempting
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The Great 100 — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 21:51
In Israel they are 4.5% of the population and 30% of the Orthodox Jews who identify themselves as religious. They are mostly lovely people fond of study and good deeds, and ranging from the stoney faced to the incredibly joyous, but as in any very strict community they try to deal with things "in house" and can resist bringing shame upon themselves, resulting in distorted justice.
NB I have only had wonderful times in the company of charedim.
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TEX — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 22:12
man this is a hot topic :!:
its only been a few days and its 5 pages already!
im totally disgusted with ppl's backwards views on this subject - u shud be ashamed of ur selves
100 how would u define modesty (for men and women) in Judaism?
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peacegirl — Sat, 28 Oct 2006 - 23:32
tex tex tex!!!! my views are not backwards!!
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*DUST* — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 01:34
actually he only seems to be doing YOUR head in Ed, everyone else gets on fine with judda. whats with the animosity? people don't tell you to shut up when you're having a rant. :roll:
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*DUST* — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 01:51
you've been going on about this judda... got the statistics to prove it?
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*DUST* — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 01:09
khan you make me sick. you could have atleast kept your dirty thoughts to yourself, no need to confess on a public (that too, islamic) forum. judda that applies to you too.
and khan you should be ashamed of yourself, how dare you refer to a woman like that^, makes you sound like a sexist.
:evil:
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The Great 100 — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 03:34
Jewish religious women are expected to cover their elbows and knees and to wear something up to the neck. The strictest rulings include covering ankles, having a high neckline and avoiding a tight fit. Married women must cover their hair with a hat, headscarf or a modest wig called a sheitl. I have known fairly religious women to wear an attractive wig and wondered if they are missing the point, but those same women might also tend to be a bit liberal about skirts and sleeves. (I don't have a problem with that, just I find it a bit inconsistent.) Many of the "modern orthodox" (not charedi) ladies I know have been known to dress quite attractively. More here. The male dress code is a lot less specific. The laws of tzniut expect a man to behave in a modest manner also and to dress smartly. Additionally men must wear tzitzit, but that is not an issue of modesty.
On the topic under more general discussion I can find a good woman attractive regardless of whether she is demure or outgoing, but I think if one is opting for a virtuous life one is bound to be attracted to modesty, although not a policy of total secrecy or ugliness. In any case I don't consider that a purely sexual attraction.
I doubt rapists have a consistent preference except those bigots who believe "immodesty" is an excuse to be nasty and vile.
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The Great 100 — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 04:00
Showkat's contribution is here. It is mostly evasive. Ed has locked the thread because the subject is under discussion here.
Showkat,
Your link had a space in it. Having established that I did manage to view it, although it is a link to an article with an inaccurate headline. Here is the breakdown given in the link:
Spot the difference?
Nice angle. I bet no one has tried that.
What the Imam said:
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khan — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 11:37
Gotta say thats a very well written piece Showkat, mashAllah.
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TEX — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 14:59
Showkats cliams that women that where less are more likly to get raped can be easily refuted:
In the USA women where less and less every year but rape cases are declining!
Besides if women where less are they really more attractive?
GIRLS: do you beleive that if a women where less and less she will magically look better?
of course u bloody dont so why do you expect guys to think like that?
i bet there is not one guy in this forum that has not been attracted to a hijabi
are lap dancers, pole dancers, strippers, and female porn stars more likly to get raped then the avarage woman? do you beleive that women will go into a proffession where they know that they are more likly to get raped? There is no evidence to support the claim that lap dancers, pole dancers, strippers, and female porn stars are raped more often then the avarge woman.
IMO the strict islamic dress code is suppose to indicate "i`m not interested" it does very little, if anyting to protect the woman.
Not being immuned to naked flesh creates perverts, there eyes only pop out MORE at women. From my experience and other ppl's experice, men in muslim countries LOOK MORE AND LONGER at women.
Anyways the headcovering creates no barrier for rape or zina.
"But TEX the headscarf is ugly so the woman is suppose to look ugly too"
A women covering her hair with a headscarf, bandana, hat, or those things many jewish women where (i dont know what they are called), is irrelevent. Most hats and bandanas are ugly too. But will the girls who where them look ugly too? no ofcourse not, sum will look terible without it!
And you can get elegent jilbabs everywhere, does a woman who chooses to where a stylish jilbab as opposed to an ugly one `asking to be raped`?
In Islam rape is worse then murder.
When you murder sum1 u end thier life, when u rape a girl u utterly destroy her life to a point she does not want to exist.
Why don't muslims treat rape worse then murder?
If sum1 killed my sister ppl will be sympathetic to my family and hate the murderer. But if my sister was raped ppl would blame my sister and sum sick muslims will have sympathy for the rapist because "it would not be his foult he was tempted".
She dresses modestly according the place she is in i.e. in saudi she
wheres niqab, in England where jeans and a top, in a beach wheres a mini skirt and a halter neck top (while other girls there where bikinis or walk round topless i consider that to be modest considering the place she is in), at work she wears a ankle length skirt and a blouse.... a swimming costume when swimming (only women allowed there tho),you get the gist....
in all those situations she is not dressed "indecently", if she is, indecent to who's standerds? your standerds? ur cultures standerds?
Islamically she would be wrong in all those situations with saudi being an exception, and in a womens only pool i think islamically she would be allowed to where a swimming costume- however correct me if i am wrong on that.
Is she asking to be raped? is she more likely to be raped?
Is a kafir western lass whearing skin tight jeans and top immodest? to who's standerds?
do you beleive that Jessica Simpson is modest? she claims she is and she say's that she likes to leave something for the imagination, after looking at her i have no imgination left! 😛
normal men do NOT rape, abnormal men do.
Any body that claims that men who rape are normal shud be shot dead.
Can we univerally agree on what is modest?
in the amazon rain forest a man covering his bits is modesty.
Are naked tribal women raped more? ofcourse they bloody aint!
What i hate about these erenous claims that what u where matters is that it blames the lady.
Can you prove a lap dancer, pole dancer, female stripper, female porn star is ANY safer then a women covered top to toe in saudi?
To claim that what you where matters is just as "logical" as beleiving the earth is flat!
infact one of the cheif imams in saudi said that the earth is flat and that any body who disagrees is an infidel!
i dont belive that earth is flat, so that makes me a kafir innit?
WRONG!
claiming what u where matters is just as stupid
its backwards
Rape cases are so bloody high in the muslim world where women are covered from top to toe. Normal men dont rape, abnormal ones do, they will NOT CARE about what u look like.
my sisters always put tonnes of make-up, jewelry, "pretty" clothes on my 6 year old little sister. They always try out new hair styles on her. i HATE it when they put hot pants, mini-skirts and outragous tops on her. It makes her look like every pedophiles dream date :!: :x :x . My parents dont mind how they dress her up coz she is young yet. There are loads of convicted pedophiles everywhere, how do u know ur childs teacher is not?
Whenever i tell them not to dress her like that they start calling me a "wierdo", but i am not being wierd i am just concerned.
where do we draw the line?
a pedophile is just as abnormal as a rapist.
Besides in Muslims countries all the pressure is on the women, where is the pressure on men?
men are occasionally told to subdue there eyes, but they dont, can anyone honestly say that men in muslim countries stare less?
are they told off for staring at women?
and what about women who choose to where a bit less?
whats with the double standerds?
And why do most women and men but all the pressure on women?
Why is a woman told to be ashamed of her self for whearing less?? why not a guy for staring?
Men rape, women dont, so why the pressure on women and not men? which sex is capable of committing the crime?
In the muslim world men are brought up to believe that they cannot control themselves, and that is the problem.
There something wrong with u if u continually point ur finger at women, and i am not even gonna begin to describe the punishment in hell for sexist people!! tiz bad :shock:
the ironic thing is it is women looking down at women, and they think they know what men think! this is preposterous
PS i am sorry for the innapropriate stuff me and khan sed
PPS sorry for the long post
PPPS apart from me how many guys have been told off for staring at women?
ws
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TEX — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 15:10
ppl grossly over estimate the effect of clothes
and grossly underestimate the effect of curiosity
why do men in muslim countries look at girls stare more and for longer?
it cant be because of the way they are dressed!
its because they are curious to see what is underneath :twisted:
there is no other explantion for it
the strict dress code does NOT protect women, paradoxly it has created more perverts,
can we reverse this problem?
now the damage is done we can`t
the eyes may be the window to the heart but curiosity is the CURSE of the human brain :twisted:
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TEX — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 15:54
100 i heard yossef prohibited sephardi`s to where wigs?
what % of the jews in israel are Ashkenazi??
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The Great 100 — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 16:47
Some Sephardim argue from a post-Talmudic machloket (difference of opinion) against wearing a sheitl although I know a number who do wear sheitls. There are other types of head covering. Sheitls have only been around for a few hundred years. Many rabbis deemed they were an acceptable form of head covering. Both lines of reasoning seem sensible to me.
In the diaspora Jews who travelled in different directions following conquest of ancient Israel held to different minhagim (customs and interpretations of law). Descendents of Jews who moved through Italy and into Europe and Russia are called Ashkenazim, Jews who moved through Africa and Spain are called Sephardim. Some theories, widely contested, point to the conversion of the Khazars as an explanation for the preponderance of Ashkenazim, and the numbers of Sephardim were decimated by various conquests of the Middle East, the Spanish Inquisition and the subsequent conversions and expulsions from Portugal. I would need to be a lot more educated on Jewish demographics to provide much more than this by way of explanation and it is quite speculative. Additionally many who settled in the Middle East are called Mizrachi (Persian) and Temani (Yemeni and Omani) and the Jews of India, China and Africa are often called Bene Yisrael, Kaifeng Jews and Beta Yisrael respectively. Georgia's quite ancient Jewish community is Gruzini. The majority of Jews worldwide today (over 60%) are Ashkenazim and another 20% are Sephardim, primarily of North African, Spanish, Portugese and South American origin. (More here.) Mostly the only key distinctions are in the prayer services and some customs eg at Passover Sephardim consider rice an acceptable grain whereas Ashkenazim abstain throughout the holiday. Ashkenazim and Sephardim intermingle very freely. (More here. Including some things I had never noticed about specific ethnicities in Israel. And this is quite interesting.) Just now I couldn't find clear statistics so I will guess and infer that perhaps some 45-55% of Israeli Jews are Ashkenazi and some 30-40% are Sephardi (including some who have abandoned a more specific identity mentioned above). One more link. I have tried.
(I have listed all your old questions and will begin posting answers through the week. They may be easier than I imagined. I have indeed been putting it off. :oops: Once I have done that I hope there are no arguments and that my answers will be quietly accepted or rejected and that anyone eager for clarification or with more questions will PM me for the most part. That is because I am disappointed with myself for taking so long and also because we have no real animosity and the Q&As might not reflect that. Also these conversations can last forever and I would like at some point to wean myself off the forum except maybe for the occasional comment or article.)
B'shalom
Sorry for posting a long off-topic comment.
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The Great 100 — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 16:49
(TEX,
btw Yossef written on its own like that would generally refer to the son of Yisrael (also called Yaakov) in the Torah. This was long before the Talmud and the diaspora so maybe it is a specific Rav Yossef you are referring to.)
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TEX — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 16:52
thank you brother 😃
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The Great 100 — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 16:56
Pleasure bro. 😃
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TEX — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 18:04
i got statistics from mid-eastern newspapers
and one of ma cousins magazines
remember the statistics only show those that were reported :?
and theres the small amount of women in the west that falsly accuse men :?
fat chance of being falsely accused in the muslim world!
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stmark — Sun, 29 Oct 2006 - 19:39
Where do you want it from? It happened in australia but he is an egyptian sheik named Hilal and this isn't the first time he has caused trouble. He has been asked to resign but he refuses to. Muslim women upset about it as well as non muslims and I wouldn't be surprised if he ends up being deported.
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