1. This is an inability to connect with others in a deep and meaningful way.
2. Thus, although the person may be physically present, they are not emotionally present in the relationship.
3. In fact, sometimes the person will dissociate, or experience emotional numbing.
4. Emotional detachment makes it hard for the individual to empathize with others, to share their own feelings (which they may be unaware of), or to appear emotionally engaged in a conversation or relationship.
5. Often the person will intellectually analyze situations, but they will not be able to identify, understand or share any feelings.
6. In most cases, emotional detachment is related to a psychological trauma in the person’s past – something that occurred in a relationship with someone important to them. As a result of this trauma, the person (usually unconsciously) has chose to protect themselves from future pain by refusing to allow anything similar to happen again. Hence, they can’t relate on an emotional level.
Such thoughts are harmful to an individual. Because even a smile is a form of charity and The Prophet Muhammad (SAW) had a very soft heart. He treated people gently. I remember this story about how someone came to meet the Prophet and brough his son with him. The Prophet picked up the child and placed him on his lap and kiss his head. The man exclaimed that he had 10 other kids and he had never kissed any of them, sort of in a macho kind of way, to which the Prophet said something like 'Can I help it, if Allah (swt) has removed mercy from you heart. Those who dont show mercy will receive none in the end.'
Keep those hearts soft, keep your conduct gentle and forgive people so that Allah (swt) can forgive you.