VOICE OF THE MUSLIM YOUTH: Cousin Marriages

Cousin Marriage is a massive issue especially amongst Asian Muslims in the UK. It divides the Muslim community like nothing else. You're either dead against it because of cultural and medical reasons or its 'cousin marriage or no marriage' in your parents eyes. Mainly it's parents who favour it and the youth who oppose it. The Revival spoke to the Muslim Youth across the UK to get their views on cousin marriages:

Farzana Patel, 25, Bury

I am all for cousin marriages and I don’t see anything wrong with it. The scientific point that people who marry their cousins have defective children is a load of rubbish, because if it was true all or majority of disabled children would have parents who are cousins.

From a religious point of view there is no prohibition at all, so why should we prohibit it socially? Me and my partner are cousins and I found it an advantage that I knew him and his family, so he wasn’t a stranger and I felt comfortable.

Mohsin Shahid, 25, Oldham

Do I think one should marry their cousin? No. There are several reasons for this. Many people in our communities do not realise what the medical problems are, such as hereditary illnesses. Our parents deny this over and over again, claiming that ‘we didn’t have these problems and look at us - we’re cousins’. However, what they fail to see is that one, or both, of them might be carriers of illnesses or have a recessive gene which can lie dormant for generations, but then be passed onto a child or grandchild.

Another reason is that when you marry your cousins, you can’t be as open with them as you would with an ‘outsider’- you end up treating them like you do your sister! You may accept someone as a spouse when you marry them, but I don’t think you can enjoy your life in the same way as you would if you didn’t marry a cousin. Likewise, your wife also cannot be as open with you, i.e. she might not raise any issues concerning her in fear of upsetting your parents who are either her aunty or uncle.

If someone WANTS to marry their cousin then I think that’s fine. But forcing someone to marry their cousin is bad. My advice is that if someone is going to marry their cousin, they should at least have a medical checkup. Our people might see this as a bad thing, disrespectful even, but I think that this is a necessary precaution.

Sadia Hussain, 23, Bradford

In my family, many of our cousins have some sort of disability because not only are their parents first cousins, but the entire family is inter-related. When you confront them, they insist that they’re not disabled because of the close relations; it’s just ‘Allah’s Will’.

Then there’s the issue of divorce. If one couple get divorced it effects the entire family, not just the two particular individuals. I remember when my sister got divorced, it caused so much drama and half the family stopped talking to her and my parents.

I too got married ‘in the family’, but at least my husband and I are not first cousins; we’re distantly related, which is at least better.

Abdul Ali, 23, Crawley

I think it’s wrong because you’re brought up to treat them as though they’re your brothers/sisters. Plus if something goes wrong, it’s awkward when you see them afterwards, because they’re still part of your family.

Nadia Ali, 26, Derby

Many people in our communities marry their children to cousins for several reasons. One is that the Prophet (pbuh) married his daughter Fatima (ra) to HER cousin, i.e. his (pbuh) nephew. So if the prophet (pbuh) did it, then they believe that they should also. Our older generation think that if they have a daughter-in-law who is their niece, i.e. their brother or sister’s daughter, then she will look after them better when they get older than an unrelated daughter-in-law would.

I myself married a cousin and it did not work out. In my opinion most of the people I know that are against cousin marriages are those that have had bad experiences. I do know people though who HAPPILY went ‘back home’ to marry a cousin and masha’Allah they are very happily married. My own parents are first cousins and have a very happy and loving marriage.

Syma Ahmed 22, Huddersfield

Having a Pakistani background, I view the issue of 'cousin marriages' with cultural sensitivity and an open mind. My very own family has pursued this practice. Setting aside the moral disdain people generally have for cousin marriages, my problem with this practice derives from the physical and social consequences that I have come to witness.

Firstly, the increased risk of genetic disease has become widely acknowledged. In Britain we learnt this in GCSE science, where we found that when two carriers of a disease reproduce there is a good chance their offspring will become a sufferer; family members who share the same genes therefore, and are carriers, are more likely to reproduce a child with a genetic disease.

My biggest frustration is the unwillingness of many Pakistani people to even accept this as a possibility. Many parents believe these children would have been born with disorders anyway had their parents not been related. What is mind-boggling is the conviction of such statements. It seems to me that science is appreciated in the form of modern medicines, but becomes the enemy when it stands against cultural traditions. This is what I see as blissful ignorance. They refuse to acknowledge what is happening and carry on with these practices, blaming it on 'kismat' (destiny) when things go wrong.

"Why marry your cousin?" The basic answer is to uphold the hierarchy that predominates in Pakistani families of course, where the so-called elders rule with an iron fist. The idea of 'respecting your elders' to me is something that should be done and should be a way of life, though I have come to realise this phrase has been used as a tool of oppression.

Women are told to marry internally so that they will continue to 'belong' to the family. Their labour, their time, their space is owned by the family, and this continues when she marries her cousin. For the boy, mother-in-laws are instantly jealous of women who threaten to take away their sons.

These are generalisations and the issue is much too complicated to be conveyed here. However, what I will say is that in the C4 programme a father-in-law claimed he wanted his niece to marry his son because the bond of love is already there. I think it’s more the case that it’s hard in Britain to find a daughter-in-law who will do the constant bidding of the in-laws without it ending in divorce two years later.

Cousin marriages are not about two people simply coming together to get married; it’s a mechanism to uphold the family order, it’s about the paranoia of an outsider marrying into the family, but more importantly it’s a source of protection for certain members of the family who want the world to continue revolving around them.

Jamal Khan, 34, Sheffield

If cousin marriages, like any marriage, are done without force and with the full consent of the man and woman, and with the couple being compatible with each other, then I say 'why not'? My problem with cousin marriages is that most cousins who marry don't really have a choice; it's either marry this cousin or that cousin... not marry whoever is compatible with you, because marrying outside the family is seen as a crime.

My biggest issue with cousin marriages is that if it doesn't work out and the couple divorce then many, many families, and even generations, fall out for life, unlike in non-cousin marriages where only the couple or the two families are affected.

Haffsah Nazir, 22, Rochdale

To put it simply, I think marriages between cousins are wrong. Your cousins are your extended family, and should be treated like brothers and sisters, not potential life partners. Yet there seems to be a lasting tendency for parents to arrange cousin marriages whilst children are still toddlers.

More than anything else I believe it is emotional blackmail that ‘encourages’ young Muslims to marry within the family, and it’s a real shame that parents make their children feel as though they should ‘repay’ them through marriage.

I think it’s unfair that many young people are not given a degree of freedom and choice when choosing the person they are ultimately likely to spend the rest of their lives with. I also believe that on issues such as this, the generation gap is becoming much more apparent.

On top of this there are a whole load of medical factors that come into play with cousin marriages, and again I feel this is unfair on all persons involved, although I am ignorantly unaware of the facts around this.

Nazia Salim, 27, London

Fortunately growing up, I knew that cousin marriage would never be an issue in my life. My parents were not cousins, nor were any of my grandparents. I was also lucky enough not to have any male cousins near my age. I felt sorry for school friends that were expected to marry their cousins when they grew up.

I am happily married to someone who is not related to me at all. I’ve enjoyed getting to know my husband; where he went to university, what he got up to at school, the part time jobs he did growing up, and I’ve enjoyed getting to know his family members too. This information wouldn’t have been new to me if he was a cousin of mine.

My husband and I are very protective about our privacy and have a zero tolerance approach for any interference in our marriage. This is easily done, because I don’t have a double relationship with anyone in our family. This wouldn’t have been the case if I had married into the family. I also don’t have the fear that if (God forbid) my husband and I were to divorce, it would cause a huge family feud and a divide within the family.

My marriage is interesting and fun – that’s because even after two years of marriage I’m still getting to know my husband. I wouldn’t have had that level of mystery if I had married a cousin.

Yaqub Maqsood, 32, Leicester

I’m married to my cousin from Pakistan and it's been a happy 6 years so far alhamdulillah. I wasn’t forced into marriage, and got to know her well before we married. I have two sons now who are masha' Allah healthy and as active as ever. So I suppose I am proof that cousin marriages do and can work… the secret is to buy your own house and not let the ‘aunties’ interfere lol. The key is that you are compatible with each other and after that you put in 100% effort if you want your marriage to last forever and want to live happily ever after!

Most of my relatives have had cousin marriages and to be honest some haven’t worked out, but others are happy and dandy! It’s a shame that a lot of people don’t really get a choice when it comes to marrying their cousin and a lot are emotionally blackmailed! Also if (God forbid) it doesn’t work out then hundreds of families here and abroad completely fall out for years, if not life!

Even though I’m not against cousin marriages I wouldn’t want my kids to marry their cousins because of the reasons I’ve mentioned, but mainly because my grandparents, parents and me have all married first cousins, and the gene pool now will be so weak that I think my kids are at a ‘higher risk’ of having disabled children… and I don’t want to gamble with their lives. I'd rather they marry anyone compatible and Islamic and avoid all the cousin marriage politics altogether.

Shamila, 22, Shipley

I think the only people that want cousin marriages are the parents. No person in their right mind would happily marry their cousin if there wasn't some sort of family pressure. Our cousins are like brothers and sisters - particularly in close knit families.

Parents want their kids to marry their cousins for their own self-interests. They dress it up by saying it’s the Islamic thing to do when Islam does not encourage or discourage it.

Parents want their kids to marry cousins because they think that a related daughter-in-law is more likely to treat them well and look after them, regardless of whether she’s the right girl for their son, thereby acting in their own interests.

Generations of cousin marriages lead to a limited gene pool too, so scientifically it can't be a good thing either.

Comments

Belief is called belief because you believe in God without seeing, touching, hearing etc Him (swt).

You just go off the signs and then see what your heart says.

If/When you get married, make sure the person you get married to knows about such things before marriage, otherwise you may ruin the life of someone who truly does believe.

Just to recap if people took that DNA test I posted about then doctors would tell the parents that your child would be born disabled then they may not want to have that child, but I would go as far as not letting them have that child because its not fair on the child as its going to suffer all its life

You sound awful young.

There is not a DNA test that will uncover every single postential disease - there are specific tests which can test specific mutations and generally, common ones will be tested for. A DNA test does not guarantee that any baby will be free from any degenerative diseases. Nor does it test for deformities that are created in the womb and were not present when the testing was carried out.

There are no guarantees.

An example of that is in the video above - neither of that girl's parents were carriers of the disease, but the baby still got it.

Off Topic: There is an interesting film about a world where designer babies are the norm called Gattaca.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

You wrote:
Belief is called belief because you believe in God without seeing, touching, hearing etc Him (swt).

You just go off the signs and then see what your heart says.

If/When you get married, make sure the person you get married to knows about such things before marriage, otherwise you may ruin the life of someone who truly does believe.

Just to recap if people took that DNA test I posted about then doctors would tell the parents that your child would be born disabled then they may not want to have that child, but I would go as far as not letting them have that child because its not fair on the child as its going to suffer all its life

You sound awful young.

There is not a DNA test that will uncover every single postential disease - there are specific tests which can test specific mutations and generally, common ones will be tested for. A DNA test does not guarantee that any baby will be free from any degenerative diseases. Nor does it test for deformities that are created in the womb and were not present when the testing was carried out.

There are no guarantees.

An example of that is in the video above - neither of that girl's parents were carriers of the disease, but the baby still got it.

Off Topic: There is an interesting film about a world where designer babies are the norm called Gattaca.

You wrote:
You just go off the signs and then see what your heart says

The heart of any person only pumps blood

You wrote:
If/When you get married, make sure the person you get married to knows about such things before marriage, otherwise you may ruin the life of someone who truly does believe

Get married are you having a laugh Lol
If I get forced then thats another story altogether as this is the Paksitani way of doing things

You wrote:
There is not a DNA test that will uncover every single postential disease - there are specific tests which can test specific mutations and generally, common ones will be tested for. A DNA test does not guarantee that any baby will be free from any degenerative diseases. Nor does it test for deformities that are created in the womb and were not present when the testing was carried out.

There are no guarantees

But at least it would detect some things

I bet you You are not from Pakistan because you don't understand the whole problem
The musilm youth need to make a firm stand agents this sick and corrupt practice that has been going on for ages in the Muslim world and our parents don

My English is not very good

stopincest wrote:

I was born Muslim what can I do Cray 2

You're not *born* anything. If you believe in La Ilaha Ill Allah Muhammadur Rasool Allah (There is no god only Allah, Muhammad is the Rasool (Messenger) of Allah). Then you are a Muslim. Otherwise not.
Quote:
I not sure if there is a god or not I have not seen him I am sure You- You have not
seen him
I liked this this

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

well dude, the youth aint all paki. and thier parents arent forcing them all in forced cousin marriage. so chill. before abording topics likes these, you need to sort out your faith (if you want to) else you'll get nowhere.

so you dont believe in God?

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

Lilly wrote:
before abording topics likes these, you need to sort out your faith (if you want to) else you'll get nowhere.

I had forgotten to write that, was gna edit and say it, but saw you wrote it Smile

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

Lilly wrote:
well dude, the youth aint all paki. and thier parents arent forcing them all in forced cousin marriage. so chill. before abording topics likes these, you need to sort out your faith (if you want to) else you'll get nowhere.

so you dont believe in God?

Forced incestcousin marriage is a Muslim issue not only a Pakistani / Mirpuri one
Muslims have been doing it for ages Pakistani's and Mirpuri's are children of Hindu's and Sikhs that later converted to Islam to save there Mother, Daughters, Sisters from rape and there men from being killed in 1947 it is in this year when there were riots in Mirpur and the people that did not convert to Islam were killed

Have you seen God Lilly?

My English is not very good

stopincest wrote:

Forced incestcousin marriage is a Muslim issue not only a Pakistani / Mirpuri one
Muslims have been doing it for ages Pakistani's and Mirpuri's are children of Hindu's and Sikhs that later converted to Islam to save there Mother, Daughters, Sisters from rape and there men from being killed in 1947 it is in this year when there were riots in Mirpur and the people that did not convert to Islam were killed


LOL

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:
stopincest wrote:

Forced incestcousin marriage is a Muslim issue not only a Pakistani / Mirpuri one
Muslims have been doing it for ages Pakistani's and Mirpuri's are children of Hindu's and Sikhs that later converted to Islam to save there Mother, Daughters, Sisters from rape and there men from being killed in 1947 it is in this year when there were riots in Mirpur and the people that did not convert to Islam were killed


LOL

LOL :?:

Please read it

My English is not very good

Have you read my link?

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:
Have you read my link?

Yes, Did you read the link I gave you about the people of Mirpur

My English is not very good

Nah, getting tired of your repetitiveness.

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:
Nah, getting tired of your repetitiveness.

Please do read it

I did not write it Kirshan Lal Gupta who was born in Mirpur wrote it

My English is not very good

stopincest wrote:
Forced incestcousin marriage is a Muslim issue not only a Pakistani / Mirpuri one
Muslims have been doing it for ages Pakistani's and Mirpuri's are children of Hindu's and Sikhs that later converted to Islam to save there Mother, Daughters, Sisters from rape and there men from being killed in 1947 it is in this year when there were riots in Mirpur and the people that did not convert to Islam were killed

While many attrocities were commited in the partition of Inda/Pakistan and subsequent events, I don't see what this has to do with cousin marriages.

Do you just hate yourself? its ok, many camoflage this self hatred by looking up to scarface or alcapone or tupac or biggie etc.

"For too long, we have been a passively tolerant society, saying to our citizens 'as long as you obey the law, we will leave you alone'" - David Cameron, UK Prime Minister. 13 May 2015.

You wrote:
stopincest wrote:
Forced incestcousin marriage is a Muslim issue not only a Pakistani / Mirpuri one
Muslims have been doing it for ages Pakistani's and Mirpuri's are children of Hindu's and Sikhs that later converted to Islam to save there Mother, Daughters, Sisters from rape and there men from being killed in 1947 it is in this year when there were riots in Mirpur and the people that did not convert to Islam were killed

While many attrocities were commited in the partition of Inda/Pakistan and subsequent events, I don't see what this has to do with cousin marriages.

Do you just hate yourself? its ok, many camoflage this self hatred by looking up to scarface or alcapone or tupac or biggie etc.

The Hindu's and Sikhs dont marry there cousins as such so if these people stayed with there original religions then they would not have to incest marry there cousin thats what this has to do with it

I do not hate my self

You - are u from Pakistan?

My English is not very good

Ocean wrote:
Have you read a book called "A suitable boy" by any chance well it kind of elaborates on the contention of CASTE marriages, first family then broadening their horizons the go out of the family... It's a VERY good book! I'm 3/4 of the way through it!

I have not read that book but this CASTE thing is a Hindu tradition and why is it Popular among Pakistani/Mirpuri Muslims because they were Hindu and Sikh before conversion what this means is that they changed there religion but not there ways of life

My English is not very good

Ocean wrote:
Yes I know ALL Muslim men and women were once part of another faith, so I don't see where you're going with the argument? All Muslims, even AbuBakr (RA), Khadija (RA), you name em, they ALL converted... so what?

So what :?:
The blood stays the same the ancestors stay the same they have even kept there original caste names like

Chaudhry Hindu Jat, and Sikh Jat

Jogi changed to Muslim Faqir

Raja/Khatri/ Mian Rajput mostly Hindu of high caste

Sheikh/ But/Bhatt Dhar/Dar Hindu Brahmin of high caste

Sudra or Shudra Low caste Hindu

They should have left all that stuff when they converted to Islam

My English is not very good

daaaaaaaaaaaaaam...stopincest? you aint zdc by any chance are ya?

plus, i dont deserve to see God. the mountains turn to dust at the thought. you think i can do better?

shut up dude.

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

Lilly wrote:
daaaaaaaaaaaaaam...stopincest? you aint zdc by any chance are ya?

plus, i dont deserve to see God. the mountains turn to dust at the thought. you think i can do better?

shut up dude.

What have I said that is wrong :?:

My English is not very good

stopincest wrote:
Lilly wrote:
daaaaaaaaaaaaaam...stopincest? you aint zdc by any chance are ya?

plus, i dont deserve to see God. the mountains turn to dust at the thought. you think i can do better?

shut up dude.

What have I said that is wrong :?:

asked me if GOd exist and if ive seen Him. you dont sound genuine.

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

Lilly wrote:
stopincest wrote:
Lilly wrote:
daaaaaaaaaaaaaam...stopincest? you aint zdc by any chance are ya?

plus, i dont deserve to see God. the mountains turn to dust at the thought. you think i can do better?

shut up dude.

What have I said that is wrong :?:

asked me if GOd exist and if ive seen Him. you dont sound genuine.

I asked you a question
In what way do I not sound genuine

My English is not very good

because i answered your questions and you seem to have completely ignored that. you are just having fun speaking mirpur and going on and on and on and On and ON! about cousin marriage.

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

Lilly wrote:
because i answered your questions and you seem to have completely ignored that. you are just having fun speaking mirpur and going on and on and on and On and ON! about cousin marriage.

The reason I am going and on and on and on about cousin marriage is because I want it to stop its the young Muslim youth that can make this happen, the reason why I'm writing in Mirpuri is because they are the ones who do it the most in the UK and then the Urdu Speaking, Punjabi speaking, Sindhi speaking, Seraeki speaking Balochi speaking

I can also writing in Urdu or Punjabi if you want

Ok lets start with Urdu

In Urdu
Are Logo Apni Chcha zaat/Maamo Zaat/ Khali zaat Behan Ki saath Shaad Mat Karo

In Punjabi
Beghairat Deyo Putro Apni Behan De Naal Shaadi Na Karo

In Mirpuri / Pahari / Potwari
Apni Peno Naal Beya Na Karo Kuj te Sharm Karo Ohtaro Beemaryo Bacha Khayo

Hope you are happy now Lilly

My English is not very good

getting married to your chacha,mamu,behan is haram you idiot.

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:
getting married to your chacha,mamu,behan is haram you idiot.

I said chacha,mamo, Khala ZAAT BEHAN (IE YOUR COUSIN) look it up in any URDU Dictionary thats what it will say

I did not mean chacha,mamu,behan you idiot there is NO world for cousin in Urdu, Punjabi or Mirpuri so you call them your chacha,mamo, Khala ZAAT BEHAN ask any one who know the
language or if you know the word for cousin in Urdu, Punjabi or Mirpuri please let me know what it is

My English is not very good

stopincest wrote:
Lilly wrote:
because i answered your questions and you seem to have completely ignored that. you are just having fun speaking mirpur and going on and on and on and On and ON! about cousin marriage.

The reason I am going and on and on and on about cousin marriage is because I want it to stop its the young Muslim youth that can make this happen, the reason why I'm writing in Mirpuri is because they are the ones who do it the most in the UK and then the Urdu Speaking, Punjabi speaking, Sindhi speaking, Seraeki speaking Balochi speaking

no i aint happy, coz i dont speak mirpur, urdu, punjabi. But mashaaAllah at the fact that you can (Y)

you didnt say anything about why you're questioning Allah in such a *hmm* way?

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

stopincest wrote:
ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:
getting married to your chacha,mamu,behan is haram you idiot.

I said chacha,mamo, Khala ZAAT BEHAN (IE YOUR COUSIN) look it up in any URDU Dictionary thats what it will say

I did not mean chacha,mamu,behan you idiot there is NO world for cousin in Urdu, Punjabi or Mirpuri so you call them your chacha,mamo, Khala ZAAT BEHAN ask any one who know the
language or if you know the word for cousin in Urdu, Punjabi or Mirpuri please let me know what it is


LOL, my mistake then, although you still said sister in both punjabi n mirpuri when you could have said uncle/auntie's children...

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:
stopincest wrote:
ThE pOwEr Of SiLeNcE wrote:
getting married to your chacha,mamu,behan is haram you idiot.

I said chacha,mamo, Khala ZAAT BEHAN (IE YOUR COUSIN) look it up in any URDU Dictionary thats what it will say

I did not mean chacha,mamu,behan you idiot there is NO world for cousin in Urdu, Punjabi or Mirpuri so you call them your chacha,mamo, Khala ZAAT BEHAN ask any one who know the
language or if you know the word for cousin in Urdu, Punjabi or Mirpuri please let me know what it is


LOL, my mistake then, although you still said sister in both punjabi n mirpuri when you could have said uncle/auntie's children...

Ok, fair enough but having said that I treat my cousins like brother and sister

My English is not very good

Well don't, cuz you're a non-mahram to them.

"How many people find fault in what they're reading and the fault is in their own understanding" Al Mutanabbi

Lilly wrote:
stopincest wrote:
Lilly wrote:
because i answered your questions and you seem to have completely ignored that. you are just having fun speaking mirpur and going on and on and on and On and ON! about cousin marriage.

The reason I am going and on and on and on about cousin marriage is because I want it to stop its the young Muslim youth that can make this happen, the reason why I'm writing in Mirpuri is because they are the ones who do it the most in the UK and then the Urdu Speaking, Punjabi speaking, Sindhi speaking, Seraeki speaking Balochi speaking

no i aint happy, coz i dont speak mirpur, urdu, punjabi. But mashaaAllah at the fact that you can (Y)

you didnt say anything about why you're questioning Allah in such a *hmm* way?

I can teach you Urdu, Punjabi, Mirpuri that's no big deal and as far as questioning is concerned it increases a persons knowledge and I don't see anything wrong with it besides asking questions may stronger my Imaan in Islam and Allah which would be a good thing

My English is not very good

yo stopincest! i come with news. you know my cousin? the one who's also my uncle? coz his dad is my dad's uncle and his mum is my mum's sister. He's a good marriage prospect wouldnt you agree?

oh! and my brother can marry his sister! then our kids can get married! arent THAT going to be cute?!?! i think itttt issssssssssss. then its going to be all double relationships and names and mamous being chacha's and what not! soo cooly confusing!!
*consider email to be written to cousin abt marriage prospect* ahh..but ew gotta do this decent, so might as well just tell my mum to tell his mum to tell his dad.

what about my other cousin? my dad's brother's son? he's half italian, good marriage prospect too wouldnt you agree?

edit: i didnt see your reply. Your emaan is only going to get strengthen if your intention is pure. And im only willing to answer you seriously if your intention is pure and you actually want to learn, not make fun.

the 1000 dollar Q Is: Is your intention pure?

duh duh duh!

Is it true? Is it kind? Is it necessary?

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