Is love marriage haram?

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The Holy Prophet Sallallahu Alaihi Wa Sallam (Peace and Blessings be upon him) has reported to have said “The best solution for two people in love is marriage”.

they had a relatiomship before marriage, and still are

you basically gota do the htings the right way - and if u havnt before, then get doin it quickly

but it is possible to be in love before the actual ceremony, otherwise why are you marrying?

but Love is not what your all thinking - phsyical attraction followed by dating etc.

you needa get clued up on what love really is, the sufi way Dirol

The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.

Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.

ɐɥɐɥ

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:
[never met/spoke on the phoe etc but loved each others character

yea i agree with that one, its very easy to fall in love with ones charachter...without having seen or spoken via phone

"naj" wrote:
"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:
[never met/spoke on the phoe etc but loved each others character

yea i agree with that one, its very easy to fall in love with ones charachter...without having seen or spoken via phone

I agree. Infact I think the love based on looks is lust. The one based on nothing but ideas of the other person is true love. That kind of stuff happens rarely to very few people. Dunno how any1 cud walk away from it?

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

unless the portrayed character seems to be fake.

Or the portrayed character is not one h other person is looking for.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

looks like u talking from experience med LOL...

me and experience? Tobah Kar. If i got someone like that it wud be ideal, but who knows what the future holds innit

Ya ALLAH Madad.
Haq Chaar Yaar

yea who know bout future allahu alam....

"Darth V-Hayder" wrote:

you needa get clued up on what love really is, the sufi way Dirol

u tell em-there's too many dodgy people with their dodgy thoughts about "love marraige" :roll:

well all types of zeena is haram-eyes, ears etc b4 or after marriage... so if u commit zena in order to get to "fall in love" its haram... but after the nika is done the interactions between the couple become halal... bt the couple would have to rely on the mercy of Allah to have ther past haram forgiven.. they shoud do sincere tawba

Gossip is the most destructive thing in the universe...

Salam

I don't get the "illicit sex using the eyes" bit.

How can you bed a girl by just the eyes ?

Omrow

it doesn't have to be a releationship before the wedding. If you just speak to each other on a HALAL way. that is with mahram or through somebody else it would not be haram.

Otherwise How are you getting maried with someone you don't even know

miss

The problem facing many young muslims is they think

'how can we marry someone we dont know' ?

therefore they prefer love marriages

"Raf786" wrote:
The problem facing many young muslims is they think

'how can we marry someone we dont know' ?

therefore they prefer love marriages

Lol-I think there's something in between "blindly marrying a stranger that you don't know" and having a "haraam so called "love" relationship before marriage".

u get two extreme on this forum

the sad pathetic Romeo wannabe's

and them who advocate getting married to total strangers-people u dont know anything about

Islam is the middle way

so the answer is also the middle way

"MuslimSisLilSis" wrote:
u get two extreme on this forum

the sad pathetic Romeo wannabe's

on this forum?!

The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.

Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.

ɐɥɐɥ

hope love marriage is not haram i'm involved with a girl at the moment and hoping to marry her after i get my degree inshallah

rather die on my feet than live like a coward

"khans1" wrote:
hope love marriage is not haram i'm involved with a girl at the moment and hoping to marry her after i get my degree inshallah

Depends how you are "involved" with her.

doesn't mean i say involved i mean something illicit we are seeing each other with intention of marriage, shudn't always think the worst in people

rather die on my feet than live like a coward

"khans1" wrote:
doesn't mean i say involved i mean something illicit we are seeing each other with intention of marriage, shudn't always think the worst in people

Maybe i was just tryin to understand your situation and if you didnt want advice then i dont knw why u posted...just by sayin how were you involved with the girl didnt automatically mean i assumed it was illicit..ppl do come here to get advice if they aint aint clued up on islam...no need to get worked up.

"khans1" wrote:
doesn't mean i say involved i mean something illicit we are seeing each other with intention of marriage, shudn't always think the worst in people

seeing as in a group of people, or alone?

If alone, you are not allwed to...

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

true your right, i do believe in love marriage but its hard to know how to go about it in a proper halal way, even though i haven't touched this girl(if you know what i mean), i do realise its wrong of me to see her, so how does someone go about getting a balance in these type of situations?

rather die on my feet than live like a coward

You can meet the girl with family/friends around...you can go out together, but make sure sum1 is with you at all times, as it is said satan is the third company.

speak to the parents

but you should stop seeing one on one until its done n dusted

The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.

Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.

ɐɥɐɥ

like i sed i know what you are saying but unfortunately i am still gonna see this girl, as long as we dont indulge in certain desires i'm hoping it will work out, its not easy as you make it out i'm not in a financial position to marry and i want to get my degree first, and then inshallah i'll box it off, but trust me i know what you're saying

rather die on my feet than live like a coward

good look to ya bro

but jus remember, u do things according to how Allah SWT has prescribed, he will gaurentee things will work out

his gaurentee is far superior to yours or what your degree will give you or anyfin

The Lover is ever drunk with love;
He is free, he is mad,
He dances with ecstasy and delight.

Caught by our own thoughts,
We worry about every little thing,
But once we get drunk on that love,
Whatever will be, will be.

ɐɥɐɥ

"khans1" wrote:
like i sed i know what you are saying but unfortunately i am still gonna see this girl, as long as we dont indulge in certain desires i'm hoping it will work out, its not easy as you make it out i'm not in a financial position to marry and i want to get my degree first, and then inshallah i'll box it off, but trust me i know what you're saying

If its like that, hy not get married now?

Frankly I do not understand this whole 'we will get arried 1year/2years/243years down the line'
You don't know what situation yo will be in then. If you wanna marry her, marry her. If not, take your leave off her.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

from what i gather khan has found his partner which he thinks he loves (sissy),
since they are already going out it will be too difficult to tell them to stop seeing each other completely , however he should not rush it i have many freinds who got married to qiuck and now in hardship.

my advice to you bro make the commitment to her , stay as freinds/companions only, get her and yourself into islam but when you completed your degree and settled down , marry her .

however i discourage love marriages , we should find partners the halal way according to islam

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