"Aasiyah" wrote:

and moral of the story ppl: don't get urselves into this stupid rut in the first place!! :roll:

wise words BUT i dont think any1 gets themselves purposefully into these situations. sometimes they just happen?

"Med" wrote:

"Aasiyah" wrote:

and moral of the story ppl: don't get urselves into this stupid rut in the first place!! :roll:

wise words BUT i dont think any1 gets themselves purposefully into these situations. sometimes they just happen?

What you suddenly wake up to find yourself in a friendship with someone of the opposite sex.... i dont think so.

Its intentional.... the fall for the other person isnt.

Dont get them mixed up

yeh, i was on abt the falling for the other person, obviously being friends with some1 can be controlled, but what if falling just happens without being friends without seeing each other, without expecting it or wanting it?

"Med" wrote:

yeh, i was on abt the falling for the other person, obviously being friends with some1 can be controlled, but what if falling just happens without being friends without seeing each other, without expecting it or wanting it?

Can you fall without seeing them???

Unless your refering to love of the prophet(pbuh) or love of Allah(swt) then thats different.

"Med" wrote:

yeh, i was on abt the falling for the other person, obviously being friends with some1 can be controlled, but what if falling just happens without being friends without seeing each other, without expecting it or wanting it?

ahh, here we go agen, lol. ok for the sake of argument (as last time Med brought this up y'all just laughed at him and didnt say much else) lets say u do fall for someone this way... y tho i.e. wot wud b the reason?

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"Med" wrote:

"Seraph" wrote:

Can you fall without seeing them???

How wud I know? Im just suggesting.

Are you saying u cant fall for someone without seeing them?

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y tho i.e. wot wud b the reason?

hey, dont try turning this into a post about me. I was just saying that sometimes it might be that u fall for som1 withou wanting, expecting, trying or even adopting the means for it.

leave me out of it!

lol ok fine. so in this hypothetical situation, wot do u think wud b the reason for one to fall for someone?

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as in he falls for her on an intellectual level? the way she thinks etc?

i dunno, y u asking ME all these qsns?
leave me alone. . ..

soz med, just answering earlier post

med whats gowin on eh?

"naj" wrote:

med whats gowin on eh?

nawt

i suppose it could happen. is that not what happens when a guy and girl write to each other? or if they just talk on phone? have i got the wrong end of the stick?

"Med" wrote:

i dunno, y u asking ME all these qsns?
leave me alone. . ..

Med you asked the question. Created the hypothetical scenario.

Gave huge info...

Is there something you wanna tell us???

lol, didnt think you were the type but alrite, lets indulge you for a minute.

IMO its not possible to fall for some1 without actually meeting them.

"Med" wrote:

I was just saying that sometimes it might be that u fall for som1 withou wanting, expecting, trying or even adopting the means for it.

Med... you really are a novice. Its never intentional... it always...JUST HAPPENS. You cant force such things. Which is why we say prevention is better than cure. Cut yourself out of a situation where this may occur and you've saved yourself a lot of heartache.

Now tell me... whose the girl?

"Med" wrote:

"Aasiyah" wrote:

and moral of the story ppl: don't get urselves into this stupid rut in the first place!! :roll:

wise words BUT i dont think any1 gets themselves purposefully into these situations. sometimes they just happen?

Well if you decide to be friends with sum1 of the opposite sex (which many have said, male and female as friends = no such thing) then you cant say you didnt see it comin when you develop feelings for them or vice versa.

"fizzy1" wrote:

i suppose it could happen. is that not what happens when a guy and girl write to each other? or if they just talk on phone? have i got the wrong end of the stick?

Theres no stick involved.

seraph- do you always have to wind me up

why cant a guy and girl be friends though. i mean i understand if you meet and chat alone, there is room for you to fall for each other, but is there less chance of sinning and falling for each other if you are in a group?

"fizzy1" wrote:

seraph- do you always have to wind me up

why cant a guy and girl be friends though. i mean i understand if you meet and chat alone, there is room for you to fall for each other, but is there less chance of sinning and falling for each other if you are in a group?

What if your group isnt with you? the guy and you (not you just using the word "you" to give an exmple) are left alone, what would you do, walk out of the situation, would be a lil akward cuz you know the person cuz you knew them thru mates, so you would feel obliged to talk to them out of good manners....i duno maybe i am just blabin!

yes i understand. but how likely is it for members of the opposite sex to never be friends? it will happen more often than not these days. maybe its a case of ppl being more aware of the potential situations they get themselves into

"fizzy1" wrote:

yes i understand. but how likely is it for members of the opposite sex to never be friends? it will happen more often than not these days. maybe its a case of ppl being more aware of the potential situations they get themselves into

Well it is possible cuz i have been at school and now doin my third yr at uni and have no guy "mates" number in my fone nor have i hanged about with any guys, if i have spoken to guy at uni/work then i have kept it strictly to work related or general uni talk or answering their questions regarding islam...one can avoid these situations.

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its a joke yeh, i wud never like a man, that is perversion. actually my post was crude im gonna delete it.

"Med" wrote:

its a joke yeh, i wud never like a man, that is perversion. actually my post was crude im gonna delete it.

lol, i'll delete your quote i guess.

"fizzy1" wrote:

yes i understand. but how likely is it for members of the opposite sex to never be friends? it will happen more often than not these days. maybe its a case of ppl being more aware of the potential situations they get themselves into

wots so difficult bout it? u can b polite and to the point when u need to chat to guys; but out of school/work/uni hours, theres no need to chat, meet up, etc.

"Seraph" wrote:

"Med" wrote:

i dunno, y u asking ME all these qsns?
leave me alone. . ..

Med you asked the question. Created the hypothetical scenario.

Gave huge info...

Is there something you wanna tell us???

lol, didnt think you were the type but alrite, lets indulge you for a minute.

IMO its not possible to fall for some1 without actually meeting them.

"Med" wrote:

I was just saying that sometimes it might be that u fall for som1 withou wanting, expecting, trying or even adopting the means for it.

Med... you really are a novice. Its never intentional... it always...JUST HAPPENS. You cant force such things. Which is why we say prevention is better than cure. Cut yourself out of a situation where this may occur and you've saved yourself a lot of heartache.

Now tell me... whose the girl?

lol, Seraph dont tel me u havent seen Med's 'love' thread? where hav u been boy? since we're getting a bit off track here, i might aswell bring back Med's thread... (sorry Med!)

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"Aasiyah" wrote:

lol, Seraph dont tel me u havent seen Med's 'love' thread? where hav u been boy? since we're getting a bit off track here, i might aswell bring back Med's thread... (sorry Med!)

lol that was funny, that thread said it all!

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