Marriage expectations

LookingToSee —

So..what would "high expectations" be for you?

and...we were talking about difference between Criterias and Expectations. So what do you guys think the difference is?

where is the line drawn?

dont hate on me for creating a new topic..i just thought it'd be better than posting on an old topic and making it into this LOoooonnng topic that next generation revivalers wont be bothered to read (as i have experienced myself :P)

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MuslimBro — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 - 17:12

Lillywhat's meant by sacred..i dont think i get it...

You are effectively tied into by a contract, thus the punishment (EDIT) for zina is harsher when married?

The couple in this world will be reunited in Jannah?

I don't know.

s.b.f — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 - 15:19

MuslimBro
The couple in this world will be reunited in Jannah.

Is this actually true?

What if they don't want to be?

Noor — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 - 16:33

only if they want to be.

your marriage on earth ends when you die.

you can remarry in jannah if you want.

You — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 - 18:34

Nooronly if they want to be.

your marriage on earth ends when you die.

you can remarry in jannah if you want.

What if you werent married in this world?

LookingToSee — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 - 18:39

You

Nooronly if they want to be.

your marriage on earth ends when you die.

you can remarry in jannah if you want.

What if you werent married in this world?

married = nikah. why wouldnt you be married?

You — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 - 18:41

There can be situations where people who want to married can't.

ANother question, if one of the married couple dies and the other remarries... wont that lead to a weird situation?

TPOS — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 - 19:17

Lilly

You
Nooronly if they want to be.

your marriage on earth ends when you die.

you can remarry in jannah if you want.

What if you werent married in this world?


married = nikah. why wouldnt you be married?

LOL

and you might not be married because you just died before you got the chance to? etc etc

MuslimBro — Tue, 16 Nov 2010 - 21:04

YouANother question, if one of the married couple dies and the other remarries... wont that lead to a weird situation?

Scholars have already discussed this issue. I can't remember the answer though.

OceanWhich brings about a question, if men get hoors, what do women get?

You're not the first girl to ask that question.

As someone once said, "They shall have whatever they wish with their Lord." [Qur'an: Surat Zumar, 34]

Bilan — Sat, 4 Dec 2010 - 21:18

MuslimBro

Lillythe handwriting is SO hard to read...

Its not that hard. I've seen worse...esp doctors hand-writing.

If you thought the girl above (from the link) had high expectations. Take a look at this one-

Here is my list of the perfect boyfriend:

1. Shares all email and IM passwords

2. Has none, or only one, female friend

3. Tell's me when his only female friend calls

4. Tell's me when he goes basically anywhere

5. Family time doesn't interfere with our time too much

6. Doesn't want to/will not go out with friends w/o me

7. Doesn't want to/will not travel out of state w/o me to see friends

8. Rarely goes online to IM people, and tells me when he does. And doesn't email any females

9. Does not want to, and never looks at, other females

10. Call and texts a few times every hour or two

11. Never meets other women except when absolutely necessary (i.e. work)

PLEASE tells me that this is not true!!

and if it is and this girl got a boyfriend ANYTHING is possible or he is just that desperate...but if anyones was that desperate, they're surely one step from committing suicide????!

Bilan — Sat, 4 Dec 2010 - 21:19

s.b.f

MuslimBro
The couple in this world will be reunited in Jannah.

Is this actually true?

What if they don't want to be?

LOL! 😂

Bilan — Sat, 4 Dec 2010 - 21:22

Lillyfriend describe marriage as "scarily sacred" whats your opinion? how EDIT: "sacred" is marriage?

EDIT: thanks MB, yept meant saCred.

I think scared is more appropriate!!!

tbh, i dnt scare easily ( i dnt think anyhow) but atm, marriage is THE most scariest thing I can think of!!!

LookingToSee — Sun, 5 Dec 2010 - 06:53

be afffrrrraaaiidddd, be verrrryyyy affffrrrrrraaaaiiiiid!

first we're marriage dodgers then we're coffindodgers

(the image that comes to my mind when i think about this last word makes me laugh everytime, hence why i believe this word should be immortalize in the pages of forum :D)

Bilan — Sun, 5 Dec 2010 - 18:51

Lillybe afffrrrraaaiidddd, be verrrryyyy affffrrrrrraaaaiiiiid!

first we're marriage dodgers then we're coffindodgers

(the image that comes to my mind when i think about this last word makes me laugh everytime, hence why i believe this word should be immortalize in the pages of forum :D)

I already am! 🙁

seems to me its easier to be a coffin dodger than a marriage one! 😂

Aleena95 — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 - 20:17

Surely the ideal husband would be; taller than you, above average looking ;), good hearted, treats his girl like a princess, protective, makes you happy, caring and as long as your comfortable round him and can be yourself your sorted 🙂
Then if you treated him the same .. you should have a long lasting strong relationship 🙂

TPOS — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 - 21:56

Aleena95Surely the ideal husband would be; taller than you, above average looking

Lol you might need to lower your expectations but iA you'll get your ideal guy 😉 🙂

Bilan — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 - 22:24

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE

Aleena95Surely the ideal husband would be; taller than you, above average looking

Lol you might need to lower your expectations but iA you'll get your ideal guy 😉 :)

LOL. kick her when shes down will ya! ' you might need to lower ur expectations....all that was missing was 'it aint gonna happen love!' 😂

TPOS — Fri, 25 Mar 2011 - 22:30

lol I don't mean it won't happen, but if she doesn't find a man who's taller than her and above average looking, then she might wana settle for someone else, instead of not get married at all or something!

Jack the Ripper — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 - 08:35

Aleena95Surely the ideal husband would be; taller than you, above average looking ;), good hearted, treats his girl like a princess, protective, makes you happy, caring and as long as your comfortable round him and can be yourself your sorted 🙂
Then if you treated him the same .. you should have a long lasting strong relationship :)

Hah, u belong in a circus...
or in a meseum, people should actually have to pay to see u...

Jack the Ripper — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 - 08:48

Lillyfriend describe marriage as "scarily sacred" whats your opinion? how EDIT: "sacred" is marriage?

EDIT: thanks MB, yept meant saCred.

Sacred? yeah right, scary definetly, sacred not all, more like a ripoff, you end up getting up one morning laying next to a hairy cow you almost mistaken for your granny, but actually she's your wife, you loose all apetite for sexual relations and the only place u really have it is in your dreams, u hide from her and look at porn in the bathroom and squash it up and throw it out the window when u hear her coming just like you did when u where 13 and hid from your mum. You wake up to a mid life crisis, no, more like a nightmare on "elm street", only this time you can't press the "stop" button there is only one mode and thats "SUFFER"....

Bilan — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 - 19:15

Jack the Ripper

Lillyfriend describe marriage as "scarily sacred" whats your opinion? how EDIT: "sacred" is marriage?

EDIT: thanks MB, yept meant saCred.

Sacred? yeah right, scary definetly, sacred not all, more like a ripoff, you end up getting up one morning laying next to a hairy cow you almost mistaken for your granny, but actually she's your wife, you loose all apetite for sexual relations and the only place u really have it is in your dreams, u hide from her and look at porn in the bathroom and squash it up and throw it out the window when u hear her coming just like you did when u where 13 and hid from your mum. You wake up to a mid life crisis, no, more like a nightmare on "elm street", only this time you can't press the "stop" button there is only one mode and thats "SUFFER"....

dude...i think u need professional help...and what is with ur phobia of hairy ladies??? some kinda childhood related thing??? do tell!

TPOS — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 - 19:18

Bilan, you're scared of hairy ladies too aren't ya. I recall you saying something about women with sideburns... :twisted:

Bilan — Mon, 28 Mar 2011 - 19:27

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcEBilan, you're scared of hairy ladies too aren't ya. I recall you saying something about women with sideburns... :twisted:

LOL, u still remember tht?? haha

and thts not how it went actually!

Jack the Ripper — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 - 08:03

bilan
dude...i think u need professional help...and what is with ur phobia of hairy ladies??? some kinda childhood related thing??? do tell!

U c, women like to show off to people they don't really know, with money they don't really have, with things they don't really need.
Before marriage they wanna impress guys to probably get married, once they net the big fish they just don't care anymore about impressing him and all dat crap, so they only dress up or do their legs when they going out in public to impress strange men, just to get noticed, the poor ol chap they call husband, he's just there to pay the bills, and has to be content with a hairy ol hippo...

HAIRY WOMEN ARE GROSS, I DON'T NEED ANY CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCE TO TELL ME THAT!!!!!!

Jack the Ripper — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 - 08:04

bilan

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcEBilan, you're scared of hairy ladies too aren't ya. I recall you saying something about women with sideburns... :twisted:

LOL, u still remember tht?? haha

and thts not how it went actually!

c, I'm not the only one??

Bilan — Tue, 29 Mar 2011 - 12:36

Jack the Ripper

bilan
dude...i think u need professional help...and what is with ur phobia of hairy ladies??? some kinda childhood related thing??? do tell!

U c, women like to show off to people they don't really know, with money they don't really have, with things they don't really need.
Before marriage they wanna impress guys to probably get married, once they net the big fish they just don't care anymore about impressing him and all dat crap, so they only dress up or do their legs when they going out in public to impress strange men, just to get noticed, the poor ol chap they call husband, he's just there to pay the bills, and has to be content with a hairy ol hippo...

HAIRY WOMEN ARE GROSS, I DON'T NEED ANY CHILDHOOD EXPERIENCE TO TELL ME THAT!!!!!!

LOL! u know what u have to do now dont u???? find urself a girl that has amnesia...u know like in 50 first dates??? ull be a 'stranger' every day! 😂 wow...i should do this for a living...