By Shaykh Muhammad Salim Ghisa
Marriage is a sacred bond between a man and woman, which makes each other permissible for them to enjoy and live happily. Allah has described, in the most moving and eloquent terms, this eternal, natural relationship between man and woman, which is filled with security, love, understanding and compassion (Read More and comment)
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Filed under: Marriage — TheRevivalEditor @ 1:45 pm
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April 30th, 2006 at 5:29 pmMa’shaAllah, this is a well researched and clear article relating to marriage which is very important for all muslims to understand and follow.
May 1st, 2006 at 5:31 pmthis is great, but it would be nice if you can elaborate more on the secret marriage.
many thank
May 11th, 2006 at 7:40 pmmo
very good pieve of advice and information.
May 24th, 2006 at 1:23 pmAs former comments, I consider that this article is a good piece of advice and information. However, in practice we very little see this. why? and what can be done about it. Thanks.
July 25th, 2006 at 5:29 pmMasha Allah! The article is well-researched. I appreciate such effort to keep us in the know.
September 2nd, 2006 at 1:12 pmAsalaam Alaikum,
January 16th, 2007 at 3:38 pmthankyou for the website it has given a new found knowledge which i find both interesting and useful. I know someone who really likes me and we recently exchanged numbers and are talking frequently. howeber i have made it very clear i only ever want to be friends nothing more and he understands he is a very good friend and i was just wondering are we doing anything wrong by talking to each other as the other half did want something more are we doing anything wrong?we talk via email and text messages we do not talk face to face or meet up as he is studying at uni and i am studying at college.Jazak’Allah Khair
as-salaam-u-laykum
May 6th, 2007 at 8:49 pmmashallah great interes and facts about marridge will help youth alot may allh bless u with his mercy and may you continue writing about this paticular topic as it effects the youth alot nowadays
I have my own case regarding which I need advice.
I was engaged to a girl for a period of two months. I had never met the girl. I was abroad and she was in Pakistan.
After four years, I was asked by my parents to marry her again since she is devastated and has rejected three earlier proposals due to breakup. Feeling very bad, I gave it a go. The proposal was accepted but I was not allowed to meet the girl until the Nikah contract was signed. I asked to meet the girl or even just let me call her but I was not allowed.
After Nikah, I came to know that all was misleading that I was given a sob story. Can I contend forced Nikah and get it annuled? Much could have been stopped if I was allowed to meet the girl.
June 21st, 2007 at 3:24 amCan somebody clarify please. If a girl is being forced into a marriage which she has told her family she is not happy with but they are still making her go ahead with it and wont accept the man of her choice what should she do? Since it will then be a secret marriage which is not good in Islaam.
August 17th, 2007 at 6:06 pmIt will not be a “secret marriage”, but a forced one. She can not be Islamically married to two people, so a secret marriage does not come into it at all.
August 17th, 2007 at 9:43 pmso does that mean that if a girl is forced into a marriage….she is allowed 2 seek a divorce from her husband?
September 21st, 2007 at 5:39 pmShe can have it anulled or invalidated. As in not valid in the first case.
September 22nd, 2007 at 6:06 pmhi,i need your advice so cud u plz get bak to me asap,,
September 23rd, 2007 at 8:25 pmme and this guy basically want to get married,we hav aranged this with each other, and the guys family know about us aswel, an hav met me aswel. the only problem is that my parents hav arranged me to sum other guy wihin the family and say that i am engaged to him wich i had no idea about. i hav clearly refused to marry him but my family say that i wil hav to mary him no matter what i say. i want to tell my parents about this guy that i want to marry, but if i take that step, my father may physicaly hurt me and may also stop me from working and making my career. if he did that and i stil continued working with out his permission, would that be a bad thing?….
i have thought about the guy that i want to marry, and i can see my self living happy with this boy and his family is very good and down to earth…i no for a fact that my family will sa no to this marriage straight away, and will embaress the guys family and put them off the whole marrige issue….but me and this guy hav decided that we will giv them enough time ( 3- 4 yrs)and if we feel that nothing will make them agree,,we wil get marid and tel them we are geting marid and they are most welcome,,and hopefully the guys parents will cum round that to a they are hopeing that my parents will agree after they hav asked for my rishta…can you please tel me,,,wot eva am doing, is it ryt,,i am trying to b as fair as possible with my parents,,but they are fooling me by geting me arranged without teling me,,,my parents are the type who tink of others happyness and den do wat eva makes other(relatives) happy,,they care about their pride more than anything,,and will do n e ting for it,,,,please get bak to me,,thank you
Salaam
A good first step would be to talk to your parents and actually make sure what their stance is. You are assuming they will take a certain position. They may do so, but you need to do your bit too. If you have further questions, please use the contact form to talk to the Editor who may have some good advice.
September 23rd, 2007 at 11:19 pmwots da contact form,,,and also,,,im not assuming,,i no for a fact what they will say,,i jus need to know that what ever i hav planed,,is that ryt? am guessing its not, and if my parents do say no, i would probably agree to them but not marry any body else as i cant agree to anyone else,,but i also no dat its gunah not to get marid,,im confused, and i just need to no what i will need to do before i tell them, thank you!
September 26th, 2007 at 7:58 pmi got married against my familys wishes 7 years ago. after the marriage i got pregnant straight away and now have two children.. twins. anyway after i got pregnant the guys parents told me he was already married. this broke my heart. he then divorced his first wife as it was an arranged marriage. his parents and my parents have now accepted this. and family side is all good. however since i found out he lied to me and went behind my back and married me under the impression he was not already married, is this nikah valid. i have not had any sexual relations with my husband since discoverrin his lies. should i just leave and get married again or should i continue this miserable life. also as i have not been near my husband since he has had many affairs. what shall i do.
October 23rd, 2007 at 9:43 pmASALAMALLKUM
I need to know that if the gurls parents know that we are frocing our dauther to get married someone even they know that she not happy and she even dont like him but her parents still want her to marry that guy at this stituation what should women do ? are they allow to runaway from home and they can get married where ever they want or they just accpet froced married ?
August 8th, 2008 at 1:28 pm