Superwomen-Necessity or Choice?

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"*DUST*" wrote:
"Ramz" wrote:
What can be a better expression of love than giving all that you own to your partner? Proving that his love for her is more valuable then his wealth.

lol. one of my aunts recently told me: 'you know your husband loves you when he cleans up after you when you're sick.'

i've heard that too

i thought the saying was

"you know he loves u when he holds ur hair back when u puke"

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:
"*DUST*" wrote:
"Ramz" wrote:
What can be a better expression of love than giving all that you own to your partner? Proving that his love for her is more valuable then his wealth.

lol. one of my aunts recently told me: 'you know your husband loves you when he cleans up after you when you're sick.'

i've heard that too

i thought the saying was

"you know he loves u when he holds ur hair back when u puke"

lol, be gratefull he's even there to do that.

If he's there and is concerned ... ofcourse he cares for you. He could be out doing a million things, but he's home tending to his sick wife... with no concern forhimself to become infected.

If thats not an example of his love... i dont what is.... and no i dont think buying her an expensive gift will help.

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"Seraphim" wrote:
"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:
"*DUST*" wrote:
"Ramz" wrote:
What can be a better expression of love than giving all that you own to your partner? Proving that his love for her is more valuable then his wealth.

lol. one of my aunts recently told me: 'you know your husband loves you when he cleans up after you when you're sick.'

i've heard that too

i thought the saying was

"you know he loves u when he holds ur hair back when u puke"

lol, be gratefull he's even there to do that.

Why? Some women are not only there for their husbands 24/7 tending to the needs when he is fit and healthy but also if he is ill, i am sure it's something the husband can and in some case will do. If a guy does that then that proves his love. Obv. one has to understand a guy has to work to earn a living but just calling from his work and popping in to see his wife at lunch if possible is a lot to show for.

a guy who considers his wife important loves her

today i was speaking to a girl on my road whose husband has gone on holiday to dubai for a week

why the hell couldnt he have taken her :evil:

Worker-mothers 'healthiest women'

Working mothers with steady relationships are the healthiest women - while housewives are the most likely to be obese, a UK study suggests.
Experts followed 1,200 women from 15 to 54 in the Journal of Epidemiology and Community Health study.

Some 23% of those with multiple roles were obese, compared with 38% among the long-term homemakers.

The researchers say the findings show the short-term stress of juggling roles is outweighed by long-term benefits.

Different lifestyles

Analysis of the information showed that by the age of 54 women who had been partners, parents and employees were significantly less likely to report ill health than women who did not fulfil all three roles.

Women who had been homemakers for all or most of their lives, and had not held down a job, were most likely to say their health was poor, followed by lone mothers and childless women.

Thirty-eight per cent of long-term homemakers were obese compared with 23% of working mothers who had had steady relationships.

Weight gain also tended to occur at a faster rate among the homemakers.

The researchers, led by Dr Anne McMunn of UCL's Department of Epidemiology and Public Health, said the findings showed good health was the result, not the cause, of adopting multiple roles during the women's lives.

'New men' still needed

Cary Cooper, professor of organisational psychology and health at Lancaster University, said: "There is no question that working mums suffer short term stress from juggling their personal and business life with, in many cases, little real support from their partners.

"But this constant juggling also means that women need, by necessity, to look after their health, are better able to prioritise their demands and are less sedentary than others."

But he added: "This does not mean that this should provide men with an excuse not to own up to their responsibilities in taking some of the burdens off of the juggling working mums - we still need 'new men'!"

Dr Gillian Braunold, a GP in Kilburn, north London, said: "There has been an argument that women who juggle work and motherhood don't have time to eat well, and that they have a lot of fast food.

"But they are probably running on adrenalin a lot of the time, and are always moving around.

"At the end of the day, you are what you eat and how much you exercise."

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"MuslimSister" wrote:
Wouldnt it be less of a headache if the man kept the money and dealt with the phone/gas/electric bill, payed the rent, council tax etc etc?
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Are you trying to say that women are not equipped to deal with such things?

"Seraphim" wrote:
"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:
"*DUST*" wrote:
"Ramz" wrote:
What can be a better expression of love than giving all that you own to your partner? Proving that his love for her is more valuable then his wealth.

lol. one of my aunts recently told me: 'you know your husband loves you when he cleans up after you when you're sick.'

i've heard that too

i thought the saying was

"you know he loves u when he holds ur hair back when u puke"

lol, be gratefull he's even there to do that.
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Why should women settle for such low standards?

"Ramz" wrote:
"MuslimSister" wrote:
Wouldnt it be less of a headache if the man kept the money and dealt with the phone/gas/electric bill, payed the rent, council tax etc etc?
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Are you trying to say that women are not equipped to deal with such things?

no... she is (probably) saying a man may be best equipped to deal with HIS money.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

actually its cos girls dont really have a clue when it comes to such things

unless they've managed it before

"Ramz" wrote:
"Seraphim" wrote:
"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:
"*DUST*" wrote:
"Ramz" wrote:
What can be a better expression of love than giving all that you own to your partner? Proving that his love for her is more valuable then his wealth.

lol. one of my aunts recently told me: 'you know your husband loves you when he cleans up after you when you're sick.'

i've heard that too

i thought the saying was

"you know he loves u when he holds ur hair back when u puke"

lol, be gratefull he's even there to do that.
.

Why should women settle for such low standards?

You're the one who said marry some1 whose on the same level... if thats what his level of behaviour is like then that means your level of behaviour is....

The thing with money is easy come easy go. But money wasting is disliked in Islam so watch what you spend it on.

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"Admin" wrote:
"Ramz" wrote:
"MuslimSister" wrote:
Wouldnt it be less of a headache if the man kept the money and dealt with the phone/gas/electric bill, payed the rent, council tax etc etc?
.

Are you trying to say that women are not equipped to deal with such things?

no... she is (probably) saying a man may be best equipped to deal with HIS money.

I'm generalising based on personal expereince that men are better at being responsible for financially running the household...

"MuslimSister" wrote:
"Admin" wrote:
"Ramz" wrote:
"MuslimSister" wrote:
Wouldnt it be less of a headache if the man kept the money and dealt with the phone/gas/electric bill, payed the rent, council tax etc etc?
.

Are you trying to say that women are not equipped to deal with such things?

no... she is (probably) saying a man may be best equipped to deal with HIS money.

I'm generalising based on personal expereince that men are better at being responsible for financially running the household...


i'd say its not so much 'better' but just that they're more used to doing it. that said i know plenty of couples who split this work between them, and usually the guys are so unorganised its the wives who know which bills are where. Wink

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many women i know handle the bills/paper work etc

but if u never done it-ur clueless

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:

but if u never done it-ur clueless

Just the way we like it Biggrin

lol... kidding. As a couple they're income should be open to both parties and if one partner doesnt take an interest in where all their money goes then they deserve what they get (you reap what you saw).

Its the guys money, he's worked hard for it, he's earned it, so imo its only him who will feel the pain if it just gets wasted. Ofcourse since the wifey has traditionally managed the house its really in her best interest to know what money goes where. And no thats not my under-handed way of saying women should stay at home, thats my way of saying pay attention to the guy... (lol take that whichever way u want).

Bottomline: Money is a necessity in this day and age, you afford to squander it and then complain that you dont have such a such thing.

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I’m trying to play the Superwoman at the moment….I’m working in an Islamic Summer school full time as well as trying to cook, clean and get the shopping in on a daily basis since my mother and sister are still in B’ham.

Its fun as I do love being active and busy and I sleep well at night…

However, my house is so dirty as I don’t have time to dust or hoover…I haven’t had time to do the laundry either. I can’t stand the fact that men are so lazy and messy….I come home daily to piles of washing up.

Could I live the rest of my life like this? Maybe, if the men in my life pulled their weight a bit more. But def not if I had dependent kids.

"MuslimSister" wrote:

I come home daily to piles of washing up.

Ever thought about one of those automatic washing machines, takes the stress out of washing Lol

We have a good dish washer...but it takes forever to load and wash dishes. Its quicker to wash dishes by hand.

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