for all the hijabis out der..HELP!

asalam alakum bros n sistas...i just becam hijabi a month ago n its hard i have to admit but isnt dat feeling suposed to go away by now..i new i was gna feel lyk o i wna take it off cos im not used to it but its still der deep inside..i dont want ppl to tink bad ov me or [b](EDIT)[/b] or netin lyk dat but i jus need help!

[b]No-one will think you are bad, or that banned word you mentioned, were here to help ---- NewModOnTheBlock[/b]

well done muslim princess.

you are doing a good thing. i myself dont feel i am ready to wear hijab yet. sometimes i do, and know i should more often, and wish i had the strength you have.

i guess i need to build my confidence too.

but my best friend wears it all the time. all the girls in her family do too. they do it out of choice. she says she feels naked without her hijab.

in uni i noticed the girls who wore hijab were so beautiful. they had a confidence that others did not have and i aspired to be like them.

i feel you need to speak to friends or family who also wear hijab and gain the confidence to keep wearing it.

you are doing a good thing and will need the support of ppl around you to keep doing it.

thanks 4 da support but i dont tink i can..im not comfurtable n i v 2 mates dat wear hijab n i no if 2moro i took it off det will call me slag n i dont want dem to..i mean no1 i no seen me except dem n i jus want dem to tnk bad..im da ONLY one in my hole family both sides dat wears it so i cnt talk to ne 1 bout it except those 2 girls n der jus gan talk bad about me..i dunno wat to do.i no dat hijab is a must but i not ready i duno if ppl wil understnd dt thogh

"muslim_princess" wrote:
thanks 4 da support but i dont tink i can..im not comfurtable n i v 2 mates dat wear hijab n i no if 2moro i took it off det will call me slag n i dont want dem to..i mean no1 i no seen me except dem n i jus want dem to tnk bad..im da ONLY one in my hole family both sides dat wears it so i cnt talk to ne 1 bout it except those 2 girls n der jus gan talk bad about me..i dunno wat to do.i no dat hijab is a must but i not ready i duno if ppl wil understnd dt thogh

Salam sis and welcome. I think its great your wearing a hijab. one thing always happens is ppl talk, they always have somethin to say and just rember no one except Allah (swt) can judge you. Just ask yourself why are u doin the hijab, is it to please Allah (swt)?

When one does a hijab Satan is always there to put doubts in your head, he always try to make you doubt your beliefs, even I felt doubtful when i first startin wearin it but now i cant leave the house without it. It takes time, just pray to Allah (swt) to give you strenght in doin the hijab.

i echo Angel's comments

remember WHY you are wearing it, and i reccommend you read upon the Hijab, or you can ask some of the sisters such as MuslimSister or Yashmaki about the benefits of it - or how to learnt to adapt

im sure they'll help Smile

Definitely do some research on the hijab, if you just try wearing it without knowing much - ur gona find it hard to cope with what people will say - which really dont matter anyway

Quote:

[size=18]When I Covered My Head,I Opened My Mind[/size]
By Sharrifa Carlo

As a non-Muslim living in Western society, the idea of modesty was not exactly foremost in my mind. Like all other women of my generation and mind-set, I thought such ideas were antiquated and excessive. I felt pity for the poor Muslim woman who had to "wear all that junk," or "walk around in bed - sheets" as I used to call it.

[url= Revival[/url] article

The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.

Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.

ɐɥɐɥ

i no n i have done research n stuff n den i feel beter bt its only 4 a while u no..i mean IF i do take it off i will wear it one day inshallah wen im trully ready but i still dont no wether to take it off knowing i have the intention ov inshallah wearing it again or keep it on n feel uncomfortable..i jus dont want ppl judging me

who are people to judge?

if any of your friends dont support you, are they your true friends?

any1 who respects you will back you wearing it

it dont matter what people think, anything you do should be solely to please Allah SWT

im not a woman, but i can understand you not bieng ready - dont rush anythin, think it thru and remember 2 things

1 - Hijab is Fardh
2 - It will benefit you more than anything
3 - dont matter what people say

most people in this world are fake anyway, or shouldnt be taken too seriously

The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.

Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.

ɐɥɐɥ

so if i take it off wat wud u personally tink of me..but bear in mind iv only been out like 3 tyms since wearing the hijab

i dont think diffrently about sum1 who wears it or not

i obviously prefer it if they did, but a persons personality commands respect as well

ive seen good muslim women who dont wear it

and i KNOW dodgy stuff happenin, and i mean proper dodgy!, with some that do

The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.

Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.

ɐɥɐɥ

yes im really aware of the ppl dat do n do dodgy stuff lol..but i feel bad takin it off but den im not comfrtable jus yet n im worried ppl will tink bad n tink im a bad muslim n im trully not my hart n soul is pure n i blve im a gud person but wud this make me seem bad even thogh my intentions r gud

If you got doubts and your not comfortable then take it off, it dont make you a bad person, whats bad is if your only wearin it to please others and you dont really know the true meaning of wearin a hijab. Dont listen to what people say the majority are hypocrites anyway. If your worried bout what your family will say just explain it to them, i'm sure theyl understand, they wont think bad of you

No not the gum drop buttons! – Gingy

u no wat u rite..i mean if they wer my friends deyd understand rite..n i will inshallah wear it but i feel pressurized by dem to wear it do u no wat i mean n i no dats wrong dats why i tink IF i am gna take it off its beter to do it now dan u do it later rite?,,plz do tell me if im wrong..i wnt evry1s opinon on this cos its a realy big issue for me

Forget what everyone else thinks. They are not an issue.

The problem is that you don't feel able to continue wearing the hijab. That's what you should be worrying about.

Just try to remember the reasons why you chose to wear it in the first place. Re-assert those aims.

Regain the motivation.

"irfghan" wrote:
Forget what everyone else thinks. They are not an issue.

The problem is that you don't feel able to continue wearing the hijab. That's what you should be worrying about.

Just try to remember the reasons why you chose to wear it in the first place. Re-assert those aims.

Regain the motivation.

I think the advice Irf has given is really good, think bak intially why did you wear the hijab...

i gues it was dos 2 mates i mentiond above...der sa only ppl i have n if dey tink bad i aint gt no1 n dey wnt understnd..so u guys tell me wud u tink bad of me if i tuk it off..plz tell me ur honest opions

"muslim_princess" wrote:
i gues it was dos 2 mates i mentiond above...der sa only ppl i have n if dey tink bad i aint gt no1 n dey wnt understnd..so u guys tell me wud u tink bad of me if i tuk it off..plz tell me ur honest opions

You obviously dont seem ready but I personally wouldnt ever tel anyone to take their hijab off, thats really your call. Btw like a lot of ppl have been saying only Allah (swt) judges you forget what everyone else says

"muslim_princess" wrote:
but no one actualy telln wether its a gud idea 2 tke it off

Thats cuz thats not anyones call to make apart from yours.

"muslim_princess" wrote:
tru bt im still worried bout wat ppl will say...dats bad iznt it

People talk wether you decide to do it newly or wether you decide to take it off, end of day do what you feel is right.

Respected Muslima!

MashaALLAH. It is indeed a great thing that you are doing, particularly as you have mentioned you are alone in your family in having concern for this religious requirement.

Respected Muslima, I dont think i can give much good advice except to say that May ALLAH Rabbul Izzat adorn you with modesty, bashfulness and shyness. Ameen.

Respected Muslima acting on the shariah in this age is indeed a great test and trial, and for those who remain steadfast ALLAH promises the greatest of rewards. SUBHANALLAH! It is ALLAH's great favour to you that from your family He has chosen YOU to wear the hijab, now Shaytaan the Accursed will try to mislead you, but I am CONFIDENT in you, Respected Muslima. I am confident in your ability to overcome these whisperings, and if you need advice, like Hayder recommended I think Muhtarama Naj or Muhtarama Yashmaki will be very helpful, the other ladies aswell.

But dont think you alone, if you need to discuss private issues I AM SURE that the Believing Women mentioned and those not mentioned will be happy to help you.

Again, I congratulate you for this great act.

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

thank u all fro ur adivce n for being there in my tym of need...i thank Allah fro all your support

its ALWAYS hard to wear the hijaab when u first start

it gets easier tho

and its all about the attitude-most of the prettiest and most stylish girls I know are actually hijabi's!

"Med" wrote:
I think Muhtarama Naj or Muhtarama Yashmaki will be very helpful, the other ladies aswell.

But dont think you alone, if you need to discuss private issues I AM SURE that the Believing Women mentioned and those not mentioned will be happy to help you.

.

and why was I not mentioned? or angel or flower girl or seems etc etc

are we not "believing women"? Cray 2

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:
"Med" wrote:
I think Muhtarama Naj or Muhtarama Yashmaki will be very helpful, the other ladies aswell.

But dont think you alone, if you need to discuss private issues I AM SURE that the [b]Believing Women mentioned and those not mentioned [/b]will be happy to help you.

.

and why was I not mentioned? or angel or flower girl or seems etc etc

are we not "believing women"? Cray 2

it refers to ALL the believing women, I mentioned those two specifically because I am aware they do purdah and think they will specifically be able to give gud advice. This aint a big issue.

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

"Med" wrote:
I mentioned those two specifically because I am aware they do purdah .

the rest of the girls on this forum dont do "pardah"?

whatever u say :roll:

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:
"Med" wrote:
I mentioned those two specifically [u][b]because I am aware [/b][/u]they do purdah .

This aint the thread for me to get into this topic, this thread is an encouragement for the Respected Muslima.

But if you actually read and tried to understand what I wrote, things wouldnt be so confused for you. Bechari.

They are the women I am AWARE of who do purdah, I dont knw abt any1 else, I didnt say any1 else does or doesnt do it.

I have nothing further to add.

Peace, a word from a Lord Most Merciful.

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

RIIIGHT so ur AWARE that they do pardah but ur not aware about the rest of the girls in this forum?

very intresting :roll:

so since ur not AWARE of the rest-are u assuming that the rest are never in pardah?

bechara I hope I didnt confuse u :roll:

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:

very intresting

I dont know what it is that is being implied or insinuated but any normal person with an ounce of intelligence, common sense, and lateral thinking would have been able to work out that the two Ladies mentioned do purdah.

One mentioned explicitly in a number of posts, the other did so in a roundabout manner and lateral thinking and use of aql leads one to discover that she also does purdah.

But, I thank you for your concern. May ALLAH Rabbul Izzat guard us all from confusion and make us tread the Straight Path with Patience and Steadfastness ameen.

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

"Med" wrote:
[One mentioned explicitly in a number of posts, the other did so in a roundabout manner and lateral thinking and use of aql leads one to discover that she also does purdah.
.

so just cos the others NEVER mentioned that they do "pardah" does that mean that they don't ever do it?

any normal person with an ounce of intelligence, common sense, and lateral thinking would have been able to work out that, just cos a sister aint explicitly said that she DOES do pardah-this dont neccesarily mean that she dont

bechara are u still confused or do I need to break it down further?

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