lol. Gets worse when you get older Admin. Just ask my dad - he has to keep his parents happy, his wife happy, his kids happy, his two daughters and their in laws happy - and all of them are on different views and opinions at all times. Someone is always feeling wronged and unhappy.
And you still have to experience all that.
That sounds bleak.
I think I will bi-pass it - I am not very tolerant of other people's whims etc, so I doubt it would go too well.
Easier said than done - man by nature adores his wife, loves his mother and will always be fiercly protective of his children. And more than anything, he will want them all to get along.
I don't think its about whims neccessarily, it's more about love...if you love someone, you want to be with them and you want them to be there for you...not always easy, when there is only one of you, and you're expected to be there for all the different people in your life...someone, somwhere will be feeling wronged.
I want to become a neuropsychologist (InshaAllah) (ignoring the competitiveness and potential change of mind) that will take 10 years to do on average.
So I would be 28 by the time I finish.
My ideal age for marriage would be 24-26 (obviously if I'm fortunate enough to find someone )
How would that work?!
More importantly, I don't want to be an 'old' mum but having a kid before I reach my goal will hinder it and then I'll be oooooooold when I actually reach it. Don't really like that either.
I want to become a neuropsychologist (InshaAllah) (ignoring the competitiveness and potential change of mind) that will take 10 years to do on average.
So I would be 28 by the time I finish.
My ideal age for marriage would be 24-26 (obviously if I'm fortunate enough to find someone )
How would that work?!
More importantly, I don't want to be an 'old' mum but having a kid before I reach my goal will hinder it and then I'll be oooooooold when I actually reach it. Don't really like that either.
I dunno.
Marriage doesnt restrict life opportunities...You can do all that an get married young.
Unless you have kids straight away...then it might get a bit complicated.
I want to become a neuropsychologist (InshaAllah) (ignoring the competitiveness and potential change of mind) that will take 10 years to do on average.
(obviously if I'm fortunate enough to find someone )
mmmhhhhmmmh....
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"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"
I want to become a neuropsychologist (InshaAllah) (ignoring the competitiveness and potential change of mind) that will take 10 years to do on average.
(obviously if I'm fortunate enough to find someone )
mmmhhhhmmmh....
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The Lamp wrote:
Normally no, but you might have to make some compromises, for example if you want to go trekking and your partner isn't too keen on it.
My husband has been a huge support to me, as he is like-minded. I have led a very normal family life. My children are my prime responsibility, and I have tried my best to multi-task my role as a mother and a teacher efficiently. I have gone through the phases of pregnancy, giving birth, feeding and weaning my children and simultaneously continued my work. I recall going for my son’s birth to the hospital immediately after my class. It is all about time management. Women are naturally good at multi-tasking and they can do so much if they utilize their full potential.
I want to become a neuropsychologist (InshaAllah) (ignoring the competitiveness and potential change of mind) that will take 10 years to do on average.
(obviously if I'm fortunate enough to find someone )
mmmhhhhmmmh....
Do u wanna marry her??? mmmhhhhmmmmhhhhhh (tongue hangin out???)
Fifi ONE step at a time. Think abt ur situation in 3 years time. Reevaluate life and make decisions, or panic closer time! No point thinking abt it NOW or you'll just talk yourself out of it or if u don't manage then someone else would!
"Wifehood and Motherhood are NOT the Only Ways to Paradise"
“Why are you majoring in that field?” I asked a sister in college. She sighed, “To be honest, I just want to get married. I don’t really care about what I’m studying right now. I’m just waiting to get hitched so I can be a wife and a mother.”
“It’s awesome that she wants to be a wife and a mother, but why would she put her life on hold?” I wondered. Why would a skilled, passionate young woman create barriers to striving for self-improvement and her ability to be socially transformative when she doesn’t yet have the responsibilities of wifehood or motherhood? Being a wife and a mom are great blessings, but before it actually happens, why exchange tangible opportunities, just waiting for marriage to simply come along—if it came along? I didn’t have to look far to find out.
“I’m already twenty-six,” another sister lamented. “I’m expired. My parents are going crazy. They think I’m never going to get married and they pressure me about it daily. My mom’s friends keep calling her and telling her I’m not getting any younger. She keeps crying over it and says she’ll never be a grandma. It’s not like I don’t want to get married; I’ve been ready since college! I just can’t find the right guy,” she cried.
Why, as a general community, are we not putting the same pressure on women to encourage them to continue to seek Islamic knowledge? Higher education? To make objectives in their lives which will carry over and aid them in their future familial lives, if such is what is meant for them? Perhaps it’s because we’re obsessed with the idea that women need to get married and become mothers and that if they don’t, they have not reached true success.
We all know the honorable and weighty status of wifehood and motherhood in Islam. We all know that marriage completes half your deen1 and that the Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) has told us about the mother, “[…] Paradise is at her feet.”2
But getting married and becoming a mother is not the only way to get into Paradise. And not every grown woman is a wife and/or mother, nor will ever be. Some women will eventually become wives and/or mothers, if Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) blesses them with such, but for others, Allah (swt) has blessed them with other opportunities.
Allah (swt) did not create women for the sake of wifehood or motherhood. This is not our first goal, nor our end goal. Our creation was to fulfill our first and most important role—to be His SLAVE. As He tells us in Surah Dhaariyat (Chapter of the Winnowing Winds), “And I did not create the jinn and humankind except to worship Me.”3
Worship comes in such a variety of forms. Being a housewife (a.k.a. domestic engineer!) can be a form of worship. Being a stay-at-home-mom can be a form of worship. Being a working wife and mother can be a form of worship. Being an unmarried female student can be a form of worship. Being a divorced female doctor, a female journalist, Islamic scholar, film director, pastry chef, teacher, veterinarian, engineer, personal trainer, lawyer, artist, nurse, Qur’an teacher, psychologist, pharmacist or salon artist can each be a form of worship. Just being an awesome daughter or house-fixer upper can be forms of worship. We can worship Allah (swt) in a variety of ways, as long as we have a sincere intention, and what we do is done within the guidelines He has set for us.
Why, as a general community, are we not putting the same pressure on women to encourage them to continue to seek Islamic knowledge? Higher education? To make objectives in their lives which will carry over and aid them in their future familial lives, if such is what is meant for them? Perhaps it’s because we’re obsessed with the idea that women need to get married and become mothers and that if they don’t, they have not reached true success.
just when i was about to say..yeah yeah another article about some woman who wants us to get degrees when degree knowledge is not the knowledge that is compulsory upon us i read the bold bit.
i would have liked this article anyway, but now i really like it
am i the only one who can-ish?
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Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
Easier said than done - man by nature adores his wife, loves his mother and will always be fiercly protective of his children. And more than anything, he will want them all to get along.
I don't think its about whims neccessarily, it's more about love...if you love someone, you want to be with them and you want them to be there for you...not always easy, when there is only one of you, and you're expected to be there for all the different people in your life...someone, somwhere will be feeling wronged.
I want to become a neuropsychologist (InshaAllah) (ignoring the competitiveness and potential change of mind) that will take 10 years to do on average.
So I would be 28 by the time I finish.
My ideal age for marriage would be 24-26 (obviously if I'm fortunate enough to find someone
)
How would that work?!
More importantly, I don't want to be an 'old' mum but having a kid before I reach my goal will hinder it and then I'll be oooooooold when I actually reach it. Don't really like that either.
I dunno.
multi tasking.
Besides I doubt you will be in constant education for 10 years.
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"Honourable people don't do anything in the name of honour." You, circa January 2011 "Be good, do good and God will help you."
TEN YEARS! *falls down* wouaw.
multitasking indeed
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Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
Marriage doesnt restrict life opportunities...You can do all that an get married young.
Unless you have kids straight away...then it might get a bit complicated.
mmmhhhhmmmh....
—
"Verily, in the remembrance of Allah, do hearts find rest"
Normally no, but you might have to make some compromises, for example if you want to go trekking and your partner isn't too keen on it.
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"If you stand for nothing, you'll fall for anything!"
Motto of Outlandish
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Are you replyin to the OP?
http://wp.farhathashmi.com/?page_id=1159
(She's on the list of '500 Most Influential Muslims-2010' )
Can't really say I'm naturally good at multi-tasking but...
Do u wanna marry her??? mmmhhhhmmmmhhhhhh (tongue hangin out???)
Fifi ONE step at a time. Think abt ur situation in 3 years time. Reevaluate life and make decisions, or panic closer time! No point thinking abt it NOW or you'll just talk yourself out of it or if u don't manage then someone else would!
—
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2Ncxk88jZ0A
"Wifehood and Motherhood are NOT the Only Ways to Paradise"
“Why are you majoring in that field?” I asked a sister in college. She sighed, “To be honest, I just want to get married. I don’t really care about what I’m studying right now. I’m just waiting to get hitched so I can be a wife and a mother.”
“It’s awesome that she wants to be a wife and a mother, but why would she put her life on hold?” I wondered. Why would a skilled, passionate young woman create barriers to striving for self-improvement and her ability to be socially transformative when she doesn’t yet have the responsibilities of wifehood or motherhood? Being a wife and a mom are great blessings, but before it actually happens, why exchange tangible opportunities, just waiting for marriage to simply come along—if it came along? I didn’t have to look far to find out.
“I’m already twenty-six,” another sister lamented. “I’m expired. My parents are going crazy. They think I’m never going to get married and they pressure me about it daily. My mom’s friends keep calling her and telling her I’m not getting any younger. She keeps crying over it and says she’ll never be a grandma. It’s not like I don’t want to get married; I’ve been ready since college! I just can’t find the right guy,” she cried.
Why, as a general community, are we not putting the same pressure on women to encourage them to continue to seek Islamic knowledge? Higher education? To make objectives in their lives which will carry over and aid them in their future familial lives, if such is what is meant for them? Perhaps it’s because we’re obsessed with the idea that women need to get married and become mothers and that if they don’t, they have not reached true success.
We all know the honorable and weighty status of wifehood and motherhood in Islam. We all know that marriage completes half your deen1 and that the Prophet ﷺ (peace be upon him) has told us about the mother, “[…] Paradise is at her feet.”2
But getting married and becoming a mother is not the only way to get into Paradise. And not every grown woman is a wife and/or mother, nor will ever be. Some women will eventually become wives and/or mothers, if Allah subhanahu wa ta`ala (exalted is He) blesses them with such, but for others, Allah (swt) has blessed them with other opportunities.
Allah (swt) did not create women for the sake of wifehood or motherhood. This is not our first goal, nor our end goal. Our creation was to fulfill our first and most important role—to be His SLAVE. As He tells us in Surah Dhaariyat (Chapter of the Winnowing Winds), “And I did not create the jinn and humankind except to worship Me.”3
Worship comes in such a variety of forms. Being a housewife (a.k.a. domestic engineer!) can be a form of worship. Being a stay-at-home-mom can be a form of worship. Being a working wife and mother can be a form of worship. Being an unmarried female student can be a form of worship. Being a divorced female doctor, a female journalist, Islamic scholar, film director, pastry chef, teacher, veterinarian, engineer, personal trainer, lawyer, artist, nurse, Qur’an teacher, psychologist, pharmacist or salon artist can each be a form of worship. Just being an awesome daughter or house-fixer upper can be forms of worship. We can worship Allah (swt) in a variety of ways, as long as we have a sincere intention, and what we do is done within the guidelines He has set for us.
Read the rest here
@ OP - "30's" is old.
@ last post "...but why would she put her life on hold..." is not positive wording by the author.
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"Honourable people don't do anything in the name of honour." You, circa January 2011 "Be good, do good and God will help you."
just when i was about to say..yeah yeah another article about some woman who wants us to get degrees when degree knowledge is not the knowledge that is compulsory upon us i read the bold bit.
i would have liked this article anyway, but now i really like it
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Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?
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