Parents

i've tried everything but it just seems my and my parents can never get along they only ever see me as an irresponsible naughty little girl i once was!!!

no matter how hard i try to impress them/please them they will always find a fault

any advice anyone

one to one conversation? Explain to them how you feel and how you've changed?

Or you'll have to just show them through your actions I guess

It's hard cuz the negative image seems to stick harder than the changed one but inshaAllah eventually they will see you've changed.

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

Parents aren't the easiest to convince that you have changed. They can be stubborn (and I suspect that as people get older, childish ideas that you associate with children rear their heads again and to a greater degree)

However be glad that you have parents that atleast want the best for you instead of sabotaging your life. Those are the ones I can't understand.

You have to be patient and keep showing them until their eyes open.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

Parents v Children the eternal argument. It’s been going on since Adam was a boy.

Parents always think that their children are young and know less then they do, Also think that children only think they know, but yet have no experience in the real world.

Children think that their parents haven’t a clue and are still stuck in the past. Won’t or can’t adapt to the real world.

Parents also have a knack of making you feel guilty [no matter how old you are] and are just a pain. But you grit your teeth, bite your tongue. After all they are still your parents.

Children seem to think they know it all, won’t listen to advice. [Like what we did, if we are honest] and are just a pain. But you grit your teeth, bite your tongue.  After all they are still your children.

muslimah_81 i've tried everything but it just seems my and my parents can never get along they only ever see me as an irresponsible naughty little girl i once was!!!

no matter how hard i try to impress them/please them they will always find a fault

Don’t worry too much Muslimah_81 Even when you are older and maybe are a Mother, you will always be their little girl.

 

Make excuses for them. 

They are not getting any younger.  

 

Growing up I thought my parents were aliens literally 

now a parent myself I understand their sacrifice, unconditional love and how they always worry about me and want the best for me

parents are a gift from God as we are a gift for them

empathising with them is the key to understanding and working with them. Once you've reached a level of maturity they will see this and a mutual respect will develop inshallah.