Rejection/Failure

MuslimSisLilSis —

How do u deal with failure?

I just failed my first driving test a few weeks ago and I was - 😢 - all evening long.

Other then that-I havent really failed anything in life

How do u lot deal with rejection or failure?

Are u so used to it that it's no big deal to you anymore? :twisted:

Or are u one of them who bottles up your emotions when you've been rejected or failed something and act like everythings all good?

or are u one of them sad ppl who has got rejected/failed once in life became all depressed and never pursued anything ever again?

State your biggest/worst rejection/failure

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UmarIbnAlKatb — Thu, 27 Apr 2006 - 14:05

You use the miracle Allah has blessed us with - dua.

What may initially seem like failure/rejection/end of the road may turn out to be for the best.

Seriously, dua is a miracle, its saved me so many times. Allah is there, full of mercy, he's just waiting for us to ask.

ws

*DUST* — Thu, 27 Apr 2006 - 14:40

SeraphimThe official term for what Admin has (fear of failing) is Atychiphobia.

nAS786see admin take some advice from your members and conquer your fear of failure

but does admin really have a 'fear of failure'? i thought he's just not bothered (as with everything else). lol.

iRazor — Thu, 27 Apr 2006 - 20:09

*DUST*

SeraphimThe official term for what Admin has (fear of failing) is Atychiphobia.

nAS786see admin take some advice from your members and conquer your fear of failure

but does admin really have a 'fear of failure'? i thought he's just not bothered (as with everything else). lol.

Well then, lets conquer the have-to-do-summin-phobia AKA Laziness 😃

Seraphim — Thu, 27 Apr 2006 - 20:50

Adminwhy bother?

bcoz if you dnt... we'll shoot you in the arm... then see if you're still lazy enough not to call the paramedics.

lol, bro... you sound depressed. What did you do? Or what didnt you do?

You — Thu, 27 Apr 2006 - 20:53

I just find that a very good question.

If you have a good convincing answer to why? and 'what's the point' then it may actually be worth doing.

Just like worry. Laziness has nothing to do with worry. But I rarely worry. Why? becasue it would not make any diference. So what is the point in worrying? just forget about it. simple.

Seraphim — Thu, 27 Apr 2006 - 20:57

AdminI just find that a very good question.

If you have a good convincing answer to why? and 'what's the point' then it may actually be worth doing.

Just like worry. Laziness has nothing to do with worry. But I rarely worry. Why? becasue it would not make any diference. So what is the point in worrying? just forget about it. simple.

worrying is a sign that you care... to not worry is to not care.

so why dont you care Admin?? You can tell me... im a special angel. 😃

And i dont mean special like that kid who lives at the end of my street i mean special as in 'Special K' and thats another thing... whatever happened to the 'Regualr K'?

MuslimSister — Fri, 28 Apr 2006 - 15:29

Some people by nature are just extremely laid back people....whilst others can not sit still for even 5min.

My sisters very care free attitude to life has always frustrated me in the past.

TPOS — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 - 01:37

iRazor

AdminNo I do not digg.

Better get a shovel n start practising.

Admin
I am way too realistic for all that malarky.

Either I can pass or not. If I can pass, I can also mess it up, so care is needed. But if I cannot, its just a lost cause.

emotions really only come into it when you put too much pressure on yourself, or are not sure which category you fit in.

lets take a previous example. Driving test. Some people fail 5 before passing. some pass 1st time round. when its ya 1st test, wat do u do? think, oh forget it, im not gonna pass... b fatalistic? If so, then u cant get nowher in life.

Wen u go for a job interview, either u get the job, oru do not, 50/50. What do u do? take the chance at failing? or keep signing on at jobcentre+

It used to b jobcentre, they made it jobcentre plus, to make people feel better or summin.

When its time u feel u wanna get married. Ur parents kno of a nice girl in another town. U think, if i go there, i mite like her, but i mite not, she mitelike me, or she mite not. Wat do u do? hmmmm......

Seems its time to get rid of the fail-o-phobia. So wat u fail, u gotta fail in life a few times before u pass. n how u gonna pass if or fail, if u jus do not try?

Again, back to sparrin with ma cuzns. I aint practised Martial arts in a few years, but evrytime me n ma cuzns get together we end up sparrin neway. Now, they stay in practise, im out of practise. Wat do i do?Chicken out? I might get beaten up, lets not even try!!! Hell NAW. Ima still get in there, let the adrenaline take control, n go with the flow. Forget this fatalitic attitude, its the reason so many asians r so uneducated n ignorant.

V born here most of us asian youngsters. V think, oh forget it, wat point getin an education, im asian, no-one likes asians, they not gonna gimme a job, why go thru bother of becomin educated. So what do they do? Some work, at take-aways, factories, sell drugs. Most they'll do is open an off-license (which is haram, but they dnt care, they uneducated, ghetto folk, they apparantly got no choice).

V wanna coast thru life, thinking its all hunky-dory, v dnt need to do nethin, no1 expects me to do nethin, my mates arent doin nething. Whats point, im jus gonna fail.

Is that what the 300 man army of muslims said when 1000's of kuffar came to attack them?

Is that wat the 200 or so hafiz-ul-quran said when they fought off the army of Musaylimah in the time of Abu Bakr r.a.'s Caliphate? 200 or so men, who had the quran upon their hearts, that educated with them, they fought off thousands of enemies, followers of musaylimah the false prophet.

V need to look bck to our past, we say we are proud to be muslim, without understanding waht the muslims of the past were like. Some fools who drive around all day, no job nuffin, smokin weed, say, "im proud to b paki" they hav no idea what struggles people went thru to create pakistan. How hard Alama Iqbal r.a. , Quaid - e-Azam r.a. etc worked, how they sacrificed their whole lives, trying to achieve an aim, which was considered impossible, did they say "iqbal, what if we fail?, lets giv up without trying i dunt want to fail". NO, they had a goal, thru hard work, patience, n faith, they went thru with it, n created a country, a nation.

Am i saying education is for everyone? no, wat im sayin is that every should educate themselves upto a certain extent in secular education, then in religious education. Then work towards an aim. There should be no thought of "forget it, im realistic, im gonna fail, so lets not try".

Lets realise a life long goal, n work hard at achieving it, n pray for guidance. Lets stop fatalistic attitudism. Lets action plan our lives. Let us all encourage one another, rather than put one another down. lets not become road-block for other people, lets become transport for others, lets help others, by helping ourselves 1st.

Admin how could you give a one sentence reply to this great comment? {shakes head}

LookingToSee — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 - 21:00

LOOL Feef!!

who's bringing up those old topics..tis..nostalgic seeing Seraph's post LOL..

rejection? failure? what are those words? seems i've never learnt those...

😛

i kid, but you believed me didntya!?

TPOS — Thu, 25 Aug 2011 - 22:53

LillyLOOL Feef!!

who's bringing up those old topics

It was a spammer who was giving other spammers tips on how to spam forums! lol

LookingToSee — Fri, 26 Aug 2011 - 00:40

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE

LillyLOOL Feef!!

who's bringing up those old topics

It was a spammer who was giving other spammers tips on how to spam forums! lol

ROFL! and i missed that?!!