Be Easy with The Lovers!

Look at this beautiful but sad poem as narrated by Imām al-Asma‘ī:

On the authority of al-Asma‘ī, that he said, “I was once walking in the village when I came across a stone. Someone had written on it:

 

أيا معشر العشاق بالله خبروا **** إذا حل عشق بالفتى كيف يصنع

O lovers! By Allah, tell me!
If a young man is overcome by love, what should he do?

 

So I wrote underneath it:

 

يداوي هواه ثم يكتم سره **** ويخشع في كل الأمور ويخضع

Let him treat his desire, then conceal his secret
And humble himself in every matter and submit (before his Lord)

 

I returned the next day and I found written underneath it:

 

فكيف يداوي والهوى قاتل الفتى **** وفي كل يوم قلبه يتقطع

But how can it be treated when that desire fights the man
And every day his heart is torn to pieces?!

 

So I wrote underneath it:

 

إذا لم يجد صبراً لكتمان سره **** فليس له شيء سوى الموت أنفع

If he is unable to be patient with concealing his secret
Then there is nothing for him except death that will benefit!

 

I then returned on the third day to find a young man lying dead at the stone. I said, ‘Lā hawla wa lā quwwata illā billāhil-‘Alī’l-‘Adhīm!’ and found that he had written before his death:

 

سمعنا , أطعنا , ثم متنا فبلغوا **** سلامي إلى من كان للوصل يمنع

We have heard and we have obeyed; now we have died so tell everyone
My salām to the one who prevented me from attaining her.

 

(Narrated by al-Abshīhī in al-Mustatrif, 1/410)

 

So dear brothers and sisters, next time we give advice to such people, just remember you’re dealing with hearts full of love not vessels full of stone.

Comments

I cant agree with that.

While emotions are hard to control, especially after the horse has bolted, it is not impossible.

I also have this idea that "unlimited love" is probably something that should be only for God and his messenger and when it is used for lesser beings, it often goes the way of tragedy.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

Exactly what aspect of it do you disagree with?

 

"who ever gives advice to a lover is mocked by passion". - Rumi 

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s.b.f wrote:
Exactly what aspect of it do you disagree with?

The whole romeo and juliet aspect of it.

Sometimes people need to be hit over the head.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

You wrote:
I also have this idea that "unlimited love" is probably something that should be only for God and his messenger and when it is used for lesser beings, it often goes the way of tragedy.

Agreed. Also that the "unlimited love" should be for the sake of Allah i.e. for your mother or husband etc, and not for someone who isnt permissible for you to love as of yet.

T.

erm... no.

Not even for parents of spouse or children.

The influence of that love when things go wrong can take you away from God.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.